i want your opinion and also unbiased suggestions plz...
my hubby drops his colleague everyday....she is a very proactive gal and gets along well with my hubby.I am informed most of the times n once in a while i get to be picked up if our timings match up....but it bothers me....i kinda am feeling very angry n i feel like asxking my hubby not to go with her....but i know one can't control others....but this is bothering me.....
so funny i am a very social crature n i have tons of frnds who r guys....my hubby is kool with it...
plz help...
2007-08-30 17:53:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
may be i am very jealous....but the thing is ..is it ok for people who work in the same place to go together everyday.....i am angry...
he knows that i don't like it....but now its like an obligation n he wants to keep it very professional....n he says i am making him very uncomfortable by feeling j...
but i kinda don't like that gal anymore....i was ok in the beginning but not any more...she annoys me literally....
2007-08-30 18:01:41 · update #1
You are jealous and it is only natural. He is your husband after all, and why should he pay attention to this girl when he already has you, right?
Go with your instincts, if you see nothing wrong in that, don't say anything to hurt anyone.
Otherwise, tell your husband that you are not comfortable with the whole thing.
2007-08-30 18:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express ya concerns to your husband and do not try to stop ya husband from doing so... He will do so if he wants to... If he is really sensitive to your fears then he will decrease this routine and picks you up frequently instead.
Do u feel that you are inferior as compared to this lady colleague? Most gals feel threatened and tend to dislike or ostracize those gals if they think they do not match up to their 'opponents'.
Have more confidence in yaself. Mixing with the guys doesn't make you confident. Having a good mix of female and male friends instead. If your husband trust you... you should do so...
Be concern only when you suspect something is wrong.
2007-08-31 01:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage needs to be a 50/50 deal. If you have guy friends and he's ok with it then you have no right to complain that he is dropping off a colleague. If you think it's more than that between them ask him.
2007-08-31 01:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just jealous that your husband is with this girl and that maybe you feel threatened by her. You just need to trust your husband and think that they're just friends, besides you have a lot of guy friends and he doesn't complain.
2007-08-31 00:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him then you need to stop worrying. Tell your husband about how you are feeling. He may not be aware of how his being around his female coworker is making you feel.
2007-08-31 01:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have suspicions, do some investigation. follow your instincts. If it is just random jealousy, don't push your hubby away by accusing him of anything. Get proof first.
2007-08-31 00:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is good for the goose is good for the gander. You can t really ask him to not do something you do. but if your instincts are telling you something is up then you better speak up.
2007-08-31 01:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell us tell him, dontcha think you should discuss it?
If you feel something is wrong maybe you should investigate, you know him better than anybody
2007-08-31 00:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by frank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r jealous. that means you care. tell him softly but dont worry.
2007-08-31 00:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question is do you trust him?
2007-08-31 00:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by wikedwhich1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋