My husband and I have fallen into a rut. Our sex is somewhat pleasurable for me, but it is seeming to take longer for him to get off. What can I do to make sex better for him?? What can I do to turn him on?
2007-08-31 04:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by Jessica P 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
It is hard to answer this question without first knowing what his likes/dislikes are, and what you do/don't do while having sex.
It is a fair assumption that most guys like to hear his girl get vocal. This lets them know that what they are doing is satisfying her. So if you are quiet, turn it up a notch. If you are already vocal, then start talking dirty to him.
Also try to find out what his fantasies are. Talk about them and try to incorporate that into your sex life. If there are actresses that you know he finds sexy, imitate them, pretend to be them and seduce him, it is a fun game, and it will help to peak his interest and also let him know that you are game for being dirty.
And finally, pay more attention to him. It is always possible that he has lost his attraction for you, and simply goes through the motions so as to not start an argument. If this is the case, put him in his place immediately, or try to fix the problem.
2007-08-31 05:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by theCATALYST 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes through a rutt from one time to another. Try wearing something special to bed. Ask him what he likes. A lot of communication is important which is hard for some people but once you get used to talking through your wants and needs it will become easier and you will become closer. However, the problem could be something with him Unfortunely. Depends on his age and bill of health. The good thing is that there are some good medications that can help with this. I know it seems horrible but he could see a doctor. Just incase anything else is the issue this is a good idea. Many men do not see a doctor due to be being embarrased or scared but postate cancer is becoming more common. Open communication for anyone with their doctor is also becoming more and more important. To spice up things if this is the only issue try watching some educational videos. You could learn things you haven't tried before. Sometimes everything just becomes rutine, a little change could do wonders. Ask your husband what he likes or dreams of. Sometimes hot phone conversations during lunch hours can spark anticipation and get the vibe going again.
2007-08-31 05:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by hottexanmommy2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because it's taking him longer doesn't mean you're not getting him off, odds are that he's now able to enjoy you more. just ask him what he likes and be willing to tell him more about what you desire, that would start new fires in your bed at night
2007-08-31 08:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in a new room. It amazes me how many married couples never "break in" the kitchen or living room of their house.
Just close the curtains first. Those neighbors STILL look at us weird in the yard...
2007-08-31 07:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well you could bring a girlfiend of yours in the bedroom to switch it up sometimes. Or you can play dress up like Cops and robbers or cowboys and indians or teacher and student. Get creative in the bedroom.
2007-08-31 05:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by bigpoppapun33 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get a bit nasty, kinky.....do things that he thought you would never do...talk dirty to him.....be spontaneous....surprise him by meeting him at the door when he gets home form work in nothing but a pink ribbon......Communicate to him what you want him to do to you.........HAVE FUN ! No pressures !
2007-08-31 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by idez9 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give him the Best Blow Job u can ever do...
The best way to please a man during sex
Plus Stroke his A*s real fast
Yep that will turn him on
2007-08-31 04:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Change your routine and tease him.......make him feel like its your first time together.
good luck
2007-08-31 05:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get nasty. try more positions
2007-08-31 08:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by iceman 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Masturbate infront of him.
2007-08-31 08:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Solo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋