I work for my father's business and I found out that different individuals have been whisping and when I come into the room they stop, these people are range from 35-50yrs, is there anyway I can put a stop to it?
2007-08-30 22:24:35 · 13 answers · asked by sunflower 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
If any employer tried to stop me from talking in the workplace, I would quit. Here in UK, employees are allowed to talk among themselves
2007-08-30 22:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So long as you are doing your job well without pulling rank or playing off your family connections, and working within the team (and provided hiring you didn't get someone else fired or demoted) whispering isn't something you should really worry too much about. It's a natural occurrence because you're new and it will take a while for them to accept you - basically you're on probation as far as they're concerned until you're judged worthy of being included. The fact that you're the boss's daughter makes the trial period longer, especially if you haven't been much involved with the business up to now.
It's not just members of the "ruling family" who get talked about, and if there is a problem you will know about it soon enough, or your Dad will. I freely admit to "whispering" negatively about an office colleague who is absolutely no relation to any of the partners (suspect, in fact that they were hatched in a failed experiment and escaped from a lab somewhere). This person, when not being nauseatingly obsequious to the partners, attempts to patronise and treat the rest of us as ignorant, unskilled subordinates despite working here less time than most of us and an equal. They also attempt to convey the impression that they are highly competent and computer literate, and try to offload the responsibility for mistakes and problems onto anyone else who has been involved or failing that, computer/program/file failure (in fact just user error!). Constant references are made to how closely they work with the partners, with attempted "look aren't we so chummy" demonstrations whenever their manager in particular is around. They also try to pull rank on us by making complaints and insinuations to the partners about our being "mean", "rude", "unprofessional", and "ignoring" them. Guilty as charged to the latter as it's the only way to stay sane!
In my case, the partners are aware of the problem (quite funny really - the manager's face is an absolute picture when my colleague is being particularly slimy, a bit like he's getting rheumatic feet from all that bootlicking), but they can't do much about it since sliminess and a serious inferiority complex aren't sackable offenses and there's no concrete proof of the rest. If you're really worried, talk to your father about it and ask his advice, but DON'T name names or ask him to follow up - if he feels it's necessary he'll do it on his own terms.
Good luck, do your job, and wear a smile. If you're into cooking, bringing in homemade edibles may help, but it's a "stealth" tactic so don't make a fanfare just tell people to help themselves.
2007-08-31 08:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by roza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rumor mill is an annoyance, but very real. And the older some people get instead of growing out of it, they gorw more proficient at it -- sad but true.
Sometimes when we can't rid ourselves of a thing, we must learn to use it to our advantage, as this is what distinguishes leaders/biz owners from the masses. The ability to utilize circumstances to one's advantage.
Also, the more 'they like you' the better.
2007-08-31 07:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by LadyB!™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the boss is your father, then there is little you can do about it. That's because they are talking about your dad or about ambiance in the company or anything else they don't want you to report about to your father.
It's always a problem when someone hire (and promote a bit too much, and too easily) his own children.
2007-08-31 05:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Space Bluesman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its probably because they either dont like your dad or they don't like you.
Just tell them to stop whispering like babies, your not there to spy on them for your dad and couldn't care less what they think of him, they are their to do a job and as long as the job gets done, that is all that counts. Try to be friendly with them and they will (maybe) be ok with you.
2007-08-31 05:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - you are in a difficult position ,.. being the bosses daughter - the troops are obvioulsy talking about your Dad - the business in general - and they dont want you to get wind of what they think - because you will tell your dad...its normal practice to moan about the boss..dont take it personally,
2007-08-31 05:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, that's just part of life. People are allowed to communicate - you have no idea WHAT they're saying, you only suspect it's something about your father because he's the boss.
Just ignore them, if they think they're getting to you, they may just become more annoying.
2007-08-31 08:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. It is extremely poor manners, but people do it. I get a sense you think they are talking about you. And maybe they are. Don't let it get to you. What you could do when you catch them, is walk up to each of them and ask them how their day is going. Be pleasant, but it let's them know you are watching and listening. You're the boss's kid, of course they are going to talk.
2007-08-31 07:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time when you walk into the room and it all goes quiet just say "Don't stop on my account" then rise above it! this might shut them up!
2007-08-31 05:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by vampini 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not a real estate question.
But you can't stop people from talking, in whispers or otherwise. If you don't like it, move on yourself.
2007-08-31 06:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋