I think that people get married for different reasons: Love, friendship, companionship, teamwork, etc.
My potential would be a very loyal wife and a fantastic mother. Is that a good enough reason to marry her, or should I hold out for love, friendship, etc.?
2007-08-31 02:28:22 · 35 answers · asked by Shark with a Fricken Laserbeam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you do what you think is right. She will be loyal to you and if you don't love her as much as you think you should ask this question. Will you be loyal to her? Then go ahead. You will be in love with her eventually.
2007-08-31 02:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Xtrax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion you should hold out for someone that has it all. Loyal wife, good mother, love, friendship, companionship and good teamwork. If you try to marry for something any less then it will never last. You should look for the person that does it all for you so you can live "happily ever after." Otherwise you will be miserable. Happy searching!
2007-08-31 02:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kerri W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a good reason to get married. There are lots of people out there that I could have married because they would have been good husbands/fathers, but I wouldn't have loved them!
When you say your vows at your wedding, you are promising to love her, and only her. If you don't love her, then you are lying. Also, whats the rush? Is this the last girl on earth that could possibly be a good wife/mom? I doubt it.
I'm not saying that the marriage wouldn't last, because it very well could outlast many marriages that start out full of love. It's just that you'll be missing a great part of the marriage early on. You may grow to love each other, but it won't be the same as starting out that way.
2007-08-31 02:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reason is not good enough to get married. I feel you should spend time getting to know this potential life mate. And become friends with them, I have found this helps tremendously. I should love the person you end up marrying and not just marry someone whom you perceive to be loyal and a good mother. Because unless she has kids already, you never know. I didn't know my husband would make a good father until we had dated for years and discussed how to raise a child. Then I could tell he would be a great father.
2007-08-31 02:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these things are key values of yours, and hence things that you find very attractive in a partner, then maybe it is also about love, and because of similar values and loyalty, also about friendship and teamwork in creating and raising a family together. There are a lot of other issues, including related to culture, and that can change things like values and how you view love and marriage. If you have significant doubts, I hope you have the chance to work them out before you get married. Maybe you should talk to your potential partner about it more too. Good luck.
2007-08-31 02:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're talking about an Irish Setter.
A couple needs something to get them through the hard times. Call it love, call it lust, call it stubbornness - something.
Simple friendship isn't strong enough. Neither is romantic love.
The most effective thing is the decision that the couple is determined to live and make a life together. Love facilitates getting to that decision point. Usually because it disappears.
Makes ya wonder about those wedding invitations that start 'Today I will marry my friend...'
2007-08-31 02:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to care for her some. Loyalty is a definite plus, and the mother part is good if both of you intend to have children. But you really should have some positive feelings towards her before you marry. If you don't, at the least it will be an awkward arrangement and at the most it could end your marriage.
Hold out for friendship at least.
2007-08-31 02:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that people get married for different reasons, but I think it's worth holding out for the love of your life. I feel like the marriages that aren't based on love have a much better chance of failing. I'm not sure though, I'm not married...just my 2 cents =)
2007-08-31 02:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's primitive that's for sure!
I don't think you can have all the things you want from a wife if the is no love.
If you are looking specifically for those things without entertaining the idea of love you'll end up a sad and lonely person with no basis for a lasting relationship.
Would you like to be thought of as a contract instead of a person? 'cos that 's how it reads to me.
Give love a try you might like it.
2007-08-31 02:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Spammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the good reason but you cannot just never mind the 'love' thing because for me your married life will not work if love is not in there. if you love each other both of you will do your best to be a better husband and wife and mother and father to your children...
2007-08-31 02:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mechiel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one good reason to get married...Love. You can friends and parents and whatever else without marraige. If your not absolutely sure you are in love, I don't reccommend it. I have been married for 10 years and I absolutely love my wife more everyday. I guarantee if you get married for any other reason, you will end up getting divorced. I have seen it too many times by friends and family.
2007-08-31 02:36:26 · answer #11 · answered by Cup of Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋