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yesterday, my fiance and I was stopped at a redlight. I was discussing my day at work, and I talk while using my hands alot. I was actually discussing 3 reasons for something at work, and I was kinda like counting off each one on my hand. well, the light turned green, and when we turned "he said why you wave at him?" I said "huh" well the man next to us thought I had waved and he waved back. My fiance got very angry and accused me of cheating and called me names. even told me to move out the next day. He even slept on the couch. this morning, he called and said he was just saying that it looked like I waved; which i didnt. He finally apoligized after having a night of world war 3. does anyone else experience this? why can't he just understand I didnt wave? its so frustrating!

2007-08-31 03:33:31 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

48 answers

He overreacted to the situation.

And, obviously he wasn't paying much attention to what you were talking about. LOL

2007-08-31 03:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 6 0

Granted, you can accept the apology and move on. However, that being said, you must consider whether or not you have just been given a wake-up call.
A jealous or possessive man will not likely be less so with a wife. You must give thought to living a life with a husband who can fly into a rage over a wave that wasn't even a wave. And, not believe you when you explain. Please consider some pre-marital counseling. You need to explore this further before you commit to a lifetime with this man.

2007-08-31 03:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jim N 4 · 2 0

Man Drama Queen. Men do this for control. He's like a dog right now. he's showing you his teeth with a growl to show you, you better not ever do anything like this again. he was wrong in this situation. Watch out this type of person is very jealous. He'll be jealous of your friends, family, co workers. He also doesn't take ****. I bet he is good looking and he knows he can get another woman no problem. I say this stuff because this is how I was before I got married. If a guy I was dating showed interest in another woman or did something I didn't like I would drop them in a heartbeat. It overreacting, but with high expectations.

2007-08-31 03:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It wasn't the wave or lack of. You are lucky to see this now before the wedding. If you are honest, I bet you can remember other instances where he has flown off in a rage over nothing. THink long and think hard ..... can you live with this the rest of your life? It will not be a one time situation, my guess is it will get worse.

BOTTOM LINE - You are defending your actions (or lack thereof) of waving. OF WAVING. Say it....OF WAVING. That is DUMB. Next time, it might be that you LOOKED at someone the wrong way, or maybe he "sees" you smile at someone.....it will not stop. RUN. RUN.

2007-08-31 03:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by tellme.lies 3 · 3 0

First of all, what is wrong with waving at someone; it is a friendly gesture. If he is reacting this way to what he thought was a simple wave, how is he going to react to a smile? This man has major trust and jealousy issues; you better get this straightened out before you go any further in your relationship. It is a sign of things to come.

2007-08-31 04:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0 0

Your fiance has gone way beyond being ridiculous. First of all you didn't wave...and he chose not to believe you...second of all....even if you did...it doesn't mean that you are cheating...for chrissake...it was only a wave! Sounds to me you have a very very insecure man on your hands....I would think twice before marrying him. You will not be able to go anywhere or talk to anyone without him accusing you of cheating.

2007-08-31 03:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Wow, I wave all the time, I must be the biggest s*** in my city... He is waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy over the line, and it would seem to us ordinary people who don't know you guys, that he is looking for excuses to put you down for whatever reasons, could be he is guilty of something, or he wants to get something out of your "cheating" or he is just an abusive person. He needs help. Waving, phffttttt......

2007-08-31 04:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

he doesn't understand because he's controlling possessive and jealous. have you not seen this before?i would seriously rethink about marrying a person who would turn something such as a simple wave, which wasn't even there, into a night on the couch. you are going to have a short hard marriage if he doesn't change.

2007-08-31 03:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0 0

Wow!! You are in for a wild ride with your fiance. He thought you waved and made too much of a big deal. What's the big deal even if you did wave on purpose? He is jealous and controlling, not to mention possessive. Are you sure you want to marry him?

2007-08-31 03:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 3 0

Please explain to me why you are with a man who starts WWIII because he thought you might have waved at another man?

Seriously, thats a bit insane! If I waved at another man at a light with my husband in the car, he would simply ask "who's that?". Not because he is a controlling paranoid crazy person, but because he is genuinely interested in my life and wants to be friendly to people I know.

If he calls you names, accuses you of cheating, threatens to kick you out and sleeps on the couch because he thought you waved at someone, would he hit you if you actually talked to another guy?

Take the advice of an old married, divorced and remarried gal....LEAVE THIS MAN!

A little extra for you. My mom dated a guy like this when I was about 3 years old. They went to a party together and she was seen talking to the cousin of her friend. The guy she was dating freaked out and accused her of cheating, called her names, threatened to leave her etc. A few weeks later, they went out to another party at a friends house. My mom was talking to another male guest when her boyfriend freaked out and demanded they go home.

At home, he began throwing frozen meat out of the frigde at her and trapped her in the corner. He had a pair of scissors to her abdomen and was threatening to kill her. My babysitter and I saw it all. The babysitter called the police and then took me outside to keep me safe until they arrived. He was arrested and my mom refused to speak to him ever again. I am 32 now and can still see the whole scene in my mind. It was the scariest thing I ever saw and we had no idea he could do something like that until he actually did it.

Please, think carefully about this guy. I would hate to see you end up in a situation like my mother or worse.

2007-08-31 03:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0 0

It's over-reaction for sure. He must have some issue(s) that the two of you need to sort out BEFORE you get married. Please get to the bottom of it (and get him some help). He may have an anger management problem. He may be feeling insecure, he may have low self-esteem. Whatever the problem, he needs to work on it, because if he doesn't, it WILL happen again. I don't think you want a repeat performance... do you?

2007-08-31 04:08:59 · answer #11 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0 0

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