Does Real Happiness lie in being neutral to happiness? Does Happiness rather elude us if we go all out for it?

Answer 1

One can not search for happiness,
that is saying that one is
coming from a place of unhappiness seeking happiness.
Happiness is not found or lost.
Happiness is a state of being,
which is not relative to anything outside of yourself.
Being happy is an inner feeling

People are happy they just don't know it.
If one stops for a moment
and allows the mind to still
remembers the breath only,
breathing deeper in and from the source,
allowing all thought to drop away,
as one gives it no energy, the mind is clear,
the breath is all.
There, right there, is the state of happiness.
Your inherent birthright, now and forever.

Answer 2

Hell No and Sort Of.

Happiness is the Joy derived from the sense that you are getting something you desire.

So if you want to be happy you need to be:
Getting something you want
OR
Wanting something you are getting.

With me? You need to:
Do something you think is important
OR
Consider as important whatever you are doing.

As many have pointed out, this is based on a mental state.
You cannot hunt happiness like it’s a rabbit. So if you go after 'Happiness' it will elude you 'cause there's nothing to chase.
Now if you go out after what you want, you may or may not get it. Being neutral never gets you happiness, chasing what you want, gets it sometimes.

Now you can work very hard, but if you think your job is meaningless, you will not be happy. On the other hand, if you think the pure appreciation of existence is important, gently raking sand can make you happy. What the Buddhist's have learned, is that Happiness can be achieved by keeping your desires very simple. Now I'm not recommending Buddhism, but they do seem to have a handle on the desire management end of happiness.

So to phrase it one more time. To be happy you must:
Do what you like. OR Like what you do.

One more thing. Enjoy the journey.
If you think it's only important when you get what want, you will not be happy until the moment of acquisition.
If you think it's equally important to be moving towards what you want, you will also be happy on the journey.
Since life is a journey, that means most of the time.

Answer 3

In my opinion, Happiness can only be found when not looking for it.If you go looking for it, you will be sadly disappointed by what you may find. To remain nuetral can't really make you happy either. To be nuetral would mean that you are rather apethetic...right? Happiness is very relative. It comes for a short time and leaves again, and may feel as though it was never there. Happiness depends upon the person

Answer 4

As long as you think real happiness is contentment, which I do, we are often "neutral" to it. Happiness won't elude us, though...it seems to blast in whether sought for or not!

Though actually some kinds of "happiness," like that found in drugs and other false tools, are as fake as the tool used. Then it definitely eludes us in the end.

Answer 5

Real Happiness?

Happiness is a pleasure thing.

It is possible to try and achieve happiness and find that it does not last forever but while it lasts it is none the less real.

Going all out is not the problem.

Not knowing where happiness is may be the problem.

Answer 6

In our human nature, we have this great need for self worth. Happiness is having self worth. The problem is that we don't have a framework to measure our own worth.

It seems most of us try to measure our worth though the real and imagined praise of others. I guess the logic is that if others praise us, we must have worth. So we set our goal to help others so we can gather real and imagined praise so that we can get feelings of worth which gives us feelings of happiness. The problem here is that when we honestly see that we are doing our good deeds, not to help others, but to use others to get good feelings, then we undermine the imagined praise we sought. So we have to deceive ourselves into thinking that our own pursuit of good feelings didn't have anything to do with our good deeds. When we base our worth on the praise of others, self deception is always a factor.

Real happiness can only be true if we base our worth on a relationship of love. A child, for example, has worth through the love of the parents and not because of any deeds the child can do. Some people have concluded that our Creator has put our need for worth in our human nature in order to point us to seek Him so that we can have our worth through our love for Him.

Answer 7

oh no...one should never be neutral to happiness...infact one can never be neutral to happiness...but for an instance if we are neutral to happiness...regret will follow...which will bring unhappiness. Happiness is to be happy, so be happy, no matter how short happiness is. Many a times we forget that "I exist", why should we suffer during the sad times and why shouldn't we be happy when happiness shows its happy face? one should never ever ignore or be neutral to happiness. because each one of us deserves to be happy!!

:)

Answer 8

(1) you in you should be satisfactory. (2) the atmospheres , environment and the thing or whatever-soever of your surrounding should be at your satisfactory. And by that's : (1) + (2) = will make you happy and satisfactory to your days of lives. And by that's , also , will not make happiness to elude you.

Answer 9

There is no harm in seeking happiness.Have you read the book 'Conquest of Happiness' by Bertrand Russel?

Answer 10

If you are in search of happiness be prepared for sadness because they come in pairs which cannot be avoided.