A Curious Question About Twins???

Question

Ok so my brother was a twein but his twin died in utero when my mom was 5months pregnant it was only when she went for her checkup the following 2 weeks that she found out she still had another baby inside her. My question is you know how twins share that special bond between them well if a twin dies in utero do you think they still feel that twin or like a part of them is missing?
I've tried asking my brother but he is very closed and won't talk about it so i won't press the issue. I was just wondering, they say that some twins are telepathetic but has there ever been studies on twins to show how twins are if one of the twins dies.
Any answers or links would be awesome!

Answer 1

No links but I have an uncle who had a twin that died in utero. My grandma never told him until he mentioned that he used have dreams where he was looking at himself. He also always said he always felt like he was "two people"...like a parallel reality thing. Eventually, I think about 7 years ago she told him that he might have had a reason for feeling like he did and shared the story. It kind of freaked us all out because he never new.

Elvis had a twin that died at birth and he claims to have had a connection and a feeling of loss all his life. That may have been because he knew about the twin...but my uncle's story is different. He didn't know he had a twin for more than 40 years. He's also a real loner and said that he always felt more "alone" than his siblings, even though he came from a family of 6 kids.

I think if they live together for a reasonable time in the womb before the other twin dies, they can't help but be connected. They just don't "remember", after birth.

Answer 2

It is believed that many people had fraternal twins at conception, but one died or didn't develop. My twins were close from the time they were born, so I think one would have missed the other, maybe without even knowing what she was missing. There are many people who feel something is missing in their lives, so maybe they are 1/2 of a set.

Answer 3

im a twin and i immediately know when something is wrong. we feel complete with each other - the qualities i lack she has and vice versa. we are soulmates! i think he will feel something but wont be able to tell it because he is neither a conscious twin as his bond ended with the death of his twin or a singleton because he shared a brief bond with his twin. i dont think there will be any tests as there could never be a proven link as one twin has died early on- its like asking if ghosts exist.

twins must feel absolutely devestated at the death of the other. i dont know how i'll cope if she dies before me. i mean we both wish that we each go first so we never have to experience life without each other. i know i'll have to be sedated once i know she's gone as i'll fall to bits. i think my urge would be to join her but we both dont believe in suicide.

Answer 4

That emptiness might be more prevalent if the death occurred at a later date in life, but, and I know this sounds insensitive, if he wasn't told about the death of his brother at 5 weeks, he'd have never known.
It is a thought provoking question, though.

Answer 5

im really not sure if they would feel as if a part of them is missing, since they've like never really met them or anything u know, but not all twins have like a special bond. i have a twin. and i hate him more then anyone else i've ever met.

Answer 6

check this out....i donno if it will help with you answer but it can give you some insight

http://www.perinatology.com/ultrasound/twindemise.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vanishing_twin

http://twinlesstwins.org/InTheNews/TogetherAtBirthTornApartAtDeath/tabid/264/Default.aspx