I have 5 children and no education. I have never really worked, other than part-time here and there. My Husband has been our primary care giver for years now. However, he is addicted to crack-cocaine. Has been in and out of jail, and tends to get harsh, well physicallly, with me lately. I know that the kids and I could make a life on our own, but we are not able to recieve any form of government assistance. I guess what I really want to know is there actually stil men out there looking to settle down and start a family witha 30 year old woman who has 5 kids, and really doesn't want to work right now? I would like to go back to school though....
2007-08-30 16:53:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't leave him.. At least get the two of you into counselling. Good luck!
2007-08-30 16:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love this one. If i only knew you. At the age of 26 i was a divorcee.with 5 children. A man married me and helped me take care of us very well. Our marriage ended 10 years ago with his death after thirty years of marriage. We had a son after being married 4 years, Oh yes we met October 31st and we married February 14th. If i am calculating correctly. that's about three and one half months. When i divorced my first husband he told me no man wanted a woman with 5 children. That was a lie. I finished high school when it was just myself and the children. After marring i went to Real Estate school and some years had an income of one hundred thousand dollars a year. I am up in age now and remarried again. I graduated from Junior college last June. I could tell you the story of my aunt who had 7 children and a similar life. But it's too time consuming. Leave that rascal because he is abusive. Yes you can make it on your own. Your children need to see you happy. They will remember every thing. Can't tell you all about my beautiful adult children that love this mother. You go for it girl There will be some good days and there will be some bad days. But your good days will out weight your bad days. Get Jesus in your life and make him first. And all the other things will follow. I will be praying for you. May God Bless you.
2007-08-30 17:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all why are you worried about if another man is going to want you? what you should be worried about is setting a good example for your children, which you are obviously not setting. and what do you mean you dont want to work right now? what happens if your husband od's one day or gets locked up for a long time? how are you going to feed your kids? you need to grow up and get your priorities together
2007-08-30 17:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by made it to the top 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need another man. You need to pack up you and your kids and go to a shelter, or relatives house. Your job is to not bring more pain to your kids life. School is not a option for you right now...Make a plan, then implement it.
2007-08-30 17:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a hubby whose addicted to bad substance is really a big problem... i think u better think twice.. is this the future that u and ur kids wan2 have ??? since u had worked previously parttime.. y not pursue this.. and better find a good lawyer.. cuz u won't last that long wid him around...
2007-08-30 17:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by zykoe1208 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been out years ago. There are always men out there, but for now you need to forget about men and think about your children. Get out ASAP. I hope you are not doing that sh*t too.
2007-08-30 16:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you learn how to take care of yourself than get taken care of? Every man is a risk, an education isn't.
2007-08-30 16:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that even after you lose the abusive *******, you still have issues. What guy is just going to want to marry you and support you and...your 5 kids while you sit home and do??? watch daytime TV....Oprah, lifetime channel? gimme a break..
2007-08-30 16:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is getting harsh with you physically, get out no matter how it effects you you should not have to endure that kind of behavior.
2007-08-30 16:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't WANT to work? too damn bad! neither does anyone else. get off your back and get a job. ditch the crack head and start using yours.
2007-08-30 17:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋