Can hate as an emotion be self harming?
2007-08-31 11:29:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes Robert, it can -- Hate stems from Anger -- be it real or imagined. It is one of the most powerful, and as such, one of the most destructive of the emotions -- only love comes close to the strength of hate. Hate consumes you (I think someone else also said that here) & it's true, the hate can change your focus, change your life, change your attitude towards others (even innocent people that had nothing to do with the original problem can & will get hurt) and it can change your health -- all for the worst. Let it go if you can and possibly find a way to simply "forgive and forget" this person. If that's not possible, then lose the hate moniker & let it (the emotion) cool down to just "despise" him/her. I wish you much luck -- I know it's hard, because I've been there too! Once you realize you are hurting more than yourself by feeding this hate, then & only then will you be able to let it go. Peace!
2007-08-31 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it ultimately depends on why you hate someone, if you hate someone because they have done something terrible to you or your loved ones then I think it is a natural emotion to feel, if however you are a hateful person and you hate people for general reasons then it can cause you to be a very bitter and unhappy person.
I am quite a bitter person, although I don't like to admit it and I find it easy to take a disliking to people if they aren't particularly nice or my kind of person, bitterness is a nasty thing though and you end up being the only one that misses out as it put limitations on you and the opportunities that you are handed.
I am a walking contradiction really as I am against war and I want peace but I am deep down a tormented person with issues. I hate myself.
2007-08-31 18:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not 'wrong,' but not 'right' either.
It's a very child-like area of emotion, often intensely self centred and depending upon the level or degree of the emotion, it can often be blinding to both the realities and to the truth ~ as what 'Hatred sees is all that it sees.' A bit like a horse that wears blinkers [ or someone wearing sunglasses at night ~ looks cool, but is stupid ].
'Self harming'! Personally, yes, I believe so, depending on the degree of the intensity of the emotion ~ which I believe can feed backwards ....something like a corrosive acid.
Sash.
2007-08-31 20:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no it's not wrong to f**king hate someone. Although at times it can be self harming, depending how much you hate the person, and how far you are willing to take your hatred for them. Some people spend their whole lives hating people and it affects them so bad that they put most their energy in trying to ruin those people that they hate. It's okay to hate, just don't spend all your time and energy on them. Just hate them and move on with your life. If you spend all your time trying to ruin another person you often lose sight of what is important which is family and your friends.
2007-08-31 18:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by laranita82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to F**king hate someone but as time went on I got over it but I still dislike this person to this very day. I just don't let it get to me like I use to. It can be harming to yourself and cause you unnecessary stress. If everyone acted out on that emotion there would be a lot of people in jail right now, including me. LOL : ) Just let it roll off your shoulders.
2007-08-31 22:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, there are millions of inconsiderate people who one cannot help but despise.
What is wrong is to brood upon it and let these kind of people get to you or dominate your thoughts in any way shape or form. These are the kind of people who couldn't care less about any aspect of you, paying them any consideration or bother is a terrible idea.
Like someone said above, the idea that you need to love everyone deep down inside is some silly religious idea. I think that you should show consideration in your day to day affairs to even those who don't deserve it since the "do unto to others and you'd have done to you" is a good maxim by which to live. But at the same time, these are the people whom you really ought to hang out to dry in any situation which requires you to go out of your way.
So all in all, hating someone certainly isn't bad, but letting that hate get into your head and waste your thoughts is.
2007-08-31 18:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! So stop. Why do really hate this person? Do you hate them for what they did to you or do you hate yourself for what you let them do to you? You are harming yourself not only emotionally but it will eventually affect you physically. There is nothing you can do to change what happened, but you could learn from the experience and move on!
2007-09-01 04:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by djdundalk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to hate someone. But yes, it could be self harming if you're obsessed about it.
2007-08-31 18:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its very self destructive to 'hate' someone. Hate is a very strong word and is often wilfully misused.
Dislike is petty but generally harmless.
To hate someone is to say you wish them harm or even death. It poisons inside and makes you bitter, twisted and incapable of love.
2007-08-31 19:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by cara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, your stress hormones could be making your system really toxic. Long term burnout or a serious violent issue could happen- sometimes to someone who doesn't deserve it could be the result. Try the Samaritans or your doctor, talk to friends etc. Take a break, but really give it up even if it isn't your fault you need to get away from it.
2007-08-31 18:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋