I fell in love with a guy,but we ended up being better off as friends.We were close friends for years until about 6 months ago,when he admitted he was in love with me.I had been with my current boyfriend a year,and felt so confused i left him for my best friend.However,i realised it was a mistake a little too late,and told my best friend i couldnt be with him,and i think it really hurt him,as he was saying he loved me & really didnt want to let me go again.Anyway 5 months on and he wouldnt talk to me,he would walk by me in the corridors without a word,and i could tell it was because he was annoyed,or upset.So today,on impulse i asked if i could speak to him,and said sorry,to which he replied 'you dont have to say sorry'(smiling!?) I then told him i just didnt want to act like strangers,and i missed him,as to which he replied 'i'll admit ive missed you too' with a smile,and then just started chatting away.How come he wouldnt talk to me before then,and was nice about it?!
2007-08-31 07:46:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He was probably a bit stubborn and was hurt by you. Talking to you would have probably been really uncomfortable.
2007-08-31 07:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first 2 anwers and your friendship with him now might be awkward. So be prepared to deal with that and be ready to give it time. Hopefully him and you can work out what happened and remain good friends and walk away from the break up knowing that you guys are better off as friends.
I feel bad for the BF you left. Hopefully it wasn't a big loss coz that would suck!
2007-08-31 14:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he didn't want to torture himself!
It's extrememly difficult for guys and girls to be friends. Expecially if they have had a relationship and you professed your love for one another. Once the break up happens, one may have feelings and other won't. That is uneven and the couple just needs to completely sever the ties and move on. Otherwise the one that still has feelings will hold on to that "glimmer of hope" of getting back together.
Be very careful, you may stir up feelings in this guy again, and that would be torture for him. I think you should just leave him alone.
2007-08-31 14:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was just looking for an apology, although you shouldn't have had to give one (if that was the case), because, and this is just my opinion, that a true friend would've kept talking to you regardless.
I also had almost the same thing happen to me, he asked me out, I said yes, but it was a mistake on his part, so I let him go but we're still friends, because we're too close and too alike for me to let him go forever. I still wanted him to be my friend because he's a true friend, and I don't want to give that up.
But hey, at least you guys are talking and friends again, that's really all that matters.
2007-08-31 14:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Doma K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May very well have felt hurt and/or embarrassed. But one of you finally made the mature move of attempting to get things back on track and now it sounds as if you have rekindled a long lost friendship. Congrats and be a friend whenever needed.
2007-08-31 14:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was mad and felt burned. You apologized, and he had already come to the conclusion that you didn't need to, but he probably felt better about it after you did.
I wouldn't run off yet and think that everything is cool though, he's still most likely harboring a few bad feelings about it. he is a guy after all and its what we do....honestly I wouldn't talk to you anymore, but thats just me and I am an ****** like that.
Pride is a very funny thing, male pride is is sunuva----
2007-08-31 14:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Phil M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's hurting and he didn't want to hurt you. Give him time, but don't act surprised if he remains distant. He put his heart in your hands and you crushed it. It's clear that he still has feelings for you, so if you care about him at all, try to tell him how you feel about your relationship, but be aware that it will never be like it was. Good luck.
2007-08-31 15:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tom H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really hard when a person loves someone but the other doesn't love them back. He's trying to let you go probably because it's really going to be hard on him to be able to see you but not do anything with you because he just loves you so much. If you don't want to be with him he let you go and he wants you to be happy.
2007-08-31 14:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Life Stops 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you did kind of lead him on then had his heart in your hands and then before he knew what was going on you took a bite out of it dropped it on the ground stomped on it and then lit it on fire. So I would be a little timid to talk to you either.
2007-08-31 14:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by red04yr6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he was hurt and humiliated. Good for you for making the first move back to friendship.
2007-08-31 14:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋