And why are they always so nice to other ladies n not their wives always.
2007-08-30 20:48:46 · 25 answers · asked by candie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think most people do try and have respect for strangers whether they be the same sex or opposite...What happens in a marriage or any relationship over a period of years is 'familiarity', we grow into taking each other for granted. It's not that we quit loving one another, it's just that we've learned to take each other for granted...We know for instance that she will cook the dinners, or that he will mow the lawns and take out the garbage...Although we are grateful, we don't show it as much anymore...Keeping romance in a marriage is work, you have to make a conscience effort to have that candle-light dinner once in awhile, or to go on a date now and then to someplace special. You need to plan a surprise for your mate, sweep him/her of their feet. We tend to get into a rut, especially if children come into the scene...
2007-09-05 08:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have not lost the art of romance, they have lost interest in their wives and it is just something men do naturally. They are always looking and they are charming to new women they meet, because the women represent a conquest to them. Wives are boring after 10 years unless they keep the marriage interesting and pay attention to their husband and his issues. Hard to take these changes, but if you want your marriage to last, you may have to do some things you do not want to, or that YOU are bored doing also. Good luck, but do not waste time on a marriage if it is over, it does not pay.
2007-09-05 16:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does happen to some but with othere it will i think depend on what is happening in the relationship. Maybe they are nice to others because they see it as a fresh challenge or want attention. Flirting is often done and it may even go back as far as our predatory days - wow thats getting a bit deep.
Ultimately it depends on what the couple are saying to each other that will determine the level of romance.
2007-08-31 13:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the art of romance is not what only the men should deal with in the married life. Love (which makes the art romance live) is like a garden, which should be weeded, watered, cleaned and looked after by both of the partners on a daily basis. If they don't forget about this, if they really take care of it TOGETHER, the romance will never disappear and their love will grow and bloom day after day till the end of the time.
2007-08-31 04:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by MissisX 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometime they do, they get into such a routine that they feel they do not have to romance there wife. Thats sad because many marriages end in divorce this way. Husbands are so sure of what they have they feel they dont have to romance there wifes and feel they can flirt with other women. Talk to your husband about it, tell him get out of the rut. Play the reverse role model be very nice & sweet to him when he responds with itimacy role over and when he complains whats wrong let him have it.
2007-08-31 09:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl 9 time's out of 10 they dont make it past the 1st 18 months before romance dies , and for why are they nicer to other women who arent their wives thats simple.
They dont have to wake up beside them and see them without their hair and make up done , they dont have to listen to "Oh honey by the way on your way home from work could you?,or "Oh no the kids broke this or that and then listen to her go off ", or "Not tonight baby I'm sorry but I was up all night last night with baby #3 and I'm sooo tired I vacuumed , mopped the floor's , did the clothes washing , did the shopping and mum dropped by and".
You get my drift yet?
Its easier to be nicer to someone who isnt living with you then it is to be nice to the woman who threw her dreams away for you.
2007-08-31 04:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exceptions are always there. But generally men do not do so, provided you remain with him romantic as you were when you got married.
Romance can never be lost. It is reciprocal phenomenon.
Extend romance and receive romance.
Do not think such negative things. Pay attention, care and love to your husband. And sex daily if possible. You will have to satiate him sexually, emotionally and mentally. Be a caring wife.
2007-09-06 03:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by james love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know... a while back, I wondered about this. I felt like my husband was taking advantage of me and treating other women better than me.
But I got my answer one night at a party:
My neighbor (a woman that my husband is usually VERY nice to because she's attractive) was at a party at our house for Fourth of July and got fairly drunk. Even though he had been innocently flirting with her all night, I noticed that when she complained that she felt like she was going to puke, he didn't say a damn word.
And I thought to myself, "Hmmm... when I'm sick, he takes care of me to the point of almost being annoying... I don't see him doing that for her."
I came to the conclusion that not only do wifes feel taken advantage of, and may actually be, but husbands do as well.
Things have been a lot different since that night. Before, I might have gotten mad at the extra attention he showed her in flirting with her, but now, I smile because I know who he comes home to, I know who he takes care of, I KNOW WHO HE LOVES.
2007-09-06 02:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by rockerbarbie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think longer relationships are harder to keep because they need constant attention for a long time ( in a marriage for your whole life) . I think men forget the young passion when they have been married for a long time instead the love becomes etched into their hearts and is stronger than young passion. I think they seem nicer to other woman because they are a change but they still love their wife.
2007-08-31 04:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by ellacoolgirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think that they do.
It's like when a child gets a new toy. When they first get it, they play with it and play with it and give heaps of attention. After a while the fun wears off, and they start to notice other toys in the shop. Don't worry. One day, he'll be looking in a box of all his old things and find his old toy and realize how much he loves it and will start playing with it again. Or he will loose it and IF he finds it again, he will be grateful and will give it even more attention.
2007-08-31 04:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Burris 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋