I have a friend name gabriel that wishes to tell his current girlfriend that he is gay. He's been having relationships with this one man he met in a math class at school for a few months now. No one knows he is gay, but wants to come out. How can he tell his girlfriend, family, and friends that he is gay without being hurt or having a smothed transition into a gay life?
2007-08-31 00:36:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He needs to take it very slow. There is no hurry in coming out. He doesn't need to lead this girl on but if he is not ready to come out, and is aware of all the potential consequences of doing so, he could tell her. He just needs to be careful. Chances are if he tells her the truth they will break up and it may hurt her. On the other hand if he just breaks up and lies to her it will also hurt her.
Good luck to both of you. Just be there for him and to support him.
2007-08-31 01:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
seem Gabriel its O.ok. to be gay you do not could desire to act like it is not you. no one be conscious of who you're on yahoo. Bread up along with your lady chum and then enable time flow by and then come out of the closet.
2016-10-17 07:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision to come out of the closet can be a difficult one, and you can't be certain how someone will react until you come out to that person -- You can, however, take steps to make the coming-out process as smooth as possible.
For instance, try to avoid coming out during a family crisis, wedding, funeral, before an important family holiday or when you're feeling especially angry or sad -- The best time to come out is when you are feeling good about yourself.
Best wishes, Gabriel.
2007-08-31 01:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hey need,
That's a question we'd all like to find a miracle
answer for, because it's so complicated.
The way I handled it is I kept my girl - friends,
and told them if they wanted to get serious that
I really liked them, but actually I prefer guys.
All but a few were OK with it.
The family...that's where it gets gnarly.
My mother still doesn't really know, but she's a
Baptist fundie so even at 82 she would probably
bend my skull with a rolling pin.
You have to be selective in who you tell.
After all, it's really not many people's business
who you desire sexually, is it? Unless Gabe is so
proud of himself he wants to flaunt it. If that's the
case, well, he will just have to take his lumps.
2007-08-31 01:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by teetiger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pick a quiet, private, sober moment.
Be honest. Tell the truth. Don't leave room for doubt or mis-interpretation.
Cry, hug, console...leave time for them to react. Don't argue.
Expect the worst and hope for the best.
Pray before you speak; pray that God will give you the right words to say at the right time, and in the right way.
2007-08-31 01:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your "friend" to be a man and stop leading his girlfriend on.
2007-08-31 01:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
So, open the door for him......
2007-08-31 00:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by deb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋