An older freind of mine is 27, and she was diegnosed with breast cancer last year. They put her on treatments, and 4 months ago the cancer spread to both breasts and it was confermed that the cancer was getting worse. 2 weeks ago she went into surgery to have both breasts removed. She is feeling so depressed and i feel so bad for her, but i also feel so helpless. is there anything i can do for her?
2007-08-31 15:06:33 · 12 answers · asked by cupcake <3 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Visit often, bring flowers, balloons, whatever cheers her up. You don't need to spend a long time if she's not up to company. See if she needs anything from the store, or wants to go see a movie. Or bring over a movie and lots of buttery popcorn. Use your imagination. You know your friend--what kind of things does she do? Help her get going again. And make sure that dr. has her on prescription antidepressants. A huge medical incident like that would make anyone suicidal, and you don't want to lose your friend. Don't let her drive you away by her negative feelings. They're natural and she needs to spill them on someone. Keep visiting anyway. Maybe bring her a kitty or a puppy...
Remind her of all the things she still has to look forward to. All the things she had planned to do that really haven't changed that much because of this surgery.
Thank you for being such a good friend.
TX Mom
not an expert
2007-08-31 15:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being there for her and spend time with her. Don't wear any shirts that may reveal your breasts a lot and I am not saying that to be a smart @ $$. She is depressed because maybe she feels unattractive now. Just be there for her. She needs all the support she can get.
2007-08-31 15:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend and be there for her. Listen to her and hand her tissue if she crys. Also many insurances pay for breast implants for women who have had their breasts removed due to breast cancer. I had a coworker that went through the same thing.She just had breast implant surgery and she is doing well.
2007-08-31 15:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by divaat29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can totally relate to your question. my father had cancer too, but it was a different kind. but the main thing that you need to do is just be there for her. keep her hopes up, make her laugh, do fun stuff with her, like i said just be there. my parents are divorced so i didn't get to see a lot of my dad. but when we did get to see him, he just seemed to feel a little bit better, just the face that me and my brother josh was there made all the difference in the world. but this too shall pass. hope this helps. keep you and your friend heads up high, dream big, and reach for the stars. i know this probably a rough time for you but just hold on tight.
2007-08-31 16:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Christine T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a caring friend, being there for her would mean a lot to her. Your presence and your caring gestures would give her emotional support and I believe that it would also relieve her from some of the physical pain that she is going through. Encourage her whenever you are with her. Do not brood over her condition, even when is complaining to you. Instead, give her loving and caring words.
2007-08-31 15:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that, when you feel so helpless. The best thing you can do is just be there for her, you don't have to give her any advice or anything, just be there and listen. Cheer her up! Maybe bring a few friends of hers in or something.
2007-08-31 15:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes be her friend you should have a girls day with her like do eachothers nails, hair,facials you know stuff like that.
when my aunt is depressed this helps alot. you know just to know that someone cares...good luck
2007-08-31 15:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jennah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a survivor and that is the main thing. Tell her that you will be there for her no matter what.
2007-08-31 15:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend. Be sure to stay by her and let her know you aren't going anywhere!
2007-08-31 15:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Hallie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can just continue to be her friend ... and be there for her ... sometimes just being there is all someone needs !
2007-08-31 15:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Seadragonesss 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋