what would you choose between "having best scholar title" and "'happily married" ?

Question

I'm just figuring out what is the social achievement that counts best in life..
Having passed an academic status with flying colours with potential jobs waiting ahead, or
having found your significant other and living a happy marriage?

Answer this!

AND WHY you choose your answer?

Answer 1

Happily married.

Answer 2

This one depends on how old you are... if you are in your early early 20s or less.. then go for the job..If you are 29 up.. and have had other relationships and this guy is it and you want to settle down and have kids.. then go for the marriage. The thing is you can get the jobs now, marry the guy, wait a few years and then have the babies and take a leave of absense from work. You can have it all with work and marriage, however, stop the full time job when your baby is born as you will never ever get those first 5 years back and they really need you to be there. So do it all but wait until your 30s to have the baby...I was married a few times, had the major career and with the last husband had a baby and after returning to work I realized that my baby came first... I will never regret that and my son is 13 years old now and I have my career back...less the husband..oh well 2 out of 3 aint bad.

Answer 3

Personally, this question has haunted me in the past.

I wanted to be respected in life and live up to my personal goals of attaining a high degree and getting that 6 figure salary, yet I also wanted to be happily married and settled down.

The way I see it is, what happens after you pass the academic status with flying colors and get the dream job you've always wanted. Who do you share that with?

But then again what really 'COUNTS' in life is whatever makes you happy. So if having your degree makes you happier than being married then whatever floats your boat.

I go with Happily Married.

Answer 4

I would choose being happily married. It would be great to have the best scholar title but it wouldn't mean anything if you have no one to share it with. But then, it would really depend on what ones ambitions in life are. Either one could count as a best social achievement depending what goals were set in the first place.

Answer 5

both can work well together, however I'd think a person would want to get their career in order, income saved from a good job before settling into a marriage. I also realize that not everyone is lucky enough to have both come into their life at the same time, and I know how it's not alsoways so good to make someone wait for marriage. There is a lot to be said about working together though.

Answer 6

I would say happily married. I am a very goal driven person and I do want to achieve a lot in life, but at the same time, I want someone to share it with. When I am tried of being independent and strong, I have a strong man there to lay my head on his shoulder. To give birth, and see my kids grow up would make me happy as well.

Answer 7

Having to choose between those two traditional social marks of achievement I would choose Happily Married.
I have to say though in my life I'm delighted to have a fantastic long term relationship with someone I love wholeheartedly AND I have common sense and intelligence neither of which have a scoring system except for my happiness ☺

Answer 8

well now, since everyone is seeking a feeling of importance in life I suppose it would depend on the spouse. If you marry someone who ignores and belittles you, I would think the other option would be to your advantage. But if you have a spouse that is attentive and respectful of your needs, wants, desires I suppose happily married would be good.
I'd go with door number three and become a superhero for status and fame. I'd get all the guys I want if I was wearing a skin tight black suit..... ;)

Answer 9

Well I've tried both and only had success academically. Something I've very proud of. I wish I could have been proud to have had a happy marriage but my life just didn't work out that way. At least I've had one of these.

Answer 10

Having best scholar title. I don't need to be married. I've never witnessed a marriage that worked. True, the couples were happy for some time, but then it all fell apart. Therefore, "happily married" doesn't even exist...just look at celebrities. I won't believe it until I see it. So having best scholar title is better.
I'd rather be able to make a difference in the world by being a great scholar. Being happily married seems more selfish in comparison. Besides, I wouldn't want marriage to tie me down.

I probably sound bitter, but after seeing my parents' marriage, grandparents' marriage, and my aunts' and uncles' marriage....no thanks.

I'm gonna be thumb-downed for this.

Answer 11

Happily married.