Help please my friend is cutting herself what should i do?
2007-08-30 19:42:53 · 13 answers · asked by Eazy-E is da sh*t 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her that you don't like that she does that and that you care about her. Have her promise to take care of her wounds to prevent infections or bleeding too much. Telling her parents or an adult might make things worse for her, so unless you know her home situation well, I don't suggest you do that. You can encourage her to seek help either from her parents or another adult.
Cutting is usually not a suicidal act and it's very difficult to accidentally cut too deep, although it can happen it is unlikely. Infections are more likely, but if she's taking care of her injuries she'll most likely avoid them.
Cutting can be a sign of an underlying mental illness, but doesn't have to be. It's a negative coping mechanism. Your friend is probably dealing with a lot of things at the moment. Encourage her to take up other coping mechanisms such as exercise, talking, crying, screaming or the arts.
2007-08-30 19:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a recovering cutter. People that cut have really deep self esteem problems and issues with self hate and feelings of worthlessness. These are not easily fixed, and all you can do is talk to her. You could try to talk her into getting some mental health help, but many people shy away from that out of being scared. Be there for her is all I can say. There's no easy fix for this one.
2007-08-31 02:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are awear of this cutting and that she can stop if she gets medical help. And some counseling. There is a pain so deep in her that this is a way she can deal with the stress. She is compelled to do so.
There is medication that helps with complusive behavior and depression. There is also counseling where she can get rid of or understand what makes her cut.
Tell her you will stand by her no matter what.
2007-08-31 02:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many friends who are cutters. It ranges from a girl who pokes herself with pins lightly when she is stressed to a guy who likes to look at his arteries. It is a stress coping mechanism and if you try to get her help likely she will be locked and chemically dosed until she isn't your friend... or even friendly.
I'd accept it as a part of her personality and talk things out with her when she needs talking... Give her that and she won't need to cut. Lecture her and you may drive her to worse things.
2007-08-31 02:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by disruption_grey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunely, this is one of those areas were you don't want to go to the professionals but it could be very dangerous to her so you really need to. You do not want to lose your friend. You do not want to have it on your heart if something happens even minor that you didn't go to someone for help. I feel for you because I have been there. Some people do it because they feel like they have no control over there life but they have control over cutting. Your friend needs some help. Please do not tell her you are going to go to someone, this could make the cutting worse. Try to be there for her and make them laugh. Tell them they are your friend and you do not like it when they do this because you care about them, and that they are to beautiful and special to have all these cuts and marks on them. I really hope this helps! Please let us know how it turns out.
2007-08-31 02:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by hottexanmommy2004 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell someone that is in a position to get help for her. She is crying out for attention. She needs therapy to overcome the depression that she is feeling. Suicide could be next if you don't get her help.
2007-08-31 02:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive.
Listen to them but don't force them to speak about it..
Don't get angry at them about it or force them to stop or even ask them too.
Tell them that you are worried about them and here for them if they need your help and that they can talk to you about anything..
You cannot force a person who is cutting to stop..
Simply be there for them and they will open up to you..
and try not to be too shocked at what they tell you..
good luck.
2007-08-31 02:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your friend why he did so?and then maybe you should talk your friend and ask what's the problem..and you should talk to his/her parents.you may also refer your friend to a counselor...hope this one helped!
2007-08-31 02:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by mitch_08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs help, professional help. get her into a program or something, tell her parents tell her boyfriend confront her do whatever you have to do but do something or it will get worse.
2007-08-31 02:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by beachbum 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to her. she needs advice. or accompany her in going to a professional.
2007-08-31 02:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by sterling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋