It can start from from something as trivial as putting my feet up on the coffee table, she shouts at me at the top of her lungs, even the nieghbours arent spared of any of her obscenities...
she scratches me, pinches me really hard, punches me in the face,
Alas, she's even started to bite me now...
WHAT CAN I DO TO CONTROL THIS RABID DOG OF A WIFE OF MINE?
HELP!!!
2007-08-31 01:02:35 · 28 answers · asked by PrinceOfDarkness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not control her, you divorce her! Once abuse starts it will only get worse. She does not respect you and therefore will continue to abuse you.
You need to get away from her and go find a woman who respects you.
Take care,
Troy
A few of the responses above are from people that do not understand abuse.
If you hit her back as PY said, the abuse will only get much worse.
If you were not afraid of the public opinion of you then you might have already gone to the police and/or filed for divorce.
Your coming to this forum is a definite step in the right direction. Just make sure that you follow the advice of those of us who understand your plight.
2007-08-31 02:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it won't be tolerated.
You can't fix her, but you can decide what you will put up with. She does it because she can. It is working for her.
Why anyone who says she loves you would choose to treat you like that is beyond me, but regardless, it ends today.
You let her know the rules have changed. She can take a time-out and talk when she is ready so you can come up with solutions together. If she is not able to control herself, then you won't be there to be abused. Get up, get out and stay out until she is cool. She could do the same. She should go walk it off and come back when she can act like a human being.
After you two agree on rules of engagement, then you let her know the next time she touches you, you will have her *** thrown in jail. Then do it. She needs to go see a therapist and learn better coping skills, problem solving skills, negotiation skills, and communication skills. You can help her if she chooses to help herself and agrees to change her behavior.
Abuse is a no-brainer deal breaker. She stops or she is history.
Please do not get this woman pregnant.
There are abuse crisis numbers in the Social and Human Services or Community Pages of your local phone book. Call one and discuss things. Then stand your ground and stop tolerating her stupid behavior before someone gets hurt. You deserve better and she knows it.
2007-08-31 08:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as the others said, or leave her. When she starts in, leave the house and see what she does. Or, if you have to, when she does something like that to you, you do the same to her. Yeah, yeah, men are not supposed to hit women, but women are not supposed to hit men either. The only reason she does this is bc she knows she can get away with it. The next time, push her hard onto the floor. When she bites or scratches, do the same to her. Give her a taste of her own medicine and she will quit that stupid stuff.
2007-08-31 08:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It called Physical Abuse.She is not going to stop it's only going to get worst. She needs anger management,if she refuses to get help then it's time for you to walk out on her. Physical abuse is wrong and it don't matter if it's the male or the female doing it.No one deserves to be treated this way .
2007-08-31 08:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...call the police. This is domestic abuse. The most unreported and undiscussed type of abuse is where the male is being abused. It is more common than most people realize. There is nothing you can do to make her stop. You have to consider your well being and happiness and move on and out with your life. God Bless.
2007-08-31 08:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs help. But you don't have to put up with the abuse. Give her a choice -- either she seeks help for her issues, or it's over. I agree with everyone else, call the police.
2007-08-31 09:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's awful! You need to get out of this situation. If you have children, they definitley don't need to see this kind of thing going on!! I would tell her she help (anger managment) if she doesn't want to do that than she doesn't care about you or your feelings!
2007-08-31 08:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jen E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her! Honestly if you are getting abused there is no need in staying ina relationship like that. Leave her now before it gets worse!
2007-08-31 09:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this actually bothers you, wouldn't you have called the police or have gotten a divorce by now?
2007-08-31 08:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by mom to be 6/27/09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you try to be nicer and not that childish with her? Try that and let us know. OK?
And if she is the same as before, dump her immidiately couse it will get even worst.
2007-08-31 08:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by pussycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋