Was it right to let her know what I felt?

Question

My ex-gilrfriend and I kept in touch on and off after 3 weeks of breaking up. This last time I spoke with her..she asked me if I was dating?

I told her no, but I met a couple of people but nothing serious. So I asked her the same question, and she told me she was dating. I was hurt.

Later on in the day, I text her and told her it was good speaking with her, but the truth is that I'm talking to a couple of girls, and I am trying to get to know them. And I want to see were it goes. I also told her that I thought it was too soon for us to be sharing our dating agendas...and that I would rather not know that part of her life..I told her I'm glad to know she's doing fine...and good luck with the person she's dating.

I also said even though we are moving on ....that I loved her. Was it right to tell her all this? She hasn't even responded. I feel no response means she doesn't care, and I should have kept this to myself.

Should I call her and tell her I want to see her?

Answer 1

Hello!
I think that what you said in the text was awsome and honest. There is a possiblility that she does not feel the same but don't feel bad. You let her know what was on your heart and that is all you can do. Now, I want you to get out there and meet some girls and date and have fun until you meet the girl for you. I wish you the best of luck!! God Bless!!

Answer 2

Let's see...you told her that you didn't want to talk about dating but gave her an update on how that was going for you, and wished her luck but told her you still loved her - all in the space of one message. I think it's possible she hasn't responded because she doesn't know how to respond or what you are thinking - which is okay, because it doesn't sound like you really know for sure, either.

If you're not interested in reconcilation, I think you have the right idea to not discuss how dating is going with each other just yet, but an apology for any confusion you might have caused might not go amiss. If you're having serious second thoughts, then you need to keep talking. Good luck.

Answer 3

You were not wrong in text what you did. And as for her not responding does not mean she does not care, could mean she got upset that you also were dating. It is never easy to break up and letting go completely for anyone of us. You never stated the reason for the break up. If the break up was due to something that could be worked out, then why don't you do that? Call her and let her know if she is in agreement to talk things over. If she isn't, then at least this will leave you with no other option than to move on. I do hope you both can resolve what it was that broke you both up. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

First of all at this point, I wouldnt respond to you either. She's dating, she made it clear she was dating. So shes obviously moving on. Trying to keep in touch after a relationship is fine, but the relationship ended for a reason,a nd you texting her after already having the conversation with her is really almost stalker like. Telling her that you love her is one of the worst things to do at this stage, shes obviosly making the effort to stay friends, but with texts like that and saying you love her its going to push her away because she is going to think you cant handle the just friends aspect. And since you came forward and asked yourself about her dating agenda, even though she asked first you took the inititive to ask yourself, and then when you dont like the answer you tell her you dont want to discuss it.. I just really think that it was a mad move on your part. No response may not mean that she doesnt care, but it could mean that she will try to have less contact with you now

Answer 5

I think it was right for you to share your feelings with her. She probably hasn't responded because she is trying to process everything and come up with how she will respond back. However, you may want to keep contact with her at a minimum. If you two aren't meant to be together then you should give each other the space to move on. It's hard in the beginning to talk to your ex but sometimes and I say sometimes you can end up being friends.

Answer 6

Why did the two of you break up to begin with?

I agree that sharing your dating agendas was alittle premature, since the both of you are fresh from breaking up. There are still lingering feelings...

I'm not sure if you should have said anything to her. Usually, in break ups, the best way to move on is to not talk and hold a friendship, because it makes it harder to move on, sometimes.

Plus, jealousy can arise when the other sees their ex dating others.

She probably felt strange to get such a text message from you. Maybe, she doesn't know what to say?

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

just say you love her as a friend and you will support her in her new relationship. obviously she has gotten over your relationship with her, since she is now dating and is happy. you should move on too, yes it is not easy. and yes indeed it is hurting to see someone you love in the arms of someone else. she didnt respond when you said you will love her probly means that she doesnt want to talk about love to you. maybe she is trying to forget you have a relationship with you once. don talk about love to her. if she is still interested in love to you, she would have responded, and not even get a new dating partner.

good luck:)

forget the past. look into the future. there are much more girls out there:):)

Answer 8

what u feel is that u still care for her and thats ok. perhaps u needed to have waited before telling her that coz u have probably confused her and she has kept quiet. send a message to apologize for what u said (not to deny ur feelings). then ask urself what u really want coz it appears u were trying to make her jealous by saying u are also dating. if u still love her then start like u wd with any other girl- friends, dating then the deep stuff later.

Answer 9

Never feel bad for sharing your true feelings; ever. Just because the other person doesn't respond or respond the way you'd like, doesn't mean that your feelings aren't valid and worth sharing. You start keeping your feelings to yourself, eventually it becomes too easy to never share them with anyone. And with that comes emotional seclusion and isolation. Don't fall into that habit...its a hard lonely life.

Answer 10

It is her way of dealing with what you said....if you are two have broken up...why do you care if she responds to your text messages? You are right....it is not your business and it is not her business to know if or who you are dating. So why did you tell her you have been talking to a couple of girls and waiting to see where things go? You just contradicted yourself.