2007-08-30 18:18:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Not what the person does for you, or how they will benefit you, or being all about what you get out of it.
But what you can do for the other person. If he hates cats, are you going to force the issue and bring one home any way? (That scenario goes for any situation that you two will disagree on)
Are you willing to let him have his way and not insist on your way.
Are you willing to put his needs, before your needs. Like is there is $5.oo in the account and that is all there is, will you take a lunch so he can have gas money?
Even if it is his fault there isn't more?
Have two TVs. That cuts out a lot of frustration.
Be prepared to mother him. Slowly teaching him different ways of doing things. But expecting nothing.
If he does the housework, and you don't like the way he did it, don't complain. Or do it yourself and don't complain because he never helps.
Marriage is giving 100%, and recieving about 10%. If you are not willing to make up the difference, then you are not ready to get married.
There is no happily ever after. Period. Marriage takes work.
He will not know how you feel unless you tell him.
He will not know what is wrong unless you tell him.
He can't read your mind or heart.
Make sure you are not competing for anything. There is no room in a marriage for competiton, unless it is friendly.
You may not agree with this, but it works, it is proven over and over in sucessful marriages.
Let the husband be the head of the house. A good loving husband will always consider his wive's views and feelings, and unless there is financial or physical or sprititual reasons, he will usually give in to her.
Respect your husband. DO NOT bad mouth him to anyone. Never, even in private with your best GF. In fact have deep respect for him.
Realize he is not perfect and will make mistakes, he is not Prince Charming and the ride in the sunset, then all is well.
You can still respect him, if the going gets rough, for the time being, respect his position as your husband, and father of the children, if there are any, and the head of the house.
Make sure you both are each other's earthly best friend. God is the mostest best friend.
I am sorry if I made any typo's, spell check is not up to more than ten lines I think.
2007-08-30 18:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by litecandles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the truest sign of knowing you want to be married is the thought "I canNOT live without this person in my life" or "I do NOT want to ever be without this person in my life" If you can bare to be without that person, you shouldn't marry. Also if you are "contemplating" you probably don't want to be with this person. You should be sure, without a doubt, without having to "think it over" because true love will tolerate or not even count the small flaws like leaving the toothpaste cap off the bottle or leaving their shoes out of the closet. Those things will not matter when you're truly IN LOVE and you really LOVE that person. Those minute things seem like big obstacles for people you don't really like.
2007-08-31 01:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by ananswerer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing it consider is that there will be high and low points of marriage, and if you truly love this person, you will still love this person through thick or thin.
2007-08-31 01:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Nick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Number One: TRUST
Followed by:
(and not necessarily in this order)
Love, Honesty, Respect, Physical Attraction, Open Communication, Being Best Friends/Team Work, and Sense of Humor.
2007-08-31 01:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Adios 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can the two of you communicate effectively without screaming and yelling at each other. Do you have common interests and enjoy each others company. Can you trust them or have they lied to you repeatedly. Last but not least, can you see yourself with this person 10,20,30, years from now.
2007-08-31 01:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Thumper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you truely ready to be with your mate for the rest of your life. I was. I am going on 26 years
2007-08-31 01:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by coachotis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you LIKE each other.... sure you love one another but in five years will you still be able to tolerate that person and their habits and idiosyncracies
2007-08-31 01:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by michael g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only BONA FIDE reason to get marry is love....nothing more nor less..you love your guy so much you cant imagine your future without him whether the future is good or bad.
2007-08-31 01:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the two of you want the same things out of life such as children.
2007-08-31 01:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by kittysoma27 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
whether u can take ALL the bad along with all the good, if u feel u can stand living with that forever, then ur good to go
2007-08-31 01:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nacho Chacho 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋