I've been married for 7yrs.I been seperated for 2weeks only and I found my husband in singles net.He said that he can just pick up the phone and talk to one of his girl friends and get with them that hurts me so much,we are seperated but we still live in the same house.So after this, am I wrong to move on?
2007-08-30 15:32:07 · 23 answers · asked by gorgeous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
p.s my best friend is in singles net and she found him there, he gave me the lame excuse that he was just doing it for fun
2007-08-30 15:55:12 · update #1
Let me tell you two terms. "Judicial Separation" & "Divorce". Separation is totally different from Divorce. The divorce is total breakdown of marriage, physical and and mental relations. In judicial separation, the husband and wife may live under the same roof but they have no relationship, they do not share table and bed. The beautiful thing in it is that they can reconcile within two years.
In your case you seem to be still loving him. If I am right in judging your plight, please go ahead and reconcile. I think what he is telling you that he can pick up the phone and............is just for nothing. He also loves you and is teasing you.
God will help you, go and reconcile
2007-09-05 20:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by james love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats good for one,is also good for the other,so try move on as he obviously has (heartless git).
He's probably trying to ease his feelings by having a distraction such as this,it's so easy to turn to someone else when you're trying to get over your present situation,and it's something alot of people often do.
Let him see you too have other things in your life other than pining for him(even though you don't feel like it),if that doesn't make him stop and think,I don't know what will.
My guess is he WILL think differently once he realises you're not sitting pining for him.
It might just be the wake up call he needs.
You should BOTH be trying to either sort out what problems you're marriage has or possibly call a halt to it if that doesn't work.
If it becomes the latter,one of you should be moving out,how else can you move on by still living under the same roof!
2007-09-06 06:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart -- and to obvious move-on signals like he's giving you. You can realize pretty quickly when you're at a dead end. Unless you have some reason to try to make it work, it doesn't sound like you should hang around -- he's obviously not trying very hard. Consider it a chapter closed and a lesson learned. Move out, file for divorce (if you file first you'll have a great advantage, and oh yeah, before you file have someone who knows what they're doing go through your hard drive and get some evidence about these girlfriends). Cry through the hurt, live a year by yourself while you get over it, and then find someone else if you want to. Good luck with your new chapter.
2007-08-30 15:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definately time to move OUT and move ON. I think what is confusing about this situation is that you two are still in the same household. I think that one of you needs to move out so that you both can out the distance that a true separation calls for. I am not so ignorant to believe that while people are separated that they do not sleep with other people, because that is just not true. Many use this time for genuine purposes like getting some perspective and getting a cear head to see if the relationship is salvagable, or if its time to go. I tink that given the fact that he is out there on singles.net while you are both still in the home, that his intention is not to rectify any relationship with you, but rather get lost in the world of shopping for a new mate, or celebrating his newly found freedom. I think it says a lot that it has only been two weeks and he is on the prowl. Let it go, take care of yourself for a while, and when you feel like you want to share your life again, then do it when you're ready to. His loss, I'd say......Good luck, Blessings....
2007-09-05 14:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he's moving on,and you have to move on with your life..Don't worry about him..It doesn't seem as though he's worrying about you!
And even though it hurts really bad right now, you will heal, and be a stronger woman! Trust me!
Just out of curiosity, being you're separated why are you both still living together..
If it's a financial matter, you still have to make some adjustments, in your living arrangements..so you have your own space and privacy!
I would also file for divorce as soon as possible..In the meantime, try to get the names of some of these so-called girlfriends on Singles Net,..and give them to your lawyer ASAP..
You have to start worrying about yourself..Undoubtedly he's taking care of himself!
Take Care Hon, and Good Luck!!
2007-08-30 15:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People move on when they feel as if they are ready. If he is ready for what ever reason more power to him, but if you are not then don't move on give yourself a little time. Remember men show hurt in a different way than women. They feel as if they spend a little time w/ a few hoochies that's alright, but women have a different way of handling it. Take time to heal before you move on, but don't go on too long. I would probably wait until I know officially that we will never get back together, and that's a decision for you to make!
2007-09-06 11:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a clergyman in spite of everything, so if he does carry out his duties like he could, i don't think that he could reason any issues or make any sexual advances on the two of you. in case you the two nonetheless sense uncomfortable, possibly you would be able to desire to assert to him which you may hate if word have been given around that he exchange into staying with 2 single women, and which you may prefer to pay for him to stay at a hotel so as that word would not get around.
2016-11-13 20:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure and you are moving out for fun. i wouldn't look back and keep quite a distance from him hes trying to hurt you and hes doing a good job of it. you need to get over him and find a new life and get on with it good luck
2007-09-05 15:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to not care what you think so if I were in that situation, I'd move on.
Get on with my life, live my life for a second chance, and Live it UP !!
2007-09-05 17:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by simpleminded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON dump this guy get as much out of him as you can an find a good man
2007-09-04 05:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by als been a dad 3 times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋