Is suicide easier?

Question

My life is stressful, depressing all the time now, im becoming more anti-social since ive been hanging out with the girl i love again lately, im always angry, and im never like this. And now my love of my life is asking me to tell my friends im back with her even though they went through 20+ breakups to get me happy again and if i tell them im back, i will totally blow their trust and lose everyone close to me, and my birthdays next week. Not including things will be 20x harder to deal with with no one to hang out with when my love breaks my heart or hurts me in any way. My dad will also lose my trust, my mom and my brother as well as my cousin. Schools stressful, lifes stressful. I don't know what the hell to do. But i need suggestions, because id rather have things to aim for than commit suicide over it all.

Answer 1

Your friends care enough about you to help you through those 20+ breakups, so ditch the girl and go out for some beers with your bros. They care about you from what I can tell. She's just bringing you down.

Friends don't just break up with you.

Answer 2

Of course, being dead is always easier than being alive.

The real question should be is suicide worth it? Now, I'd talk about your friends and family, but depression tends to make people think that friends and family are better off without them and no matter what I say, it's not going to get to you. I don't even know you!!

Depression also has a tendency to make people go into themselves and everything around them becomes a reflection of their misery. I don't even know you, how can I stop you from thinking that way? I can't.

I suggest you talk to someone you know, perhaps a friend or doctor about what you're going through. Sometimes even a helpline might be good, at least you'll be able to learn about some of the resources in your area where you can get help for your problem.

Answer 3

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Sounds like to might need to get out of this stressful relationship. If you have broken up numerous times, then it just may not be the right one for you. Move on. You are obviously not happy. If you can't handle this yourself, talk to a therapist or a family member that you trust.

A girl should never cause you to lose your friends. She sounds like a big problem. Eliminate that problem and your life will come back together.

Don't take your life over a solvable problem. That is not fair to the people that love you.

Answer 4

Suicide will end things for you, but be impossible for those who love you to deal with. I swear when I was reading this I thought it was my brother. Your situation sounds alot like his. Recovering from depression requires a lot of dedication and when I went through it I felt like I didn't have enough energy to try. I did though and was willing to go through the ups and downs of medication, and tried several counselors before finding one that would help me. I also turned to a higher power to help me through it. I am a lot better now and don't feel so hopeless. You can only give what you have, so if you don't love yourself - you can't love someone else. Working on your own issues and problems is the most important thing you can do. If you are desperate, then you have to try to use what you do have left to try to save yourself. Life is suffering, and it is hard for everyone. Some people just develop healthier ways to cope with their stress and problems. It has a lot to do with your outlook, but when you are depressed you can't see it. You can't see a lot when you are depressed, its like that commercial where everything is gray with no color. I have been in a depression, suicidal, and bounced back more than once. I know it can be done, but you can't do it alone. Ask for help, talk to a doctor, professional mental health counselor, and be willing to committ to at least 8 weeks of dedication and trying things that could help. Good luck.

Answer 5

In the King James Version Mark 4:40 reads:
And He said unto them, Why are ye so fearful? how is it that ye have no faith?

Only God can fulfill an empty heart. This girl is nothing but misery. And you know it. The problem is that you're not willing to admit it. Deep down you know the two of you aren't meant to be together. If you were then everyone would already know you were back together.

I understand depression. I understand wanting to die. It's a horrible feeling. So horrible that that's the only way to explain it is horrible. I've been there.

I have Multiple Sclerosis (MS). This disease is very very painful. I'm taking 90 mg. of time released morphine every day. But it doesn't always work. I just slept another summer away. I can't give my loving husband a child because of this disease. I can't even be intimate with him. Want to know when I found out I had it? I had just graduated from college with my degree in Culinary Arts ready to conquor the world. Now. I can't remember 98% of what I learned. That's because of the MS. I may wake up tomorrow unable to walk or unable to speak properly. It takes me about 2-3 hours to wash a sink of dishes because of all the breaks I have to take.

Oh, I almost left out the lack of friends. You see, when I told my wonderful friends that I was sick, they quickly stopped coming around. I have no friends now. I only go to church and the grocery store.

Want to know what keeps me going? My love for God. Knowing that God has forgiven me for everything I did in the past and accepts me just as I am. He trust me and He has faith in me. You can find a lot of comfort in the Holy Bible if you'd just give it a chance.

Now this I hate to admit, but I have to. Another thing that does keep me going is this. No matter how bad I may think I have it. There is someone out there who has it much worse. And if you just look at everything I've just told you about myself. You'll see that I've got much more to be depressed about than you do. So if this were a contest, I WIN! lol Don't you feel better?

I didn't tell you all of that for your pity. Trust me. I felt sorry for myself enough before I found Jesus Christ & God. And that's the truth. Since finding them I've been feeling much better. If you'd like to talk more about it. Let me know. I'm not going anywhere.

God Bless...

Answer 6

"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give."
"Death is more universal than life; everyone dies but not everyone lives."
HI,
i don't understand why ppl think like this.
maybe life is difficult but it is beautiful.try 2 make new frnds.love yourself.becoz U r precious and stressful wat?
do u think that everybody in this world is happy.NO ONE IS PERFECT BUT THEY DO LIVE .U'LL FIND SOMEONE WHO REALLY LOVES U FROM BOTTOM OF HEART.IT IS TIME 2 CONCERT RATE ON UR STUDY.EVEN I DONT TRUST ANYONE , I LOVE MYSELF ,I DON'T CARE DA MM ABOUT PPL , I AM HAPPY. I WANT 2 ACHIEVE MY GOALS,I M LIVING 4 THAT.THINK POSITIVE.SUICIDE IS NOT A WAY 2 TACKLE PROBLEMS.WHEN U DIE ,THINGS WILL REMAIN SAME. SO LIVE 4 URSELF NOT FOR PPL.i have language problem but i really want 2 help u ,becoz i has been suffered from this. happy birthday.and i'm 20 years old
"Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome"
"You're alive. Do something. The directive in life, the moral imperative was so uncomplicated. It could be expressed in single words, not complete sentences. It sounded like this: Look. Listen. Choose. Act. "
take care
HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Answer 7

you worry about what other people think, and you are a glutton for punishment. forget them all and go to school. Suicide is the coward's way out .I tried it once and am glad it didn't happen cause nothing in life stays the same .your parents don't live forev er and you don't live in the same place forever.If you want to make it 50 breakups it's ok there is a movie about 50 first dates but if you break up so much you need a gal that 'll take your stress away .There are beautiful even magical relationships to be had don't give up cause of this one.

Answer 8

You say "Not including things will be 20x harder to deal with with no one to hang out with when my love breaks my heart or hurts me in any way. " Sounds like she has hurt you many times before and you fully expect her to do so again. I think there is good reason why your friends would be upset that you got back together with her again. They care about you and know you deserve better. It sounds like you need to think long and hard about ending things with her for good. Is she worth loosing all your freinds and a bunch of family for? Sure doesn't sound like it to me. Sometimes those outside a relationship have a much clearer veiw than the one in it. Take your freinds and families good advice and get rid of her.

Answer 9

Suicide is not easier. It is simply an end. Not just to problems though. Suicide steals the beauty and wonder and lessons of life. It steals the gift of our very blessing of being here and having life's rich experiences, both good and bad. It's never an answer. It looks like you are really wanting to get over this hump though and sometimes the only way to do it is to do it one step at a time.
I decided to quit smoking once and go to a hypnotist. The guy told me, smoke as many cigarettes as you can before you get to my office. I'll explain later, he said. So I did and damn if the hypnosis worked on me. I went down the cigarette aisle later that day just to test myself out, and no urge whatsoever. So I called him up to thank him and asked why he told me to smoke so many, he said...You will never quit something until you've had enough. Until we're completely sick and tired of something, we won't quit. You will go with this girl until YOU have had enough. Not your friends or family. YOU. There's nothing to apologize for, you're simply experiencing a lesson you want to learn. Love is not always black and white. It's full of complexities that we can't always explain to others, and sometimes not ourselves. But we ask ourselves, ok what's up with this? Why do I keep doing this when it makes me sad, mad, bummed out, etc...when we find the answer, we can start working that out inside ourselves. And I know you'll do this when you feel rested spiritually and ready to find your inner answers. You know, I had all kinds of people saying quit quit quit on the smoking and I was like yeah yeah yeah until I felt damn good and ready. Then I did. They still loved me anyway, in fact that love they had is why they wanted me to quit. But I had to know it myself. You're wanted here in this world, that's pretty obvious but people do and say things that make us feel backed into a corner when they care, and that's just being human. They're worried, we're confused, and the other person's wanting something right now. But we just need to get with ourselves and be okay with ourselves, come what may. I can tell you with all earnestness that this will pass. You may stay with the girl, and you may be miserable for awhile, or you may be happy or your friends may give you the cold shoulder, but it will assuredly CHANGE, that's the great thing about LIFE...it always changes, and WE make it happen one day at a time, as we get to know ourselves little by little and make choices at a pace we're comfortable with. Love ya, friend.

Answer 10

Suicide is always easier on the one that dies, it is harder on the ones left behind.Suicide is not the answer to your problems. You are too young to give up on yourself!!! You need to aim for the goals you want not what others want!!!!
Forget about this girl, she sounds like she is not the right one for you. Get involved in fun things to do!! Get active in school sports or with school organizations. Volunteer in a community organization. Learn to play an instrument!! Life is too short, make everyday count!!