I am a late 30s old spinster handmaid. Where I work I love to provide outstanding service to my customers. I've had women customers comment to me saying: "Oh, you'll get married soon, and you'll see that special someone." Or another one I worked for said out of the blue: "Don't worry, you'll find the right one." You won't be single for long."
I mean that is nice and all but they just say it out of the blue and for no reason. I can't stand it when people try to predict my future. Because I wouldn't predict someone elses. I would never say it to a unmarried girl. Obviously she is unmarried for a good reason. Your thoughts.......
2007-08-30 16:34:52 · 24 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jealous of what, Boxfrain?
2007-08-30 16:43:26 · update #1
I am just joking about the SPINSTER name. Just being a pink peep.
2007-08-30 16:59:27 · update #2
Honey I think you are very wise not to jump into marriage til you are ready. They probably think because they are married at a younger age , it is supposed to be that way. You will be ready when you are ready and not before. I think it is very wise of you not to jump into something just because they think you should. I wouldn't worry about what others think. I made the mistake of marrying too young and it ended up bad. Hope you keep up your own self image and wait til the time is right. God Bless you always.
2007-08-30 17:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is just odd...people can be weird. It's really none of their business. Do you go around saying your a "spinster handmaid'? Perhaps that is the reason? That is kind of an odd way to label youself. There are many women your age who are single it's not a big deal.
2007-08-30 23:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of LOL @ 30s old spinster handmaid! I'm 39 and have never been married, but have had some very special long term relationships.
Tell them "oh, I know... John brought me flowers and now I can't decide who to go out with next Saturday, what do you think?"
Or you can tell the truth "I'm happy being single!"
OR, more deviously "I'm very happy with Bob, he's getting divorced soon!" That should shut them up.
They're rude to ask!
2007-08-30 23:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by wikedwhich1 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just human nature. Don't take it personally, because you don't know them, right?
If it bothers you, then maybe you think being a late 30s old spinster handmaid is not that great of an idea?
You are the one who has the real answer to this one.
2007-08-30 23:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by LaraLara 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing unusual about being an unmarried woman in your late 30s. Obviously you must feel that it is unnatural as you called yourself, "a late 30s old spinster handmaid." Your work mates also seem to be of this same persuasion as they keep suggesting indirectly that you are unhappy and miserable because you are single. My advice would be to get out of whatever podunk town you live in and get a life.
2007-08-30 23:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dreams 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People have a set idea of what EVERYONE does in life. It's highly frustrating. You don't need to justify you're existence and chosen life to them or anyone else. These people are clueless and think everyone is going to follow some preconceived time-line. Trust me, they are the same people who walk up to married couples asking when are they having a baby, or another baby. They also walk up to someone in their 40's and doesn't have any kids asking why- was it medical, you or him- why did you never adopt. Or a single parent- you divorced? Same Mom/Dad's for all of your kids? You'll find someone. WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE? Why do they think they have the right to make these statements, ask these questions?
News bulletin: Different person - different life. We're not all the same. EVERYONE does't want to be married. Not everyone wants kids. Not everyone who has kids wants to be married.
Some are trying to be nice, as you say. Some are darn right rude and nosy.
2007-08-30 23:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think they are ignorant. You do do not need their opinions. Who said you want to be married?. Many people are happy without marriage. And for every ones information. Yes I am married. I hate busy bodies. Next time some one make such a comment. Ask them real sweetly. "Did I tell you i wanted to be married?" The sensible ones will apologize. And enjoy it. Watch their faces. And don't be surprised of the ones that run away saying you have an attitude. "smile"
2007-08-30 23:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Alot of people in there late 30's aren't married!!! No big deal, either they wish they wasn't married anymore and they are jealous. Or they are old fashioned and believe everyone should be married in there early 20's. Don't worry about it your not the only one in the world that is single in there 30's!!!!
2007-08-30 23:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by happygirl22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Probably because they don't have their own business to mind and have a ridiculous desire to mind other people's.............Don't let it get to you..........They probably don't mean any harm..............It's just something for them to comment on.........Whatever an unmarried person's reason is for being single, it's their reason and their life and like yourself I wouldn't dream of making a personal comment of any nature to someone I don't really know.........As I said before don't let it get to you...........It's really not worth it..........Just be at ease with whatever suits you best..........The ONLY person you HAVE to wake up with is yourself and as long as you're happy with yourself that's all that matters........CAT
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2007-08-30 23:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sandi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are jealous that they are not single anymore. look when that someone comes along it will just happen and you don't have to be looking.
Don't worry about all of those very unhappily (probably) married women.
2007-08-30 23:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by BILL 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋