im wondering..my guy he just got to know me..i mean we've been in a relationship for 2 weeks+..but on the day he got my number,right after that day,he already talk to me about getting engaged or even married..isnt he a bit rushing..?? i dont know why he's into me..??im confused..is he really serious with me or just want to get married with me because no one wants him cause he's a bit old..as in he's 24..or is he just curious for sex..??
2007-08-30 22:14:47 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Red Flag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-07 06:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by rainydaze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 is NOT old. Far from it. If he is trying to rush you into marriage you are right in thinking here is something wrong here.
Look, I've heard of people who meet one day and just click and run off to wed and have been happily married ever after. But it doesn't happen on a daily basis. You need time to cultivate a relationship. And if you are young enough to consider 24 as old you are too young to be in a serious relationship.
As for he sex, I hope you have not gone there. Sex is for marriage not for playtime or curiosity seekers.
You need to send this guy on his way and find someone your own age.
2007-09-06 04:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of 24 is not old alright but besides that people that try to get married early on in their relationship lack self confidence they tend to feel that the only way to have a serious relationship is by being married and they don't want to be old and alone. If it doesn't sound right is most likely wrong
2007-09-07 02:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by dominiki22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious to know how old you are(???) You sound like you may be pretty young, since you see 24 as old.
2 weeks is hardly enough time to get to know some one enough to want to spend a lifetime with them! I do not really know this guys motives, but he is rushing and pressuring you and that is never a good sign. Slow things down, you have plenty of time to get married. You honestly do not sound mature enough or ready for that just yet,
2007-09-07 20:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by deeterluvscj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this voice in your head that is causing you to question his motives is called "common Sense". This guy doesn't know you in 2 weeks and won't know you well enough in 2 months. Be very suspicious of this rush to get married. he is either a control freak or in trouble with the law and looking for a quick fix for money or immigration problems.
Tell him you are not even close to being ready and that you would need a minimum of a year to make such a decision. If it is the real thing, he will still be there in a year. But if his motives are shady, he will move on to an easier mark and you will probably save yourself from a world of pain.
2007-09-06 15:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be lots of reasons for this "rush" none of which make it O.K. This is a person that you need to get away from. Marriage is not to be taken so lightly even though people often do so. If a person is really serious about making a vow before God to love, protect, cherish and provide for someone, they should certainly be "in love" and should know that person. He hardly knows you so I doubt if he will do all the rest. Keep looking, if you pray and put God first, he will direct you to someone that will actually fall in love (and not in lust) with you and you will love that person as well.
2007-09-07 20:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ann M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one with the problem if you have to ask that question. Of course it's a bit rushing! You don't even know eachother. If you get married to someone you don't even know, then you're getting a divorce. What a lovely future you would have to look forward to.
C'mon, use a little common sense here. There is something wrong with that guy, because he's certainly not normal. Not only wouldn't I marry him, but I wouldn't even date him. Get rid of him, he's too weird!
2007-08-30 23:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is that desperate to get married, there is something wrong with him, or with the way he lives, or the reason he wants you is because he thinks that you are so young that you would make this stupid decision because you want to get married, all he wants is someone to dominate. Be careful, find out where he lives, with whom he lives, and everything you can about him. Do not ask your friends, he may be living with a problem that would be hell once you are trapped in marriage. Be careful of this man, he is very unstable.
2007-09-05 22:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont rush into marrying a guy u just met, it will never work. i married a man after knowing him a month and it isnt working hes beat me and cheated many times. u dont know this guy well enough to marry him. and hes not old, 24 isnt old.
2007-09-07 13:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by renae2007_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 is far from old. But it is a little soon to rush the marriage/engagement talk. Just take it slow or tell him to slow it down ..It could be b/c he wants to have sex with you..You have to hold out and take your time. Don't feel pressured to do anything that you aren't ready for.
2007-08-30 22:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very odd. I would stop the whole thing if some guy seriously asked me to marry him after one day. Something is wrong there. Be careful.
2007-09-06 17:04:07 · answer #11 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋