Think seriously about what makes you happy. Not temporarily, but long term. Share this with your husband. See if he is agreeable to working towards the same goals. If he is, thengive it a shot. If he is not willing or is not even willing to recognize that there is a problem, you have to give serious consideration to leaving and trying to find that person who will make you happy.
Because life IS too short to spend it unhappy.
2007-08-31 01:14:10
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answered by albodad 3
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It is evaluation time for you first is this marriage a total dead end is he doing whatever he wants to do and are you doing the same im taking its not totally dead but it is on the brinks because your are asking. but first evaluate your finacial cituation no matter how mad angry and fast you want to pick up you have make sure you will be stable in your funds. Numb 2 think outside the box if you do leave will you have to go throw this process with another guy for it to end up just like the your cituation now meaning even if a guy treats you like a queen for a year you will still have to get pass his front and he can have more problems then what you are going threw now. Also is there still attraction for each other. Good sex is a great releaver where both parties are able to reach there peak if it is a one side ball game. Maybe it is time to leave the game. But understand you are just is wrong in this marriage if you havent put your best foot forward to resolve whats going wrong . If all married couples put in the energy that we use to fight and argue to express how much we hate each other and turn it around and use that same method true try to solve we would not need any consultations on marriages including me.
2007-08-30 23:42:38
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answered by Deshaun 1
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What is your motivation for staying? And what do you expect to get from us that you don't already know? I don't know you. None of us do. So most of the answers you get here will be projections of each individual's experience. At what point did you notice the marriage was dead? What do you require as your definition for dead? Is this a situation where you lost interest in the other party, or have they lost interest in you? If you have never terminated your commitment to your marriage, but your partner has, I'm curious to know how long will you walk around with sh!t on your shoes. If you can't wipe your shoes off (coming to a mutual agreement to make things work), get a new pair of shoes!
2007-08-30 23:20:26
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answered by Anonymous
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It is what you make of it. Maybe you should have a chat with the hubby and talk about ways to rekindle yor love, also I strongly suggest going to see a counselor that works with marital issues and they can and will be able to jump start things and give you a lot more advice than anything you will ever find here on yahoo answers, good luck and work hard!
2007-08-30 23:07:19
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answered by gklein99 2
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Get some marriage conciliating. It takes 2 to make a marriage, both most work at it. If he does not wish to work with you to make the marriage work then it is time to move on. It's a hard thing but it will not get better..........
JoJo
2007-08-30 23:14:22
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answered by jojo1863 1
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leave... what are you gaining by sticking around in a dead marriage that has no chance of being revived? you are better off alone and who knows... maybe you will meet someone else at some point that would compliment you better. don't stick around.. you deserve to be happy
2007-08-30 23:09:29
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answered by TeggieMcG 4
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Man, this sounds familiar and pretty much what i went through as well, i tried to tolerate it and try to bite my tongue when a arguement was about to begin...then only way out is to leave and file for divorce...it sucks but that would be the only way out or just go to counceling or just deal with it
2007-08-30 23:07:04
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answered by Jamie B 2
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Recently they done a survey of unhappy wives. The ones who divorced were unhappier in five years than the ones who stayed and worked it out. The grass is not always greener.
2007-08-30 23:08:52
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answered by mel s 6
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Make yourself happy. Hell who knows maybe he'll tag along and you won't have to get a divorce. You should NEVER try to FIND someone to make you happy. What if they fail, or you change the things that make you happy, are you gonna wait around for that someone to figure it out?
2007-08-30 23:11:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Dead how? Do you want to bring it back to life?
2007-08-30 23:30:39
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answered by M.D. 3
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