My Brother Married A Jehovahs Witness...?

Question

I really need help understanding Jehovahs Witness. So far what I have looked up and asked people is not good stuff about it I feel like it has changed my brother so much and it hurts to see him following there beliefs its almost like a cult. I also heard they aren’t aloud to play sports or watch it is it true? I don't know anything about being a JW so please no one get mad at me for asking about this i'm just very upset for my brother he had all these dreams and it seems like his "new family" is changing him every day, i would like to support him and be there for him but i do not like the girl or the family that he married they are very rude and stuck up and to make matters even worst they are JW and tell him not to see my family! I think they have brain washed him i don't know just someone please give me some insight on this!

Answer 1

Your brother is deceived. My wife used to be a JW but God used me to pull her out. It is a cult. I'll show you. My prayers are with you. If you would like to ask me some questions I'd love to help you out. Just email me.

JW’s have their magazines, watchtower books, and the nwt which is a neutered satanic translation. These are additions to Scripture.

You shall not add to the word which I command you, nor take from it, that you may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you. Deut. 4:2

Beware of the scribes. Luke 20:46

Jesus was Michael the archangel who became a man, The Watchtower, May 15,
1963, p. 307; The New World, 284.

Scripture says…

For to which of the angels did He ever say: “ You are My Son. Heb. 1:5

Jesus was only a perfect man, not God in flesh, Reasoning from the Scriptures,
1985, pp. 306.

Scripture says…

For many deceivers have gone out into the world who do not confess Jesus Christ as coming in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist. 2 John 7

Whoever transgresses and does not abide in the doctrine of Christ does not have God. He who abides in the doctrine of Christ has both the Father and the Son. 2 John 9

And God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.” And He said, “Thus you shall say to the children of Israel, ‘I AM has sent me to you.’” Ex. 3:14

Jesus said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, before Abraham was, I AM.” John 8:58

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. Phil. 2:5-8

But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. Gal. 4:4-5

But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels, for the suffering of death crowned with glory and honor, that He, by the grace of God, might taste death for everyone. Heb. 2:9

For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily. Col. 2:9

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. John 1:1

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:14

There is no Trinity, Let God be True, p. 100-101; Make Sure of All Things, p.386.

Scripture says…

Then God said, “Let Us make man in OUR image, according to OUR likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Gen. 1:26

I and the Father are one. John 10:30

For there are three that bear witness in heaven: the Father, the Word, and the Holy Spirit; and these three are one. 1 John 5:7

Good works are necessary for salvation, Studies in the Scriptures, Vol. 1,
pp. 150, 152.
Salvation is by faith and what you do, Studies in the Scriptures, Vol. 1, pp.
150,152.

Scripture says…

But we are all like an unclean thing,
And all our righteousnesses are like filthy rags;
We all fade as a leaf,
And our iniquities, like the wind,
Have taken us away. Isaiah 64:6

For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. Eph. 2:8-9

It is possible to lose your salvation, Reasoning from the Scriptures, 1985, pp.
358-359.

Scripture says…

For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. Eph. 2:8-9

For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable. Romans 11:29

The Holy Spirit is a force, not alive, Reasoning from the Scriptures, 1985, pp.
406-407.

Scripture says…

1. Jehovah's Witnesses teach that the Holy Spirit is an active force like radar. They deny that He is alive, that He is a person. This is, of course, because they deny the Trinity. Yet, if the Holy Spirit is simply a force then...
1. Why is He called God (Acts 5:3-5)?
2. How is it that He can teach (John 14:26)?
3. How can He be blasphemed (Matt. 12:31,32)?
4. How can be the one who comforts (Acts 9:31)?
5. How is it possible for Him to speak (Acts 28:25)?
6. How then can He be resisted (Acts 7:51)?
7. How can He be grieved (Eph. 4:30)?
8. How can He help us in our weaknesses (Rom. 8:26)?
2. If the Holy Spirit is a force, then how is it possible that the above mentioned phenomena are attributed to Him? A force doesn't speak, teach, comfort, etc.
3. Nor can you blaspheme against a force.

There is no hell of fire where the wicked are punished, Let God be True, p. 79, 80.

Scripture says…

But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” Rev. 21:8

Luke 16:19-31

In no way, shape, or form does JW doctrine align with the Bible.

And the LORD said to me, “The prophets prophesy lies in My name. I have not sent them, commanded them, nor spoken to them; they prophesy to you a false vision, divination, a worthless thing, and the deceit of their heart. Jer. 14:14

I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. Gal. 1:6-9

For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into apostles of Christ. And no wonder! For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light. Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also transform themselves into ministers of righteousness, whose end will be according to their works. 2 Cor. 11:13-15

But there were also false prophets among the people, even as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Lord who bought them, and bring on themselves swift destruction. 2 Pet. 2:1

And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:32

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. 2 Tim. 3:16-17

To JW’s

Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth? Gal. 4:16

Answer 2

Vot, a very interesting question. I was raised in a home with a Witness, my mother, who married a non-Witness, my father. 25 years of grief later she divorced him. (She was smarter the next time and married an elder) Overall, I think the combination, played both ways, is more likely to weaken the Witness even if they don't leave the truth. The brother marrying a non-JW may have more influence in the short term, but women Witnesses, if they stay faithful have a better chance of their partner becoming a Witness in the long run. I've seen more of that happen than the other.

Answer 3

My best friends are JWs, and are nothing like the people you have met! Although I have known my friends for 20 years, they have never tried to convert me to their religion. They have friends who are of many different faiths, and all of us respect their beliefs , as they respect ours. They both watch sport, and drink ( though very moderately), have parties, and generally have as much fun as the next person. The only real difference between them and us is that their congregation is not called church, but assembly, and the meetings are lot longer than ours. They follow the bible very literally, and do not believe in having blood transfusions, because the bible says you should not "partake of blood". My friend has told me however, that this is a personal choice in the end, and if they choose to have one, there will not be any repercussions from the "church". Since knowing my friends, I have met plenty of JWs, and have met a few like your brother's new family. However, they have been very few and far between, and the majority have been very nice people, some of whom have become close friends. The people you met, like the few I have mentioned, are obviously just deluded fanatics, who believe they are the only ones who are right, and everyone else is beneath them. Although we all believe that our faith is the right one, none of us REALLY know and have any proof of that, do we, so we have no right to judge others for their beliefs. My JW friends and I simply do not discuss religion with each other, and it works very well for us. The world would be a better place if we were all a bit more tolerant of the others beliefs. With people who are as pig headed as your brother's new family though, I have doubts as to whether they will become any more tolerant, so I do hope he will come to his senses soon, and realize that he can still be a JW ( if he still chooses to be) without being separated form you and the rest of his family .

Answer 4

jw are very Conservative like republicans i bet if they were allow 2 vote they be republicans. they can play sports drink have parties my sister & my brother in law are both jw's they just go 2 church alot i think like 3 times a week their religion is preety close to the conservative christians no holidays no birthdays they only thing i dont like is u cant receive blood from somebody else so if it a matter of life or death youre going 2 die cause u cant get blood but their ok people

Answer 5

Jehovah's Witnesses are very loving people actually. I am one of Jehovah's people - my whole life-. And we play sports and we know how to have fun and we have many -clean- gatherings. and we can watch sports, in fact, I know some brothers and sisters that are big sports fans and every sunday after meeting they turn on the game - we just don't bet on teams.

when one becomes a Jehovah's Witness, it does change them but in a good way, gives your life purpose and meaning. Jehovah is a loving God. and it is not the family that is changing your brother it is Jehovah our heavenly father and your bro is applying the Bible's counsel in his life. he is possibly changing his lifestyle and the way he acts and talks to conform to Jehovah's standards. you might have noticed this?

please don't jump to conclusions about us, or your brother's new family, yes there are many false stories about us, but truthfully none are correct. if you really love your bro, you will support his decisions

Jehovah doesn't want any to be destroyed. I hope someday that you and your family will come to know Jehovah, it is the best part of life.

Answer 6

I understand you a lot. I lived with my Aunts family which are Jehovah witness's, and Om-goodness, EVERYTHING i DID WAS WRONG TO THEM. I went to their preaching assemblies and I had to be all covered and wear a long dress. I didn't feel myself with them, and the crazy thing was, they were kinda hypocritical to me. They did not want to be involved with anybody but their own. Every one at their assembly treated me so good and greeted me so well, but because they thought I was one of them, which I wasn't I only did it for my aunt. I'm not anything but I am a Cristian believer. Its really tuff when you're married to one, because my boyfriend of 2 years was a Jehovah witness,. He did want me to be one of them, but I just couldn't, he was OK with it, because he loved me to much to let me go. Anyways it didn't work out, I moved and had a long distance relationship for a year and I pretty much let him go, because he deserved better. He is now marring a Jehovah witness and I'm happy for him. All I can say, they are very faithful people and don't believe in marring twice. So that wont be a problem, you should still love him for whatever he is. I'm a christian believer and all my family are catholics, while my aunts and her husbands family are all Jehovah witness. Take care and don't let religion separate ya.

Answer 7

God created all men equal. We should not judge one simply on their choice of religion. I have been happily married to a JW for 20 years. I will admit that in the beginning it was hard as I am a Roman Catholic. We talked about this long and hard, and included my family and his before we even got married. A lot of the things you mentioned are definitely wrong, my husband played several sports. They are not bad people, just people who have different beliefs and they are a quite tight knit group. It sounds to me like the problem is not that he married a JW but he married a girl you don't care for. JW's do not brainwash people, they do not make people stay away from their families. They live a life that they feel is fit in standards for their religion. I had a lot of stigmas going into my marriage but have never once been even talked to about changing my religion. I respect them, they respect me. Trust me that the best thing you can do for you and your brothers relationship is to try to get to know his wife. No one says you have to be buddy buddy, but at least give her a chance. He apparently loves her or he wouldn't have taken it as far as marriage. Love your brother without any boundaries and I think you will find love coming back to you more than you could ever imagine. Good luck and God Bless You!!!

Answer 8

Sadly, most of what an interested person might "look up" about Jehovah's Witnesses actually originates or is heavily influenced by bitter former Witnesses. They are not a good reference, and certainly cannot help anyone to understand the thinking of a person who is newly associated with Jehovah's Witnesses.


Perhaps the most noticeable change in the personality of a new Jehovah's Witness is the change of priorities he begins to feel. Do you remember how after 9/11 every sports team took one or two weeks off? For a time there, such diversions as sports seemed so utterly inconsequential... No one thought those diversions were bad, but right then they just wanted to be with their families and work on being a better person and maybe even help the community.

Also, in the weeks and months after 9/11, there was strong feelings of patriotism and nationalism. There was little patience in dealing with opposing points of view. Maybe people were rude or preoccupied, at least until emotions calmed and people settled into new thought patterns.


Similarly, even a person newly associated with Jehovah's Witnesses suddenly understands enormous issues that (shockingly) evade the vast majority of Christendom, even though they are plainly presented in the bible. In just an hour or two of bible reading, prayer, and meditation, things which have been out of focus for a lifetime may come into focus... why do we grow old and die?... why does God permit suffering?

The bible really does contain satisfying answers.

The answer includes an issue which effects every intelligent human, and it forces each person to evaluate himself and his life in a very sobering way... the things I do (me!) can prove Satan a liar!... the work I do (me!) can help others learn the comforting truth!

Sports may seem trivial to a new Christian, but as a routine of godly devotion is established, a Witness will generally begin to again appreciate the value of such diversions. At times, a new Christian will feel that he must be strong for his principles without realizing that he seems less "strong" and more rude or "stuck up". His emotions need to calm and he needs to settle in to his new thought patterns.

The more his non-Witness family communicates that they want simply to work WITH the Witness's conviction and NOT against, the better their relationship can remain or become. For the sake of continued good relations, don't be negative about his religion or try to trick him into some compromising situation (like a surprise birthday party), because doing so puts the trickster in league with Satan. Does that seem an exaggeration? Jesus didn't think so, and neither do JWs.
...(Matthew 16:23) Turning his back, [Jesus] said to Peter: “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me, because you think, not God’s thoughts, but those of men.”


Almost invariably, when anti-Witnesses complain that Jehovah's Witnesses "break up families" the anti-Witnesses neglect to mention that they themselves worked to poison the atmosphere at every opportunity. What person wants to go where he and his religion are belittled and demeaned?


Incidentally, Jehovah's Witness statistics report about a million active Witnesses in the United States. Yet more than two million attend their meetings, and about three million identify themselves as Witnesses by secular polling. Please understand that a person who merely identifies himself as a Jehovah's Witness might not actually have any formal connection with the religion.

In addition, Jehovah's Witnesses are not perfect people. It might be that the brother of this questioner married a person with a rude, unlikeable nature. It seems best for any person who hopes to imitate Christ to do her best to concentrate on what she can do, rather than on what she hopes another will do.
...(Romans 12:17-18) ...Return evil for evil to no one. Provide fine things in the sight of all men. If possible, as far as it depends upon you, be peaceable with all

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/jt/index.htm?article=article_08.htm
http://jw-media.org/beliefs/beliefsfaq.htm

Answer 9

JW's stay chaste unlike most singles in the USA.
They are loving, caring, honest and hard working.
They take marriage seriously and do not cheat.
They raise their children to respect others and the law.
They are clean, helpful and submissive.
They worship God and do everything to please him.
They do not break commandments and would be your friend if you allow them.
I have been a Witness of Jehovah since 1972 and we watch sports, have fun, have many gatherings and do it all as clean fun and recreation.
Your brother has seen the outstanding qualities and latched on because they are rare in this world today.
He will be very happy. You need to help and not hurt their marriage.

Answer 10

The only thing I can comment on is the sports thing. I worked with a very faithful JW and she and her husband were big sports fans, so I don't think that's true. Knowing her, she would not do anything contrary to their teachings.

Answer 11

Well, my husband is a JW and he watches sports. He has never tried stopping me from seeing my family. I have gotten to know a little about their religion and it really isn't that crazy, it actually makes perfect sense, although I'm not considered one because I won't give up my holidays. They are not a cult or anything like that, as a matter of fact they go by pretty much the same bible the catholics do. They didn't take out Gods name like the catholics did but that's about the only difference. It sounds like the people themselves are unpleasant, it has nothing to do with being JW's. The people saying different are just ignorant and trying to scare you.