At what point have you crossed the line and cheated on your spouse?

Question

Is it at kissing..oral sex.. or the act of sex?

I have not done any of the above but a friend and i have had this talk many times so i wanted to know what people thought. She is up to sex .. me i'm at kissing

Answer 1

Like onebigfool said. Do you hide it from your wife? If so, it's probably cheating.

Answer 2

Usually, an affair happens long before the sex. If you are looking or flirting, you are cheating. If you put that energy into your relationship, it may turn around. If you are unhappy and looking to have your needs met outside your marriage, then you are cheating. Cheating is having a relationship with someone outside your marriage of the opposite sex that goes beyond the normal day to day life we all live. It is more fair to either attempt to find a solution to what is missing in your marriage or to let the spouse know you are leaving. Who has time for these games and self disrespect? Keep your dignity and be your spouses best friend and partner. If the problems between you are bigger than you can fix, then get out and then go hunting. It is not fair to you, your spouse, or the one you are playing with to not be honest and open. What good can come of it? If you continue on to the kissing and sex, everyone gets hurt and you have lost your own self-respect and dignity. Who wants to be a cheater or be cheated on? I think if you picture your spouse doing what you are doing it is easier to feel whether you are cheating. It is likely that if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, then you are crossing the line. Does that help? Good luck.

Answer 3

You have crossed the line anytime you have done something with another that you KNOW that your spouse would not approve of. You don't have to have physical contact with someone in order for it to be cheating....you can be having an emotional affair....where you talk and share your feelings with each other.

EDIT: If either one of you are married or involved with someone....you know that you are cheating.

Answer 4

I have NOT crossed the line and cheated on my spouse.....once you have cheated....you can NEVER say to your spouse that you have always been faithful. A little bit of pleasure is not worth all the pain you will have the rest of your life.

Answer 5

I think it is when you start letting things slide in your own mind... like thinking about just being around that other person in certain situations. Because many times in these situations thoughts present themselves into actions in no time... But like many other people on here... there is a problem when you can't tell your spouse what you are doing...

Answer 6

I think anything you cannot do right in front of your spouse is wrong, and it doesn't matter whether it's technically cheating, the fact is, you've hurt the person who should be most dear to you in the whole world. That's enough for me.

Answer 7

It's about 3 miles in front of all the things you mentioned.

Lying, sneaking, betraying, not confessing, spending time with someone else, becoming attracted to another and acting on it in the smallest of ways, calling secretly, writnig secretly, doing or saying anything you wouldn't do or say directly in front of your spouse -- you're over the line long before any tongues or bodily fluids are exchanged.

Answer 8

All of the above unless it was a kiss on the cheek.

Answer 9

Like the first post said- all of the above. Unless you're in Europe where they peck you on the cheek as a way to say hello.

Answer 10

It is all of those. Cheating is still cheating no matter what kind it is. Alot of people cheat on each other. Some are single when they cheat and then some are married when they cheat.