We recently got in an argument about how shes tired of the same thing... and she won't tell me what she wants, she says that she shouldn't have to ask!!! Any ideas on how I can "satisfy" her better???
2007-08-30 19:42:40 · 20 answers · asked by clerick145 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gees,, women really should come with an operator’s manual huh??? She won’t tell you what she wants and says she shouldn’t have to ask ?? WOW she does have some major communication “issues”. I would seriously reconsider the relationship if she doesn’t take any responsibility for her own happiness. (but that’s just me,, you have to make up your own mind) Anyway kudo’s for trying to figure out what trips her trigger even thou she refuses to tell you !!
1. Don’t jump right to the main course,, spend an hour (or more) on a back rub,, body massage, etc.. (basically non-sexual stuff,, but hands on)
2. Don’t be greedy,, “me first” isn’t working here,, concentrate on her !! watch for “signals”,, take your time,, spend a lot of time on foreplay,, spend a lot of time on foreplay. (it may take hours,, so be prepared !!)
3. Listen to what she “doesn’t say” but responds to.
4. TAKE YOUR TIME.. be slow,, methodical,,
5. Be playfully “teasing” with your touch,, don’t be “ham-handed”,, light touches are more electrical than rough handling…
6. set the mood,,, if she’s a “candle freak” and/or “smell freak” get and have on hand the appropriate candles-smells,, etc.. which she enjoys. (ya you may think they stink,, but it’s about her right??)
7. Even after she is “in the mood” don’t rush the activities,, vary your touch, speed, etc.. heightening her senses a little more each time. If you do this long enough,, don’t worry she’ll be begging for MORE! (should solve her communication "issue"..!)
It’s generally ½ as hard for mission control to launch a space shuttle,, but then again it’s twice as much fun and pleasurable watching a woman blast off !!
2007-08-30 21:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lovemaking should be a 24/7 endeavor. If you are always good to her out of the bedroom, things are usually better in the bedroom. But you could try surprising her with a "toy" or something. My mother once got my husband and I a sex game along the lines of truth or dare. That was kinda cool for something different. Try different positions and different approaches to the sex. Different rooms in the home. There are many, many ways to keep it interesting. If you try to surprise her, it would be more exciting for her. Hope this helps. (I just wanted to add that I find the simple fact that you want to satisfy her better very endearing. A lot of guys don't think like that, and if they do, they certainly don't admit it...you get a star.)
2007-08-30 19:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by momofoneson 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I admire your courage for asking this question brother. Awesome.
How open minded are you?
In my experience nothing livens up the world of sexuality more than spiritual practise. In particular Tantra.
If your really want to rock her world find out where your nearest Tantra workshop classes are and enrol. Independantly if you want to surprise her or together if she is open to it. I personally guarantee it will rip the lid off the world of sexuality as you know it. Give it a try. What have you got to lose?
2007-08-30 19:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg..she should share with u what she likes... thats how i learned... but be more of a foreplay guy in the beginging... do some romantic things. maybe invite her over and as soon as she pops in...pin her to the door and hav it hot and heavy..be an animal.. another time turn the lights out and let each other explore each other s body in the dark with only ur tongues... make sure u giv ur lady the oral pleasure always...make her *** first and always take care of her needs. tell her u love her and how beautiful she is and how she makes u feel when loving her... let her no u r going to F her brains out from time to time. be the bad boy/good boy.. mix and match it... always let her hav her moment and dont just blow ur load without servicing ur lady:)
2007-08-30 19:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her control in the bedroom. Tell her you want to fulfill her desires completely and allow her to order what ever she wants off the menu. This will at least give you a direction to head and a fun way to get there. If this is how things usually are for you then it's up to you to give the orders. Get your groove back my brother and rock her world.
2007-08-30 19:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by big bopper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't given us much to go on here...
Do you always use the same position or something? Are you giving her orgasms? Does she always have to start it up (initiate).
It's a bit infantile of her to not tell you what you can do better, are you sure she's old enough?
2007-08-30 19:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by A derka der 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has not experimented enough to know what she wants....just try some new things....tease her a little before actually going into it....have you tried clitoral stimulation...always works for me...or maybe you should visit your local adult shop......but i have to tell you this...it is more mental for women as compared to more physical for men....make sure she is in the right state of mind....that is a big help...~smile~
2007-08-30 19:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lemme tell you, I did that clitoral stimulation recently, and she was literally GROWLING. Don't know if that will work for yours, but you could try. Good luck with that.
2007-08-30 19:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda bs -telling you what she likes isn't her asking. if you dont know, then it's just informing you which is good for both of you to know. if she wont tell you just start trying out new things and see how she reacts to them.
2007-08-30 19:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by katy j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some books on the subject. You will be surprised what you will learn.
2007-08-30 19:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋