My partner is f*cking terrible. When he goes downtown it feels like a dog slobbering all over me.
Should I leave him?
We've been together 3 years and I don't think I can take it anymore!
2007-08-30 22:40:24 · 8 answers · asked by Trout Pout (Lollie) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, it doesn't matter if I talk to him... he's 33. If by now he is still crap at it, then I doubt he will ever improve
2007-08-30 22:50:48 · update #1
Wow, this is very interesting, a woman asking if sex is important, and a guy who does not get it (okay maybe the guy who does not get it believable)
You been with him for three years so there must be something there other than sex that has kept you there, but know you are doubting it, which means someone else probably has caught your attention. You are wondering if they would be better. We live our lives day by day always wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes it is, and sometimes it is not. The thing is you have to live with what you decide.
So, consider the pros and cons. What ever you decide I wish you the best.
2007-08-31 02:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by MOs fishin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sex isn't everything in a relationship...there's love, compatability, trust, committment...but take away sex and see how long the relationship lasts! I've known many people that have stayed in bad relationships because the sex was good...and there are thousands of people who have "FWB" relationships...but few stay in sexless relationships....Hmmm...I guess that means that it's pretty important!
You say that "talking to him would do no good because he's in his 30's??" You are NEVER too old to learn! If he loves you...then he should be willing to do anything to make you happy!! Don't tell him he's no good...Don't tell him it feels like a "slobbering dog"...Rather, compliment him on the things that he does that DOES feel good...drop subtle hints about things he could try differently....tell him about a dirty story you were reading where the guy in the story did...______......and it REALLY got you turned on...I guarantee he'll do what you describe!
You don't mention anything about the rest of your sex life...Is he terrible at lovemaking? Does he do other things that turn you on? You only mention one thing....and if being bad at "going downtown" is grounds for you to leave him....then you've got bigger issues than just sex....
Communication can fix almost anything....but you have to do it right.
Good luck...I hope things get better for you!
2007-08-31 06:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important to a romantic relationship.But, its not every thing.You can fix the sex thing.Talk to him and tell him what you do and don't like.After 3yrs you at least should do this,give him a chance.He may not know what he is doing is not the way you do it.If there is no improvement after your talk,then you should break up with him because you will never be happy with his performance.
2007-08-31 05:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communicate with him. if you feel awkward telling him that you dont like how he does things, then try guiding him and while he is in the middle of it, just drop little hints. but i dont think that is anything to break up with him over, esp. if you have been together for 3 yrs. communication is the key.
2007-08-31 05:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES and don't feel bad. I dont even have any1 to do that to me.
However IF he means that much to you talk to him about a new "technique". Aren't there even books now ? Lol.
2007-08-31 05:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you not tell him diplomatically how you prefer it? I think sex is very important but is there to be enjoyed not dreaded....
2007-08-31 05:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by louisejones31 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to him ,how u would prefer it if he doesnt agree leave him.
2007-08-31 05:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by S S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very important! :D you just gotta let him know how to do it better.
2007-08-31 05:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋