....is driving me crazy. one day, she's happy, helps out around the house, gets her homework/chores done without being told, is nice to her younger siblings and plays with them, actually listens to me and we talk and actually have some pretty good deep deep down conversations. then, the next day it's like every body is out to get her, she fights till the end about doing her homework, screams and fights with the other kids, and we get into yelling matches, she doesn't listen to me at all. the next day, all happy and smiles. i mean, what's going on? I'm a single father and teenager girls are something new to me (i only had brothers growing up and didn't date till after high school), but still is there anything i can do that will get her and me on the same page? thanks.
2007-08-31 06:30:07 · 27 answers · asked by Trace 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
normal 16 year old girl behavior to me. I haven't been 16 in 8 years but that's about the way i remember it. Nothing really you can do except sit back and watch it pass..which it will, probably within a year or two. It's be okay. If you have done your job, she will go through this and come out the other side the same good kid you know and love. Hormones, and really just being 16 is very hard. I think for both sexes.
2007-08-31 06:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tresa R 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that is just how things are. Our hormones aren't exactly stable at the moment. When she is having her mood swings never and I mean never tell her its PMS. You should just let her have her mood swings then after wards she will feel stupid and disappointed she acted that way. She may not say it to you but she will. She can't control what is going on half the time. I know I couldn't. Just hang in there for her. I am 17 and I think 16 has been the worst age so far. Hopefully once she gets older things will get better. Good luck with being a single father. Just be patient with her. It will all work out in the end. This is one of those grin and bare it moments. So unless she is actually acting bad like stealing doing drugs, or lying anything like that then don't worry.
2007-08-31 16:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lost and Confussed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi! I am 16 and although I honestly (I am not even trying to make myself sound like an angel, I have plenty of faults) rarely have mood swings but, that being said, I am the youngest in my family and I have 3 other sisters (now 18, 26 and... 28 or something I can't remember lol) but I have witnessed all of their moody high school be-otch moments. Girls are just.... hormonal, and tend to have more of an attitude in high school I think and are more sensitive to things (such as friend issues and other stuff) which can just make them for a day or so a real whiny brat. Also, we have our "womenly issues" which can just make you feel like complete disgustingness and just ready to pounce on anybody just to give ourselves something else to do in order to stop dwelling on how about a quarter of our high school lives is dedicated to cramps, bloating, and blood stains >_<. You'd be mad too if your favorite jeans just decided to stop fitting one day and you hadn't even been eating a ton, unfair! School stress is also another reason some days a teenage girl will be more irritable. School work is rarely fun and having a ton of it sucks major time.
I am sure I am forgetting many more reasons why a teenage girl will for some reason just be the more unpleasant thing in the world, but I hope that let you in to a little bit of our minds.
Goodluck with her <3
2007-08-31 15:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a little help from a Mom with teenage daughters - It is just a phase they are going through. It does get better. I found taking a deep breath and remaining calm worked. I made one rule - homework and chores not done you don't go out and the car keys are mine. This has worked very nicely. It isn't easy. But no one ever said being a parent was.
Good luck!
2007-08-31 13:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but she sounds like a normal teenager. We have insane hormones that make us do some pretty odd things. Plus, aside from the hormones, there's other stuff going on in our lives that make things a bit difficult and stress us out. Like if you guys are in England she's got GCSE's, and if you're in America she's got the ACT. Stress can make us angry. And even on the days when she's angry and yelling, she still loves all of you guys, even though her actions may indicate otherwise. Just make sure that you listen to what she has to say, and if she ever comes to you with a problem that upsets you, try not to explode about it, at least not right away. That will just make her feel like you can't talk to you, and she'll shut down. When she's in her moods like that, you can still try to talk to her, as long as you remain calm. If you speak to her calmly and treat her like an adult (even though she's not), she's far more likely to open up to you about what's bothering her. Good luck with your daughter, and remember, all teenage girls really just want a father who cares about them.
2007-08-31 14:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every thing said here is so true ---still doesn't help your frustration terribly does it
Try not to take the nasty things she may say too personally.
Just remember that you are the adult here, Step back and take a breath and do not say anything until you have thought about it .
She looks so grown up and she thinks she is , but she still has a long way to go .
She may need some feminine interference -check out relatives,close family friends teachers. Just check that you share the same values.
2007-08-31 14:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bemo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 17 and was in the same situation with my mom last year. She was pretty good about it though. She would just say If you need to talk about anything like friends, boys, sex, school, drugs alcohol, anything at all im here to talk. And then she would just walk away and let me be.And about the school work.. My teachers would Email my dad if i didnt do my homework so they would know. And however Emails they recieved, thats how many days i didnt get to use the car. And it started to add up because i would just have my friends get me instead. so they moved it to days without my cell phone too. so i started to do my homework lol. And now i talk to my mom about everything because she made it seem alright no matter what it was. Good luck!
2007-08-31 13:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Loren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her alone when she's like that. I'm 13 and I'm like that alot. If you get on her nerves you'll just alienate her. Maybe try talking to a close female friend of your's and ask her to have a word. Don't nag her‼ It makes things worse‼ =]
2007-09-01 15:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mariah♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds normal theres really nothing you can do about it. on those bad days of hers just step back and let her go, it takes two for you to have a yelling match right. as for the homework let her not do it once and a while and when her grades start to slip she will realize what she needs to do if she doesnt make mistakes shes not going to learn anything
2007-08-31 14:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by suga_c00kie25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being moody, you dont know exactly whats happening at school that day. Maybe something put her in a bad mood and now she cant controll it. do NOT put her down when she's in those moods, girls are very emotional. Give her space but if all else fails talk to her it could be more serious.
2007-08-31 14:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by jamie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋