Love or Honesty...which is better...?

Answer 1

Someone showed me this trick, I've never been first! Oh well..

I don't believe you can have love without honesty. I'd want honesty even without love. So....?

Edit: I guess I deserved that. But just for the heck of it, I thought I'd try it. SORRY. If you were dying in 104 degrees & A/c busted, you might resort to anything! I was very BAD. I apologize.

Answer 2

A torturer might be very honest to the people he tortured.

While someone might lie in order to prevent the person he loved from getting hurt.

I'm not much into S & M, so love is better. Unless of course it's a person giving tough 'love' by hurting the people he/she 'loves', if that's the case, honesty is better.


Of course, being honest and telling the whole real truth are two different things.

A regular person being honest might not be telling the whole real truth.

The 'truth' hurts, but the whole real truth doesn't hurt, as matter in fact the whole truth is almost the same as love.

However, the whole real truth can't be known to a mortal, only God know the whole real truth.

So God being honest is pretty much the same as love, which render the whole is love or honesty question irrelevant, at least for God.

Answer 3

In life you have to sometimes choose between the two if the situation so demands. I mostly make the choice depending on how the other person will take it. I will give you two scenarios:

First, When my father was in the last stage of prostate cancer, once while discussing things one of my sisters blurted out to him that he will never be able to do things which he still thinks of doing. We all were aghast and stunned and angry with her for being so brutally honest with Dad. She loved him equally but is always blunt. I don't know how he took it (he is no more) for he never showed his true feeling about his impending demise lest we should be hurt.

Second, someone I consider my soul-mate hid the fact that he had brain tumour to keep me from the agony but when he died I was devastated and was very very angry with him for not being honest. I feel I could have done so much for him or not done the things I do when angry for I can be truly nasty when provoked. I am left with a guilt that refuses to go and I ask for his forgiveness with every breath.

Now, decide which is better--love or honesty?

Answer 4

Love is the best thing in life...love is what created honesty...however, being honest does not always pay [but I don't want to write an essay on that side of the coin]. I have read many spiritual books [not religious, per say] that states LOVE IS THE ANSWER...if you feel in your heart that being honest with someone would create a disaster, then your love inside would tell you NOT be honest.

Answer 5

I agree with Bozema, you really can't have one without the other. The reason to be honest (without being hurtful; tact and diplomacy do not negate honesty) is a selfish one. I tell my students this anecdote: From the time I was a small child, my parents would tell me that when we ate my Aunt's awful vulcanized thanksgiving turkey, we had to take a bite and say it was delicious, otherwise we'd hurt her feelings. Years have gone by and my Aunt is in her late 80s. Thus it was that a few years ago, I started making the Thanksgiving Turkey. My aunt took a bite, and told me it was delicious. There was no way I could believe what she told me. I had lied to her too often for me to trust her statement. If you are not honest, you cannot trust that others will be honest. If you cannot trust, you cannot truly love.

Answer 6

The easy way is to be honest...the hard way is to love above anything and everything. Love is to suffer. Love is to give your life for other. Love is humble.
Which is better... Lets say you have a friend that is a drug addict: You say to him that he is a loser or you give him your time and compassion and help him change. The first one is honesty, the second one is Love.

Answer 7

Love isn't always grand and nor is Honesty ethier to be honest.
I'd say Honesty is better though in certain circumstances.

Answer 8

Ummm, Thats kind of hard, Because Love and honesty go perfect together for me. Because Love is always honest...Theres no Love thats not honest. Even tho Hoesty hurts it's alwaysbest to hear, Rather than waiting til later, Not not oly hear it, But to be hurt even worse in the end.

Answer 9

I would go for honesty any time of the day

Answer 10

Hi,
Not sure I can give a really thoughtful answer because I'm tired now but my first impression: neither. I can see them balancing on a scale, love on one side, honesty on the other, and they're completely balanced. Both are as important as the other to me. Both are very very important.
Polly