Im married for almost 3yrs now , my wife left and told me she wan't to find herself i admit i did some mistakes like i nag her sometimes and i always get want i want in our house like the car that i want and etc i really love her and what do i need to do she's been away now for almost amonth she changed her phone number and i don't know her where abouts her friend is keeping her away from me pls help need advice
2007-08-30 16:55:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow I'm so sorry bro. I have been through the same thing. well still going through it i guess. Even though my writing is on the wall. But believe in God and let him carry you out of this, because we are merely men who can't do it alone. Hopefully there are no kids. I hope you don't have to deal with that pain as well. Seek God and if you arent religious go see a counselor. Be strong my friend
2007-08-30 17:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by wilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, stop dwelling on it and waiting by the phone etc. Stress is like a rocking chair, it'll give you something to do but it won't get you anywhere.
You need to get some counselling to work through your feelings, thoguhts and mistakes. Then try and fill your own life up with activity. Before you know it you'll have some answers and contact. If not, by then you'll have your own identity again to be concerned with, and maybe a new love interest.
Good luck. The sooner you get busy the quicker time'l pass.
2007-08-30 17:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've never hit her then her friend has no reason to get in the middle of your relationship. Her friend may be helping her work through something that she feels you can't help her with. Is she on drugs? Her friend can't keep her away if she wants to come back. There is NOTHING ANYONE can say to keep me away from my husband! As far as you getting your way all the time, she could have talked to you about it before she up and left! You need to COMMUNICATE! You need to set a date and let her friend know that if she doesn't come talk to you about YOUR marriage, then you're taking action, and do it. Start taking her stuff to her friends house and move her out! She'll either come back or she won't. If she doesn't come back then it wasn't meant to be, just move on and be the best you can be for yourself. Good Luck!
2007-08-30 17:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think she will come back. But you have learnt a lot about yourself and will be better prepared for another relationship some day. Give yourself time to grieve and get over your wife. Don't blame yourself for everything - just accept that some things about yourself needed changing. None of us are faultless.
If however she does make contact and want a reconciliation then suggest counselling.
Good luck
2007-08-30 17:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been a very good husband, if you nag and are selfish. You can't change your wife, but you can change what you have been doing. Don't look for her or call her no matter how hard it is to do that. All you can do is wait to see if she comes around. When and if she does, be totally different with her. Treat her as you want to be treated. Be selfless, kind, caring, giving, understanding, patient, tolerant, have unconditional love, be non judgmental, quick to forgive and slow to anger.
2007-08-30 17:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know you have made some mistakes - too bad you two didn't think to communicate your feelings and needs before she left you. If she does return (and it doesn't seem likely) then you need to seek counselling. The thing with the car - I go through that with my husband everytime we change vehicles. He always gets his way and that used to really annoy me but now - I just don't want to fight about it anymore!
2007-08-30 17:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be gone for good now and what you need to do is take a good look at yourself and realize that she has feelings needs too. If she is meant for you than she will be back when she figures it out. You need to take this time and do a little inner tweaking to make sure that you are the spouse that she needs when she comes back. Good luck!
2007-08-30 17:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by imbford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like she wants to come back if she changed her number so that you can't call her. I think you should leave her alone and move on with your life. She knows where you are and can contact you. The more you stalk her, the less she will like you.
2007-08-30 17:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish my answer was kinder, but the truth is: my last relationship i was in, i broke up with my boyfriend because i told him i never had taken time in life for 'me' i was always pleasing everyone else. sorry to say, but i never talked to him again, and i have sinced moved on. if she has been gone for a month and changed her number that really isn't a good sign. sorry to break it to ya but it doesnt sound like she is coming back. but i hope i am wrong and i hope things work out for you.
2007-08-30 17:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dahlia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of allyou have been married for three years and made some mistakes no one is perfect okay listen to me she does not want to talk with you or be around you give this lady a break maybe she is just thinking things out.
good luck
2007-08-30 17:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋