Are there still different expectations for sons and daughters in the culture where you live?

Answer 1

Where i come from, there are certain "guidelines" or "should be"'s that an ideal son or daughter should achieve, but it doesn't mean that we have to strictly adhere by them; it's more like "what a culture or society perceives as good sons or daughters" rather than direct rules and stipulations.

Now regarding what those guidelines are, they still differ within the subcultures of a specific culture; for example, the society where i live in consist of many races, predominantly Filipino and Chinese. Some chinese classmates of mine are not allowed to go out on dates with non-chinese people, but it is not so vice versa. It may be hard to spot the same kind of expectations save the very general ones like those regarding curfews, general good behavior and the like.

Another factor is globalization. During my parents' time, there were very numerous traditional rules like "a guy should court a girl for a long time before they are allowed to go out on a date", or something similar. But with the mixing of different cultures, those traditions that were once very obvious are now blurred by other society's beliefs. So there is some degree of sameness with regard to expectations.

So in essence, what i'm trying to say is that yes there are different expectations; i just can't point out all of those differences bacause of the effects of time, globalization and sheer number of different viewpoints, traditions and perspectives. I hope i got to answer the question to your liking.

Answer 2

Oh definitely...not to say that I agree with them, however.

I remember a time when my son was just a baby. He and I were always very close. I carried him around with me everywhere. My mother-in-law used to tell me to put him down, because carrying him around like that would turn him into a "mama's boy." (Me being the stubborn, thinking-for-myself type paid her no mind.) He's 18 now...and a devilishly masculine man. No hint of "mama's boy syndrome"....lol!

When my son was about three years old, his father came home early one day and discovered his son playing with his sister's Barbie dolls. He took those dolls away faster than you can say "daddy's homophobic"...lol! It broke my heart to see the way his father handled the situation. Fearing repercussions from dear old "dad" I did not give my son back those dolls after his father left again. I'm ashamed to say I didn't stand up to him on that one. I'm certain that doll-playing would not have led to whatever it was his father feared it would lead to.

Yes, gender expectations are still alive and well. I'm not sure I believe that it's a good thing. I think we should teach our children to explore all aspects of their humanity. Maybe then we'd live in a world that sees and respects the qualities of each gender and race. Maybe we'd even see each other as having more in common than we do differences. I think that would be ideal.

Answer 3

Those expectations will exist as long as humans are divided into male and female. By the very fact that we have different physiological roles in the continuance of our species, we will have differing expectations placed upon us as children and throughout the rest of our lives. It's not a question of should those differences exist, but whether those expectations are unduly attributed without any basis in reality.

Expectations and prejudices which are by their very nature artificial, like women aren't as intelligent as men, or men shouldn't be as emotionally demonstrative as women, are in fact artificial. There are others that all of us can think of, whether we are male or female. Each of us (by gender) have experienced some form of discrimination based on sexual bias. What really hurts, is when we don't acknowledge our own contribution to the disparity and discrimination which is maintained in our society.

Shingoshi Dao

Answer 4

I think that in North America it really varies. When I was growing up in the 50's & 60's even though it was before liberation I came from a family of 4 girls and two boys. We girls were taught to be strong and independent. We did yard work as well as housework. We were also told we could be anything we wanted to be. On the other hand my mother doted on my brothers and they didn't do anything. As females we were much more youself to my mother as cooks and housemaids.
My sisters and I grew up to be independent women who got married, had children and also had careers. Strangely enough all of us had sons who range from 20's to 30's and they are educated and successful young men except for 1 my brothers son

Answer 5

i am from india and in our place sons are expected to hang around with friends and jump up and sit on wall, climb trees and they can hang outside till about 8 or 9. they r ok 4 civil services and politics. they drink and smoke.
girls r supposed to go to school, come back, do their studies, help out at home, learn cooking and there is less social interactions. we r not to go outside after six and r even controlled if just to go to a neighbours. we dont often go to shops only boys do but we might at a certain situation. we r not expected to get into politics though some women do. we should choose teaching, architect, etc. after marriage we r expected to lead the life of a housewife. we r not to drink or smoke.

Answer 6

in india parents expect more from sons than from daughters- they believe that daughter will leave the house and enters into others family and she changes her family name to husbands family name

Answer 7

It has considerably decreased.
But I think it still exists in villages.

Answer 8

sons - action figures, superman, color blue, strong
daughters - teddy bears, barbie, color pink, pretty

U.S.A

Answer 9

Very much!