A lot of women always have to be surrounded by at least one friend, they don't go out to the movies by themselves even if nobody wants to watch a certain movie with them and end up missing it, or go out and get a beer, they generally don't go out to grab a bite by themselves, are we that insecure? Its not like we can't take care of ourselves, or live in such an unsafe country where we may get kidnapped or shot. Should we be more independent?
Yesterday I went out to eat at a restaurant by myself and felt like everyone was looking at me in pity. I just help my head up and amused myself with thoughts, but couldn't help and wonder about the situation........
And in the past when I've gone out to get a beer at my local bar, I've felt like I have the words "I'm easy" on my forehead...... just awful, 'cause I sincerely do enjoy my own company!
2007-08-31 09:56:11 · 16 answers · asked by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's just not a social norm. That's all.
2007-09-08 02:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by saloon girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. In the past, I often traveled alone to see the country and write about it. I remember one trip in particular that I took out west.Every where that I stopped to see the sights, the men would look at me with curiosity, (what was I doing alone) and the women would look at me suspiciously, (what are you doing here...our men are taken)
I learned to just ignore it and made friends anyway.
As a society, we have just become conditioned to seeing families, couples or just men alone, out and about. But a woman alone has always drawn interest, suspicion, a need to protect, outright dislike, or just curiosity. You would think that in our modern times we would be beyond this, but that will probably never happen.
So enjoy your own company and don't let what others think stop you from doing so. You do want to exercise caution when going alone to a bar. Men are still immature enough to think that a woman alone in a bar must be, selling, looking for it, or just tired of hubby at home and out for some fun. The ironic thing is... isn't that what women think about a single man going out to the bar alone...
2007-08-31 17:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of women that don't enjoy eating by themselves and the one thing isn't too good if you are at least in twos thee won't be problems there are facts taht men sometimes will try and be funny and its not so funny with one woman around. there are times when its dark where they have to park and its not good there are guys out there all the time which will try and take them over and some of them cant really defend themselves too much its got a lot of problems but some of us can but no one likes to be alone you are just one of the very few enjoy it.
2007-09-07 23:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your picture is disturbing and i think you r thinking way to deep into things and maybe it was your imagination that everybody was looking at you or maybe you had something in your teeth. its not that people r insecure its that they just want somebody to talk to along the day and i would look funny at someone who was full blown having a conversation with themselves and its just more memorable to have a friend with you when you go to the mall and do something together and make memories like trying on crazy outfits you just can't try on crazy outfits by yourself and still laugh
2007-09-08 15:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by ~*bRoWn EyEd BoNiTa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the old double standard: guy's can go out to have a beer because it's manly... but when a girl goes out to a bar by herself to have a beer ,she's out looking for it, whatever your definition of it is.
2007-08-31 17:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by jazzman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great that you're not limiting your entertainment because others choose not to go with you. Your thoughts are creating the feelings that others are watching you or "I'm easy". Change your thoughts and your feelings will follow. You have every right to be where you are; to enjoy it.
2007-09-08 16:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by I Write4u2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have went out to eat and to bars by myself- I am comfortable with myself I dont need to have anyone with me. I like to take myself out to a nice dinner- treat myself to a walk on the river front- walking thru the farmers markets-shopping alone. Dont get me wrong I like to hang out with friends but sometime i just need me time- and I do enjoy it..........
2007-08-31 17:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by terry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i do it all the time.i go out and eat by myself i go get a glass of wine by myself.im always by myself and tomorrow im going to the movies by myself after work of course.im too independent and strong it scares guys to death honey.do i get stares ? all the time and once in a while somone will have enogh guts to walk up to me and ask me why im by myself and why havent i got married yet? lolol u get use to it after a while.i'll be by myself befor i live in HELL.
2007-09-08 01:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by spoodleroo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
society had trained us to suck ,,,,, thank you for going out there like a brave soldier ,, single women are just easier to approach you don't have easy written on your forehead ... make sure not to entertain the losers though . as in don't feed the animals
2007-09-08 09:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by cwoodups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. You feel uncomfortable alone.
Take a book, (and read it) to the restaurant or bar, and people will assume you want to be alone.
2007-08-31 17:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by bebop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it feels weird to be just alone and do nothing while wait. Plus there's a fear that somebody might grab you from the dark corners and kill you O.o
2007-09-08 02:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋