What is it with women and wanting to get married??

Question

I mean marriage is just a ring and a piece of paper. So why is it so important for women to tie the knot!

Is it so that when you get a divorce in two years they can take half of your savings and probably get to keep the house you lived in before you even met them!

or is it to do with wanting to feel secure that your not going to run of with someone younger and better looking and if you do, then they know they can still get their hands on half of whats in your bank account!??

or sensibly why is it ? i just mocked marriage there, but why is it?? whats so important about it

thanks

My problem with commiting is i dont want to get stuck with some nagging old cow for the rest of my life! id rather have a german sheppard called fido!

I find some women have answered this question in a way like i have offended them? is this coz they are desperate to marry? some of the answers are very informative some one even made me laugh!

Answer 1

I am a woman and I never wanted to get married anytime earlier than 30. I never dreamed about my wedding dress, the groom, the church and any of that since I was 5 as some girls do. LOL

However, life is full of surprises and a year ago I met a guy who changed all of that. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, we got engaged last year but I still haven't thought of the dress or anything else because all those things don't matter to me.

So saying that all women want to get married is not correct. Some do, some don't and some of us want to marry a particular person, not a marriage itself! ;)

Stay away from cows!!! There are bunch of cool girls out there. You might be mixing with the wrong crowd. And just try to live with a girl without getting married and you will see all her flaws and whether she is a cow. You don't need to get married to find that out.

Answer 2

Most girls want to be a princess and live with their prince happily ever after (even if they're embarrassed to admit that). That's where the idea of marriage starts, in early childhood reading Cinderella. Think about how much more time women have had to dream about love and marriage then guys.

Women are more into relationships and connections than men and what is the ultimate commitment to a relationship? Marriage.

I don't know any woman that got married because they knew the marriage would fail and they could take half his money.

Marriage is not a sense of security that your partner will not run off with someone else. That is a person breaking a promise (and that should tell you enough about their character).

Every person has the choice to be married or remain single. If you conflict on this with your partner, you need to find a new partner.

Answer 3

If it really IS "just" a ring and a piece of paper, then why NOT? Obviously, there's much more to marriage than a ring and a piece of paper - if there wasn't, you would not have even asked this question. Marriage is a social concept, and as such it only makes sense in the context of the society you live in. Society has certain expectations and responsibilities that it imposes on its members - it's inevitable. Socially, marriage is a way to announce your relationship status in a clear and concise way. Different people have different personal expectations of marriage, and the personal meaning of it varies from person to person. But at the end, IMO, it all comes down to our interface with the society as a whole, in wanting to be accepted and viewed a certain way. Everything you do (or don't do) says something about you; you can choose to play by the rules, or to defy the rules - it is completely up to you. But the rules are there, like it or not.

Answer 4

Marriage is not "just" a piece of paper and a ring. It is a lifelong committment between two people who love each other very much.

What's important about it is that it feels good to have a bond with someone. To find that "special" someone that makes you feel as if you are the most important person in the world.

Marriage is about committment, being in love, enjoying your spouse's company and having someone to share the important moments of your life with.

I have been happily married for 11 years and I have seen a lot of my friends marriages come and go. It's true that divorce is at an all time high, but that doesn't mean that the concept of "Marriage" is the problem. It means that people are too willing to make a committment that they don't mean.

Answer 5

What's so important is its a committment. An emotional one, a physical one and a financial one. My bloke says he loves me more than anything and wants to spend his life with me. So everything is joint - we share the childcare, the housework, the finances etc. He has a ring on his finger to show other women he is taken. He acts like a married man - no sleeping around. Therefore I assume that he also wants to make provision for me and our kids when he dies as well as when hes alive (if he goes first) so he would marry me, that way - I am inherit his goods etc so I dont have the trauma of probate straight after a funeral, or his family just coming taking the house etc. It is easier from a legal point of view when it comes to death (Im assuming we stay together til death us do part). And the bit of paper - well that proves to the world that i am the one he loves, cares about, provides for, and will be faithful to. And vice versa. And I dont know many women who marry with the intention of divorcing in a couple of years.

Answer 6

Woman love stabiltiy and security and commentment. Not all women but most. To be honest most women would prefer to be married before they have children. What is wrong with that. In a way it is part of what femininity is.

I am not saying all women should or have to want this but there is nothing wrong with those who do.

Marriage is an umbrella that covers these things. Marriage is an honorable thing. It is not easy. Any one who thinks it is has illusions. Most girls usually have a fantasy of living happy ever after with prince charming.

I do not understand the concept that people believe most women want to get married for money. The truth is that women usually have more money women their single or have no kids. Also a lot of women do earn more money then their husbands. So I think it is disrespectful think women marry for money

Being a mother and a wife is a life of giving and sacrificing you dreams to build up your family many times. Most women are givers.

If a woman is a gold digger she would digg for gold wheither she is single or married.

Answer 7

Marriage is a wonderful thing. It sounds to me like your parents were divorced or never together, so you are bitter towards the idea.

Unfortunately a lot of people nowadays get married for the wrong reasons, or they have the wrong idea of what marriage is about. Marriage will not "fix" your problems, nor will it ever be perfect. It requires work, communication, committment and selflessness.

Usually people marry because they are tired of just thinking as "one" and want to share their lives with someone they love. You have someone there who loves you for who you are and will always be there for you, and vice versa. Then, eventually, you have children because you want an outward symbol of your love, and you want to create a family.

Answer 8

I felt the same way as you do now and avoided marriage - but then I met my partner and it was him who pushed the marriage thing, not me. I get the point of it now. Its a surefire way of saying to the world that you are a couple and not to mess with it. It has provided our children with a solid basis for their lives and its made me feel very loved and secure - its a nightmare sometimes but the good bits are fantastic and in the end, it has to be about your spouse - who that person is. I don't believe all women want to get married nowadays. I think they like weddings but not marriages!

Answer 9

because women need security its their natural instinct. im a woman and i would not feel comfortable taking half of someones savings or half the house they had before they met me when only been together couple of years, i would only want half of what we had built up together or what i had contributed.

why dont u want to commit to someone? are you leaving your options open to run off with someone else when ur bored. your argument about not wanting to get married will be worthless soon anyway as they are bringing in laws to say that if u live together u will have the same rights as married couples ie finance and property rights, so to be sure no one gets their hands on your assets u better just stick to dating

Answer 10

There's more to marriage than just a ring and a piece of paper-it's called 'commitment'. Anybody can date, but when you find someone you truly love and want to be with, you want that person all to yourself. It's like finding the perfect team mate, and it's just you and them against the world. Not every woman is after half your stuff-who says your stuff is so great anyway? Most people just don't want to go through life alone all the time. As for money, please- there is nothing in this world that a man can do for a woman that she and her ten fingers can't do for herself. You should be so lucky to find someone who wants to keep you!!!