I was just wondering, i am still in love with my ex wife we have been divorced about 6 months. I have found several books or programs that say you can get your spouse back! Stop the Divorce! Have them crawl back to you! Are they for real or are they like the "take this pill and your penis will be bigger" type products? Playing to our hopes and dreams?
2007-08-31 04:06:04 · 10 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only book that I found helpful was called "Divorce Busting" it breaks down everything to stimulus and response. If you don't like the what your spouse is doing change what you are doing. Its pretty simple, but really hard to do. Like anything it all break downs to how persistent you are in changing your behavior.
2007-08-31 04:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 15:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lloyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: if the books actually worked, would the divorce rates still be what they are?
Sure, there might be a few decent bits of advice in there, but very little that isn't common sense. And no book can help if your ex-wife isn't interested in patching things up, too. If she is, or if you know you need to move on and have no idea where to start, then get some real guidance in the form of counseling.
2007-08-31 04:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've wondered the very same thing. I've felt pretty desperate myself here lately...wanting to get my husband back. But don't give someone your hard earned $ just so they can tell you what you already know. Just do what's right. Be yourself. Be honest. Be kind. Be all the things you hope others are to you and good things will come your way. And thank you for asking a question that I've asked myself a hundred times. Somehow the above just rolled off my fingertips in answering you, but I couldn't seem to answer that for myself. Remember the old saying...if she loves you, let her go. If she comes back, she's yours. If she doesn't, she was never yours to begin with.
2007-08-31 04:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by kimolly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you're divorced. I can't think of any clearer message somebody can use to tell you that they aren't interested in you anymore. It's a long legal process, so if there was any doubt, it wouldn't have happened. Time to man up and move on.
I want you to think back to when you used to date, and you discovered you weren't interested in somebody, and they acted like you had some sort of connection. Didn't you think they were a bit crazy? Was there any chance they could do anything to make you change your mind? See what I mean?
2007-08-31 04:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but let me try it out and get back to you I am in the same boat. But we are not divorced, hes over everyday. We have this crazy wierdness going on but I am surely going to take a look at these books. Hell why not. But I am not spending money on them i will go to barnes and nobles and sit and read them. I never spend money on that kind of stuff. But I will take a look i am curious.
2007-08-31 04:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, people will do and say anything to try and make a buck. I know you're smart enough to realize that.
2007-08-31 04:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're taking your money... Go to the library and see what resources they have, if you feel you need help. Online help might be an avenue also. Good luck.
2007-08-31 04:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
relationship advice books dont work. only life experience does. let her go and make sure you dont make that mistake when you remarry
2007-08-31 04:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by the troll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.................i say this: it dosent matter what u try and and do, if the person is meant for you they will come back. but its not meant to be why not let them go?
2007-08-31 04:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋