How much will he pay?

Question

i am very unhappy in my marriage and really want out the problem is he never let me work in tweny years,and now says how will i pay the bills as i am not good at nothing,are house is rented and i have two small children how much maintenance does he have to pay for each child in the uk ,as i will work at what ever if i can just get by

I am not a gold digger i have put up with a lot of abuse in my marriage because i had no where to turn too i don,t what any money for me i just want to make sure i can cope on my own ,for my kids sake

Answer 1

Now i aint saying shes a gold digger.....

Answer 2

It doesnt matter how much money you put into the relationship. It sounds like you kept the home and looked after the kids. This will carry eqaul weight with any divorce court.
I would say that you will get half the value of the estate as well as half the money in any joint accounts.
I cannot guess about how much maintenance you would get because that depends on his income and the standard to which you live. Eg, a wife who lived in a 10 bedroom mansion will get more then a wife who lived in a 2 bedroom estate semi.
Just speak to your solicitor.

Answer 3

Hi there, it seems that you have spent years being told that you are not good enough and you are not a gold digger. I'm in Ireland so I'm not sure how it works in the UK, I will tell youfrom my own experience that he will not be happy. Can you go to your local advice center? Then to the unemployment exchange? Maybe they could help. I do wish you luck and hope that it works out for you.

Answer 4

If you are in the UK and if you have 2 young children then you can claim income support from the DSS and housing benefit and council tax benefit (from the local council)so stop worrying - it sounds to me like he is trying to undermine ytour confidence , and quite successfully , as he likes you not being able to do things for your self as it keeps him in control. Do you have a bank account - if not get one opened even if the only thing you can get paid into it at the moment is child benefit. If it is going into his bank account at the moment open the bank account and then contact the child benefit people and have it changed to your own account. As soon as he leaves contact the DSS and your local coucil and arrange for the relevant forms to be sent to you. if you have difficulty filling them in go to your local CAB and they will help you. Once you have that sorted then contact the people you pay bills to (Gas / Electricity/ TV licence/any other bills) and arrange to pay bills in equal instalments on a monthly or weekly basis by direct debit directly from your bank account. It is not as hard as you think to manage without a control freak husband - though be prepared for him to get nasty when he realises you mean business - but then that is what solicitors are for so find one of those to get your divorce going on the same day you phone the DSS etc. Even if you are in a different country to the UK then most countries have similar systems.
Use this as a kind of tick list to work through and you will not go wrong. Hope it all goes well for you.

Answer 5

as your house is rented if it is in your name you can sign on to income support until you are able to go to work they will pay your rent , and for you and your children to live (go to your job centre they can help )

If the house is in his name have a word with the land lord and ask if you can carry on renting but housing benefit will pay your rent

if your partner is working i think it is about 30 % of earnings not a lot but if your on income support i think you will get £5.00 per child until you go to work full time then you will get the 30%

if you are not in a happy relationship you are doing the right thing.You will be ok and there are people out there that can give you the right information and help i chat to you and help if i can .

Answer 6

Seek legal help, a divorce lawyer will be the best person to advise you of all the ins and outs and particulars. I should think you would be entitled to something but it may not be much.

Even if you've never worked and have no skills, they'll always need people to stack selves at Asda.

Answer 7

U don't say that he's been bad to you just not made you happy - be aware that the law has changed and fathers now have the exact same rights to thier kids as the mothers do,

he has the same rights to them as you do, u can't just assume that they're going to stay with you cause that's not the way it works anymore.

Answer 8

By law he has to pay you child support every month so ring your local child support agency and give them an estimate of what he earns and give them the name of his boss and company he works for , also any other financial income he has , car , caravan , stuff like that.

Your entitled by law in divorce of 50%.

Dont let him tell you what are or your not he's not you and he's just mad because now your standing up for yourself good girl.

Answer 9

see an attorney, if he is abuse find a safe house.. he is manipulating you by saying your not good at anything.. he should have to pay child support and maybe even alimony to you because you never worked.. get out before your children follow and be come like him..

Answer 10

he has to pay 20% of his wages for the kids. there'll also be a maintenance agreement so that he has to pay you money too. Check out the CSA website for the childrens details.

Answer 11

being happy is the only reason you should be married at all. If you arent find out why and try to fix it, if you cant then maybe its time for a change. Im not married but i dont see staying in a relationship FOR LIFE if you arent happy.