My friend wont let me help her. She acts like I'm the one causing it. Should I talk to her boyfriend since he is also my friend?
2007-08-31 10:45:34 · 34 answers · asked by Caslynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO! Stay out of it, its not your relationship and you have already been asked not to interfere. If you do, and things dont work out, you will loose 2 friends. Just be happy that you are not being put in the middle and forced to choose sides because you have a friendship with both parties.
2007-08-31 10:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by pinktoenails 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is politely telling you to stay out of it. And that is exactly what you should do. No, do not go behind her back and speak to her bf. Then she would feel betrayed and will find it hard to trust you again. You could be adding to her problems by trying to help. And that could be what she is referring to when she acted like you are causing problems. With some people, when other butt in, it only causes more trouble and makes things more complicated between the couple. The best thing for you to do is stay out of it and just let her know that you are there for her if she needs you but you will not butt into what she doesn not want you to.
2007-08-31 10:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to you best friend, but do not take sides. If they should get back together YOU will be the one left out for showing faults in the other person.
2007-08-31 10:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by princess jo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business...let them battle out their own drama...its a lose-lose situaiton for you in the end. in other words it's a catch 22 and what will happen is you will lose no matter what. best thing to do is support your friend and be there for her without taking sides or pressuring her any which way.
good luck...
to you & your friend <3
2007-08-31 10:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by dEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont talk to the boyfriend that will make more trouble just stand off to the side but be there for her also so she doesnt feel like she is loosing you
2007-08-31 10:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Marcie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing. It's their relationship and their business. Just make sure both know you're available to listen if they ever feel like talking about anything (including, of course, the relationship). God bless.
2007-08-31 10:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a hard choice. You could talk to her boyfriend, but if he tells her that you mentioned anything, she could get angry at you for interfereing.
Or of course, you could get out the popcorn, sit back and enjoy. (It's just an expression, don't be THAT harsh.
2007-08-31 10:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!! ...let me "rephrase that"....NO NO NO NO NO!!!
Now, did I make myself *clear*?
STAY OUT OF IT!!!! Going to the boyfriend is just muddying the waters and you are going to lose BOTH of them as friends if you don't keep your big, fat nose out of their romance!!!!
Really, truly....if they *are* your friends, let them handle their romance because if you get in the middle of it, you probably will lose your friends...don't do that, please. Just let 'em either work it out or break up.
It's not any of your business. Keep it that way, for all three of your sakes.
2007-08-31 10:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just stay out of it, they don't need a third party involved in their relationship. If she wants help she'll ask for it. DO NOT talk to her bf about it!!
2007-08-31 10:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you is keep out of it. Your friend has already shown you she does not want interference. You're about to mess up a friendship if you persist.
2007-08-31 10:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋