My friend grew up in a broken family, she currently split up with her hubby and would not get back with him because she is currently involved with her half brother. Her hubby discovered all about it and still tried to win her back to no avail. No one knows her relationship with her brother except me and her ex hubby. I cant stand the situation, she wont listen to me. It also turns out her brother is a womanizing jerk who keeps on hutirng her. She has 2 kids ages 11 and 9. What can i do to help her out of this situation? I am tempted to let her mother know but hesitant...pls help!
2007-08-30 19:27:39 · 11 answers · asked by mitchiko6teen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did everything you all adviced me, we already talked about it many times as we were very close, but she really cant let go, she says she's madly inlove with her bro. I'am afraid the kids will know, her eldest is my godson. I feel like i have to do something..my hubby adviced me not to meddle and esp not to tell her mother about it. He told me to just wait till she realizes her mistakes but i really cant stand it.
Do you think letting her relatives/mother know will only make matters worst? Im afraid because her mother has a heart problem, she might die if she knew...but i feel someone has to know....
2007-08-30 20:04:30 · update #1
all u can do is advise her against it.. tell her its wrong and how things could go terriblyn wrong.. she needs medical help {}
2007-08-30 19:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should make a serious talk with your friend even she won't listen to you. Because she needs professional help immediately. Her relationship will not only affect her badly but her children also which would be the worst part. What is she planning to tell her children when they'll grow up and learn her affair? She must be the model in her children's lives but not like this. If she will not listen to you then you can talk to her mother in a proper way not to panic her. And offer her to find a solution together. Because no named letters or calls may upset her mother a lot. Maybe you can find the right solution by thinking together.
Good luck
2007-08-31 02:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her husband to divorce her and take custody of the kid's if her brother can molest her and she can molest him those kids arent safe I cant understand why you let this go on without someone reporting her and her brother to the law and DSS.
This is wrong on so many levels and you and her husband are no better for helping her keep it a secret when you both knew it was sick and illegal and wrong , you should be disgusted with yourselves.
2007-08-31 05:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I can't believe this stuff happens for real! You can't really do anything about it. You could tell the mom, but that would probably result in your friend cutting you off all together. Its her life, and as much as you can see the train wreck coming - you can't really do all that much about it. I know its upsetting that he's a womanizer, but i think that's all you have going for you getting them apart at this point. Maybe she will get burned enough times for her to decide he's not worth it. She's lucky you care, but all you can do is tell her the truth and let her make her own decisions. I am sure it won't last forever.
2007-08-31 02:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get too involved, you may lose your friend. Just so you know, then there will be one less person to help her.
It sounds to me like the brother is abusing his sister. I don't know what the laws are where you are, but perhaps there's something you can get him on?
Talk to your friend and see if she will admit to you that she can't get him to leave her alone. In the end, you may have to threaten to call child protection services on her, as this situation does not sound at all healthy for them to be in.
I doubt that going through the mother would help anything.
2007-08-31 02:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really disturbing, illegal and she has seriously crossed the line. She has kids, too. If they are aware of this they are going to be effected horribly by this situation...I can't imagine my children knowing I am dating a half brother.
I usually don't agree with "telling on" an adult but in this case (for the sake of the children) I would say drop an anonymous note to Mom. It'll be very difficult for her to believe though, I'm sure, so you need to be prepared for this.
2007-08-31 02:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The mother should be told if she will not listen. That is a bad situation for the children, and if she were to get pregnant, she could have a mentally or physically handicapped child.
She needs psychiatric help.
2007-08-31 02:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can tell her mother, but what will that change? Your friend is making her own choices, good or bad. Stay out of it. You cannot "help her out of " a situation that she has chosen. Want to be a good friend? Be there when she falls, because she will.
2007-08-31 03:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by risa131313 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she have the kids? Can't her husband go to the police and tell them about it? I would stay out of it...but...I would keep my distance from her!
2007-08-31 12:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an anonymous phone call.. or send a letter.
2007-08-31 02:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋