When I don't feel like having sex my husband gets sad and thinks I'm not attracted to him anymore, but it couldn't be further from the truth. Do you men feel like that when your wife doesn't want ot have sex?
2007-08-31 02:56:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL. My hubby gets kinda pissed when I don't want to, too.
I think it's a machista thing. They wnat to feel wanted all the time. But the fact is, sometimes we are tired!
2007-08-31 03:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There can be a sense of rejection. I do not think that is necessarily has to do with a man's macho side. Men usually want sex more often than women. It is hard to deal with the fact that your wife doesn't want to have sex. If you have a great evening of being together and going out while being affectionate the entire time - holding hands, kissing, being close and nothing happens when you get home it is easy to question the depth of the attraction your wife would have towards you. You may also question your adequacy in that department (which would be more on the macho side). I would not question my wife's attraction to me, but I think there is a difference in being attracted to someone and being sexually attracted to someone.
2007-08-31 06:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually want sex a lot more than he does and when he doesn't want to, I feel rejected. I'm kind of like Sex is so wonderful, why wouldn't you be in the mood for it? I'm pretty much always in the mood so I guess I don't get it.
2007-08-31 04:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection of sex can be very hurtful to a man. Stripe away everything he has money, title, career, and leave him bare and exposed with nothing, but who he is and then say, "No, not interested". Its a rejection of us at our weakest state. If it happens enough men start to feel resentment and believe that they are only there are a wallet or arm candy, but that the woman doesn't really care about the man at all.
So I would say rejecting a human for sex can make the man feel rejected as a person.
2007-08-31 03:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel sad, but I do understand that she's not going to want it every single time I do, and vice versa. I can tell you, though, that if your husband honestly thinks a sexual rejection means you're not attracted to him, he has a pretty bad case of irrational thinking. It's a dangerous habit for him to allow himself to think that because it can lead to depressed moods. A brief course of therapy with a Cognitive-Behavioral model counselor would be very beneficial for him.
2007-08-31 03:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is aggravating that women seem to find me attractive and I have declined more than one innapropriate suggestion only to be rejected at home by the love of my life. These invitations get more tempting if I haven't had sex in two weeks. So, to answer your question I get that way if it has been a while and my advances seem ineffective. If we have sex and then she declines two days later I don't get upset.
2007-08-31 03:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I get very frustrated with getting put off with some excuse; and then my wife will spend an hour doing laundry and 2 hours watching TV but doesn't have any time for me?
And after several nights being put off if I get frustrated and tell her "no" when she finally decides to "do me the favor" - then suddenly she's raging mad for days about it, but it's not ok for me to get upset for being told no?
2007-08-31 03:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to go ahead and do it anyway. Do you really want to get the kids up every morning and get them off to school? Do you really want to go grocery shopping or cook dinner? There are lots of things we really don't want to do every day that we do anyway. We make sacrifices because we have to. Is your husband really less important than all those other things?
Try putting yourself in his shoes and see how many times you could take the rejection before feeling sad and thinking he is not attracted to you. I guarantee it won't be many.
While I certainly don't advocate cheating, it really is no wonder men consider it giving wives' attitudes towards pleasing their husbands.
2007-08-31 03:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Reject him too often and he WILL find it elsewhere. It is a man's nature. Look at the animal kingdom. Males are always fighting to get the female. The entire male species is horny 90% of the time. Just do it to him or he'll get it somewhere.
2007-08-31 04:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by T Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that woman too feel rejected when their hubbies say no or they are too tired. I would feel rejected if it was me. But, I do understand when my hubby is tired and has a hard day or isn't feeling well. So yes guys should understand this too...lol
2007-08-31 03:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋