Its true, i have the baby blues. We are thinking about TTC?

Question

Well, i think my husband has more of the baby blues than me!

Our son is about to turn 2 years old. He is a little ahead for his age, so he seems older. Lately, my husband has been bringing up the subject of having another baby. I think its a great idea. We can afford it, we just bought our first house this year, and our friends/family are supportive of the idea.

The only problem, something stopping me and i dont know what and why. Whats the matter with me? LOL

I guess i was just wondering, for all those parents who have more than 1 child. what is teh age difference between your children?

I am on Birtch Control pills, so we planned to stop taking them and wait a few months before TTC. So, buy the time we actually get pregnant, the baby will be due around the time our son will be turing 3 years old.

I am excited to start trying, but a little nervous, and i dont even know why. Our first son sadly passed away, for those you know me(i havent been on here for about 1 year).

Here i am rambling on. LOL. I dont really know what my question is, i guess i just want some feedback, support. Has any of you woman out there planned on having a baby, but then couldnt make up your mind?

Answer 1

2-3 years is just perfect. Don't wait that long.

Answer 2

Im still TTC #1, but my sister's kids are almost exactly 3 years apart...3 years and 3 weeks apart actually. Zane is going to be 1 in November and Autumn will be 4 in October. I think it is a great age difference. Autumn is old enough to know that Zane cant do some things like her and old enough to watch out for him and be gentle with him.

My brother and I are 15 months apart and we hated it. We inevitably had the same friends, went to the same schools, almost always had the same teachers, and in middle school even had the same class 2 times a day. We couldnt get away from each other. By the same token, my husband's older sisters are the same age as my parents (literally, its creepy) and his younger is 5 years younger than him. They were never close growing up, always went to different schools, except maybe in elementary, and to this day he isnt very close with any of his sisters.

My husband and I both know we want at least 3 kids and are planning on (but you know how plans go;) ) having them 2-3 years apart.

And Im so sorry about your first son:(

Answer 3

Now sounds like the perfect time to add a new baby to your family. I believe I read somewhere that said at least 3-5 years of age difference is ideal for your child and for you and your husband. Because children in this age group are old enough to be a part and a little "helper" for the new baby. Plus you should only have one baby in diapers which would be great but you don't want to wait until you get one in kindergarden and then have to start all over again. So go for it. Like you said you can afford and your husband is game. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

you sound like you are in the best situation to have another baby right now if i was you i would while you have the energy . but here is the thing i have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and sometimes things can get hectic but with the right support and a good husband to help you i think youll do just fine and dont ever be to confident to ask for help because you are gonna need it even if you have all the money in the world and the best family you are going to get tiard so just stay on the bright side and make your little family girl i love both of my kids and i would never take them back for anything!

Answer 5

Although I am not a parent yet, I am almost exactly a year and half apart from my older sister and we are best friends. I think that as long as they are 4 years or less apart, you will find that they will be great friends. Anything more than 4 years sometimes makes it harder because they are at such different stages of their lives at different times. Just do what your heart tells you to do. You know what is best for you and your family and I'm sure your 3 year old will absolutely love having a sibling, and will end up being a huge help when the baby comes.

Good luck and baby dust to you!

Answer 6

Hi, I know how you feel. Our daughter is 3 1/2 yrs old and our son is 3 months old. I had such a hard time picturing a life with another kid. It has been just the 3 of us for so long. Then you start to worry about how you could possibly love another kid as much as you love the kid you have now. I went through tons of different feelings. I had a couple of miscarriages which made me worry even more. In the end all of that worrying was for nothing. Everything is great and we have 2 healthy kids who I adore!

Answer 7

I am sorry about your first son, things like that have got to be extremely hard, I dont know how I would cope. If you are nervous that is ok, I can imagine why. You just need to sit down and think about it and make sure it is what you really want. Your husband sounds like he will be there and support you in the decision. If everything goes well and you feel you want another one then go ahead and get pregnant. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

I think its natural to be nervous about adding a new child to the family.
I have a 11 year old daughter and a 19 month old son. 10 years difference. Its been very different for me adjusting to having a new baby and still provide the same attention to my daughter when it was just us. But, I also think its been a positive thing for her as well. She's at the age where she is finding her own nitch in things and doesn't need me as much, but at the same time needs to feel needed and her brother very much needs her and wants her around.
We are TTC now, we decided we wanted to have one more child closer in age with our son, so they can kinda grow up together, my daughter missed out on having a sibling about the same age.
You just need to have faith that it will all work out the way its supposed to and go with the flow. To much worrying will just bring you down.
Good Luck and take care!

Answer 9

I want to have another and sooner than later. My son is 7 months, And i'd like to start trying again when he's around 15 months. But i think we're going to adopt instead. The closer they are the more they entertain eachother and its easier raising them.

Its scary to think about more kids when you've lost one, especially in this day and age when the world is so f'd up.

You know you'd love that baby unconditionally. Just dont makea hueg deal out of protection, and see what happens. You know that first time you think you're pregnant and you're not its going to throw you into a TTC frenzy.

Answer 10

I have two boys.... ages 19 months and 5 months. Don't worry... it is not as hard as everyone says! If you are relaxed... your kids will be relaxed (most of the time :] )! Our second son was a surprise. We had a really rough time with our oldest's delivery..... he came home from the hospital before I did. We were terrified to have more kids. I got pregnant and we decided that God wouldn't have let us conceive if it was going to happen again. So, if you and your husband are ready to share some more of your love...... then go for it! It's wonderful. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 11

well my 2 sons are 8yrs apart and my husband wanted another baby and so did i and i was very confused even when i found out i kept asking myself "do i really want another baby" I am almost 12 weeks pregnant and the feeling have gone away, i think its just hormones. If your mind is telling you that you're not sure then you probably should wait until you do want another child, it'll happen when the time is right.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your son, perhaps thinking about him and looking at your 2yr old is giving you reservations about trying again.
Good Luck!