i dont know how to get over it, what should i do?
heres more about it
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-web_trainfatal_29aug29,1,691309.story?ctrack=2&cset=true
2007-08-30 15:35:15 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in News & Events ➔ Media & Journalism
SORRY THIS IS THE LINK!
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/mchenry/chi-trainfatal_30aug30,0,630422.story
2007-08-30 15:46:41 · update #1
The Russki guy said "So what?"
Dude, yer killin' me.
2007-08-30 15:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
That's terrible. I empathize with what you are having to go through.
No matter what I am sure it is going to be a painful process, but have faith that healing will indeed happen. If you believe things will get better they have an exponential probability of being so. But if you have no faith, they will not get any better for sure. So do what you can and have faith.
There is a process that grief takes and allowing that to take place I'm sure is one of the things that will help facilitate feeling better. This I'm sure you will find out as things go along.
I'm sure there are support groups for this sort of thing and hopefully you will find one without too much effort. I suppose a crisis hot line, the hospital, or a counselor would have access as to which groups meet where and when.
Finally a good friend will go far in helping you through the toughest parts in life. And if none are available and or skilled enough remember there is always the higher source that is with us always. If you can quite your mind you will get the solace and wisdom you need to carry on, and hopefully one day find happiness again.
Many Blessings
Paul
2007-08-30 22:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This horrible tragedy just happened. You can't begin to think of getting over it yet.
The first few days, you will probably be overwhelmed emotionally, and you may feel numb too. It is good idea to spend time with family members who are also grieving.
After a sudden death, and especially after a suicide, people are often distraught. Don't do anything sudden or rash. Express your feelings. You can't go around or under or over this, you have to go through it. You can make it. But it will take some time.
Get back to your normal routine as soon as you can reasonably do so. This will help.
2007-08-30 23:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My deepest sympathies on your loss. It won't be easy to get over it. I suggest you go to the wake and the funeral and cry. Don't try to suppress your emotions. They will come out and it's better they come out sooner when you will have the most support from friends and family.
You will probably feel sad for awhile, but don't let it stop you from doing normal things like going to school (I'm assuming you're still in school) and hanging out with friends. If you don't start feeling normal again in a few months or just can't stand the grief, see a counselor, start with the one at school.
2007-08-30 23:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I really don't know what to say to you! I'm really sorry for your loss. Your aunt must have believed that certain events in her life were going badly or perhaps something in her mind just snapped. It is never easy to lose a friend or a relative, and when someone takes his or her own life it is even harder on those who are left behind. It is even harder to cope with it if that person takes the life of another, too!
My prayers are with you. Can you talk it over with your parents or with your priest (or minister or rabbi)? I don't really know how old you are or what your religious beliefs are; but you have my sincere sympathy and prayers! God bless you!
2007-08-31 02:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by trebor namyl hcaeb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt must have been very troubled to do something like this. I don't think you will ever get completely over this you just have to learn to deal with it. Try to remember the good times and nice things you remember about your aunt and cousin. It is tragic how they both have died but you dwelling on how they died isn't going to change anything. It is only going to cause you hurt and pain. Hopefully if you give yourself some time you won't forget but you will be able to deal with the loose and like I said try and remember the good times with them because no matter how much you try you arn't going to make sence of their death. Good Luck ! I am very sorry for your loose.
2007-08-30 22:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've lost 15 people in the last 11 months. 10 suicide. 2 murder. 3 car wrecks. I grew up with all those people. They was like my own family. 3 of them was related by mariage. Anyways, its not easy to get over. I mean, i dont know. Your pain is basicly a fear, and the only was to get over your fear is to look it in the eye and walk through it. Just dont stress about it. Death happens. One way or another, death happens. There's nothing anybody can do about it. But the getting over it part, you cant let your mind dwell on it. It'll f**k with your head BAD. Trust me. I've dwelt on my problems too long and I've messed myself up bad. Just dont worry about it. I know it might take time to get over, but thats life. It's okay to have grief.
2007-08-30 22:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come to terms with it. Grieve and then think about the happy times and how they are better off. It might give some closure to find out how and why.
2007-08-30 22:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by bRoWn EyEd BeAuTy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a therapist or call one of those teen hotlines that let you talk to other people...even if youre not a teen.
2007-08-30 22:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by Breanna M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cry and mourn this terrible tragedy as needed.
2007-08-31 04:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by eccentriclady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened not very far from where i live... i heard it on the news today... you should go talk to a counselor ....ask for a grievance counselor.... god bless
2007-08-30 23:24:01 · answer #11 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋