Do you prefer complete honesty from your man about your appearance, or do you prefer him to tell you that you're completely gorgeous always regardless?
2007-08-31 10:58:35 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once I told my lady that a white blouse looked great on her, then when she met her girlfriends they all told her it was horrible and she looked fat.
2007-08-31 11:08:46 · update #1
ALWAYS TELL HER SHE LOOKS GOOD, unless something is god-awful!! It's her girlfriends job to be truthful, they don't have to live with her or sleep with her!!
2007-08-31 11:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by M. Rod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty
2007-08-31 12:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Page 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a blouse looks horrible on her, you shouldn't say that it looks great. You can always say that you prefer some other one. That is the best and the most polite way of getting out of the situation, where you don't want to hurt other person's feelings.
If a blouse looks okay but not great, you can say "it's not my favorite but..." That's what my fiance does :)
2007-08-31 11:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer constructive honesty. I would prefer "Honey that dress is a little short" instead of "So, you want the whole world to see your butt?" Or, "Your lipstick is smeared" as opposed to
"You look like a clown"
I never want to hear the disgust in his voice when I put on a pair of shorts. And he had better never, ever, compare me to any other woman!!! I can take a truthful comment about an outfit not looking good on me, but it better be done with diplomacy.
Peace
2007-08-31 11:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I would prefer complete honesty about everything. But if its about something your partner is wearing, do it tactfully,and before you go somewhere,not once your already out at some function and she doesnt have the option to change if she wishes to. Also,just because you dont like something,dont expect her not to wear it,although most women do like to wear what we know our partners will like,as long as we like it also. But while you're telling her about something you dont like on her,tell her at the same time how beautiful she looks in something else. You can be honest without being hurtful,or insulting.
2007-08-31 11:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer honesty but in a diplomatic way. Don't say I look fat in that, say it doesn't flatter me. Or offer a suggestion of something that you know looks better. Try to mix positive with negative...example (That skirt doesn't flatter you, but that blouse looks great on you.)
2007-08-31 11:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Linda K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Complete honesty, and if you have a suggestion or preference say so. Personally, I would consider my husband's opinion more important than a bunch of catty girl friends.
2007-08-31 12:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want my husband to tell me. Flat out. But then I dont struggle with esteem issues and Im pretty critical of myself so if he says something, I've probably already noticed it myself. The only thing I'd get pissed about is if he wants to complain but not help me fix it. If Im getting thick in the waist then watch the kids so I can go to the gym or go with me or get me a home system.
Lying to each other is pretty lame. If you cant take the truth from your spouse, who else do you think is going to care enough about you to say it?
2007-08-31 11:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say that I want complete honesty.. .but if I am going to be honest myself, then I will have to admit that most women, without meaning to, prefer to hear an appraising comment rather than a negative one.
I have caught myself getting upset after having asked my husband if something suites me, and having gotten a... "hmmm... so and so".
The poor man then says... "why did you ask me if you didn't want my reply??"
We women are a strange lot.
2007-08-31 11:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Fellina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want honesty, because i get tired of hearing "you look great in anything" when i have something on my mind. I have had 3 kids, and no longer have the perfect body i used to have, so when i am looking at clothes, i want to hear tactful honesty. so instead of those pants make you look fat, i want to hear those pants really dont flatter your figure at all.
its okay for him to tell me i look beautiful, but i want honesty when i am trying something on, whether it is out of my closet or something new at the store.
2007-08-31 11:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate complete honesty from my man. If I am wearing something that he does not like, or that does not look good on me, I expect him to tell me. He must be tactful and tasteful about it though.
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2007-08-31 12:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋