How would you feel if your significant other cheated on you, as well?
Do you see this as karma or payback, sortive?
Does this make you think about your actions or do you feel ok with it?
2007-08-31 03:25:44 · 20 answers · asked by darkening_hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe, I should clarify.
What I meant was...To those who HAVE cheated, how would you feel if your significant other cheated, as well?
I mean, all cheaters have their excuses for being unfaithful, but how would they feel if it was being done to them??
Would they be like, "Oh, ok...I've been dishonest and cheating in all of my relationships"
or would they be outraged?
I just don't see how people can't consider other's feelings, yet some can be so hypocritical.
2007-08-31 03:40:48 · update #1
Coming from someone who has cheated, if I were to be cheated on...I think I would deserve it. It wouldn't make that person anymore right than I was when I did it, but after having done it myself I couldn't judge or condemn someone for doing it to me. Truth is though, someone who cheats has some underlying problem that causes them to do it. It usually has nothing to do with the person they cheat on. It's a personal problem that person has and with the proper help, they could most likely change (or at least work on the problem) IF they really wanted to. It usually takes a significant loss of someone they really care about though...to make them want to make the change. Unfortunately...I know!!
2007-08-31 04:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by kimolly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is the hypocrisy of life. Most people don't practice what they preach anymore. I also think that is why open relationships and swinging are gaining steam in America. Those people are at least being up front and honest with each other, and broaching the situation before it even becomes an issue. Of course the debate is still out there whether or not that is the correct way to handle it, but it has its own validity on both sides. The golden rule seems to be dead, and for anyone who doesn't know the golden rule it is, "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you."
2007-08-31 13:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated years ago in a prior relationship. It wasn't one of the great moments in my life, but it did occur. However, I can answer your question with honest perspective. I would like to say that I am married now, and have been faithful the entire time.
1. I wouldn't have cared. When I started cheating it was obvious that if I did care about my BF I wouldn't have been cheating on him in the first place. So, why logically would I care if he had sex with someone else.
2. No. I don't believe in Karma. I've seen and done too many things in this world to believe in that mumbo jumbo.
3. No, it wouldn't make me think about my actions. But I would think it hypocritical of him to complain about my actions if he was willing to do the same.
2007-08-31 10:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand this, your man cheated and got caught. You are really hurt but hesitate to crucify him because you are guilty of this or something just as bad. If you love him, forgive him and vow to be faithful from here forward. Remember, you can't control what other people do, and you can't change what you have already done. Just get on the high road and stay there and you will have peace. If he cheats again, you have done nothing wrong and he loses you. You will find someone you deserve.
2007-08-31 10:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy t 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont cheat....becuase i know that i would never want someone to do that to me.....if my partner ever cheated on me...i wouldnt tolerate it and break up..and i wouldnt listen to their excuses becuase they've already lost my trust.
I believe karma will catch up on what the cheater has done. Thats why i wouldnt plan any revenge plans becuase what goes around will come around.
2007-08-31 10:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can anyone cheat on the person they love? when you love someone, you want to bring happiness to that person, not pain. You think about consequences when you think about doing something like that. If you cheat, obviously your relationship wasn't that important to you and you have no concern for the person's feelings. that doesn't sounds like love to me, more like selfishness. Just my opinion.
2007-08-31 22:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be absolutly crush. I think it is karma because I cheated on every boyfriend I ever had because I didn't care. burt then I met a guy and fell in love with him and guess what he did. he cheated on me and I was heart brocken. I haven't cheated since and never will again.
2007-08-31 10:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not cheat just to get even because in the end the relationship is ruined anyway, I would walk away and go find someone that is loyal and trustworthy
2007-08-31 10:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Frank L 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I believe in Karma...good and bad....If you do good things...good things will come to you...if on the other hand you do bad things...bad things will come to you...I do see karma as a pay back of sorts...but I don't believe in an eye for an eye so to speak...in other words I don't feel like I have to cheat on my husband if he cheated on me.
2007-08-31 10:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reading list below can act as a source for you. Most of the titles can be found in your local library. If they don't have them they can borrow them from another library.
Surviving, repairing and recovering after infidelity
http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-repairing-and-recovering-after-infidelity/lm/R3VDATQL6G5HPK/ref=cm_lm_byauthor_title_full/002-3352010-2594421
2007-08-31 10:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋