My inlaws are coming to stay the weekend with us. They live one hour away and they come once or twice every couple of months. Sometimes it's more frequent and sometimes it's not as often. We, on the other hand, go there to visit at least twice a month and sometimes more. For instance, this will be our third weekend in a row seeing them. We went to visit them for the past two weekends. I would say we see them pretty regularly. I love them to pieces but they are in their mid to late 60's so they are kind of boring. Besides, my cousin (whom is like a best friend) wants to hang out. We haven't hung out in a while, as to be honest, when we were supposed to I cancelled to be with my husband's parents.
My husband probably wouldn't care, but the times when I did tell him I had plans he kind of made a playful side remark trying to make me feel guilty.
2007-08-31 08:56:43 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it's some event, or holiday - yes. but if it's more informal and evey week or two - no. You're all family and should make allowances for everyone having thier own life.
2007-08-31 09:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, rude but excused. Do the parents really want to see you too? Seeing your in-laws so often is a lot to ask. Perhaps you and your husband need to think about a middle ground so that seeing them less often with him can work out more enjoyable.
When one has company it is more polite to be there and be attentive.
Yes, cousins are more fun than 60 year old in-laws.
As an in-law myself, I would love to see my son more alone and at almost 60 I am very aware that I am more boring than younger friends or cousins.
I am sure that your in-laws feel the same.
Couples of today are doing things differently. Less duty bound than previous generations. As long a you send note, flowers, etc. I think you are not expected to be with your husband every single time he sees his parents.
2007-08-31 09:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by nana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's rude. Maybe a few hours with your cousin could be arranged, tell them you already had some plans, and they might like spending time with your husband alone. But your place is with your company.
You and your husband need to make some guidelines as to how often you see his parents. You need to be "busy" more often. Maybe one weekend there, and one at your house? You may be giving your inlaws the impression that this is what you want. They may not be at fault.. Good luck!
2007-08-31 09:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by P S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude, you see them several times a month. If it was a special ocasion, that would be a different story.
Just because they are in town, you don't have to spend every minute of the day with them. Say hi, and let them know you have something to do and will see them later.
2007-09-01 11:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you guys DO see them as often as you do... They can't really expect to take up every single one of your weekends, can they? I don't think it's rude if you have a life outside your in-laws, and I'm sure they will understand. It's a great chance for your husband to get caught up with his parents, and for you to hang out with a friend.
2007-08-31 09:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to leave when you are expecting company unless you had your plans made before they were expected. If you already had plans, then you can simply say to them that you are not trying to be rude, but you have plans that you were not able to cancel. Talk to your husband first to see how he feels about it though. You have to put him first and respect his wishes within reason.
2007-08-31 09:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 08:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by jaffe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing you aren't gone all night long I'm certain they wouldn't view it as rude. But you are after all the hostess so should be there as much as possible to look after them and do things together. Sure they are getting up their in age but they are your husbands family and when you married him fact is that you also married his family.
2007-08-31 09:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your friend. sounds like you can hang with your in-laws any time. my mother in law is borning to and i try and find something else to do. Its not like you are going out a lot when they are around so dont feel bad have fun!!
2007-08-31 09:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by loststar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they come that often go hang out with your cous cuz you'll see your hubbies parents again them again dont feel gultiy in fact i was suppose to go to a football gae with my dad but no one told me so im going to a friends house i dont feel gulity it probably doesnt help that i truly hate my dad though lol oh well hehehe hop it helps
2007-08-31 09:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋