Hey so i just had a baby 1 month ago tomorrow, and I feel that I am different. I feel like I hate myself, I fight with my husband for NO reason and my mom and others around me. I just yell and go kinda like crazy and just push to fight. I don't even eat anymore really... I can't get myself to eat... I just feel so low and when I fight with my husband I feel like I hate myself and I don't deserve to be with him or the baby. I am so scared that I'm going to be bad mom now... I have just changed so much in a month, and I see it... I have only been like this for two weeks now.. i'm embarassed to tell my doctor how i feel... is this normal?! please help me,before i lose my family...
2007-08-30 15:22:26 · 20 answers · asked by Just Another One 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Also my body feels like its so wore out like I have been doing something... I dont even leave my house anymore... I just want to sleep thats all
2007-08-30 15:27:31 · update #1
One more thing, I also don't feel like I have umm I dont' know how to say this but I dont feel that I have expression anymore or emotions.. I'm just upset I feel that I can't be happy, but I have no reason to be upset--- is there meds for this?!
2007-08-30 15:28:25 · update #2
I can completely relate and before I go any further I must say, PLEASE CALL YOUR DOCTOR ASAP!!! I felt that way from about 6-7 months pregnant until 4 months post partum (when I FINALLY called my doctor). I actually told my husband to leave me b/c he deserved someone better. I felt like I wasn't even my son's mother. I felt like any minute his "real" mom would be walking in to pick him up. It was AWFUL! My husband thought I wanted to put my son up for adoption (which I didn't, it was just that bad).
It is not your fault and if you ignore it, it will only get worse. This is caused by a hormonal imbalance. My doctor prescribed Lexapro for me. It worked wonders...OVERNIGHT! My doctor (who is male btw) was very very sensitive and confidential. I cried through the ENTIRE phone conversation (he didn't even make me come in), just left samples in the front for me. When he gave me samples, HE packaged them in a paper bag so no one (even office staff/nurses/etc) knew what I was getting. He wasn't judgmental or anything. He just said he wished I wouldn't have waited so long.
I put off calling him for so long, b/c I was affraid he would think less of me or embarrass me by informing the rest of the staff or that I'd be marked like the scarlet letter or something. I am so glad I called. It really brought my family back the way it was predelivery.
I really hope you take my advise and just call. Good luck! Feel free to e-mail me if you wish.
Nicki
2007-08-30 15:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I experienced similar things when I had my first baby. I would cry for no reason, cry when my daughter cried, I felt like I had hurt her, I didn't want to be anywhere near my husband, etc.
My sister wasn't as lucky as I was though. She would pass her baby off to whomever was standing nearby (usually a family member or friend) and would leave for hours at a time, she didn't like or care for her daughter, yelled at her husband, she stopped eating, cooking, cleaning and in general living at all. Yes, she is still alive.
She had a very sevier case of postpartum depression. Once she had talked with her doctor about how she was feeling (NO, he didn't judge her or think ill of her) he put her on medication that helped her A LOT, she began living again, took an interest in her daughter and in her husband. She was eventually able to discontinue taking her medication.
When she got pregnant again, she was more prepared for how she would feel after pregnancy. Because of the severity of her postpartum depression with her first child, her doctor put her on a mild dose of anti-depressants in the month before she gave birth and she hasn't had a single bout of depression with her second baby.
2007-08-30 22:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by sl_island 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please see your doctor. What you are feeling is normal but you need a doctore to help determine to what extent it is. As others have said it can be just a case of the baby blue or it can be post partum depression. I went through similar stuff with my oldest daughter and I never went in and it took me like 6 months to feel my normal self again. Because of that my daughter bonded with just about everyone but me first. I wish someone had told me to go in and see my doctor. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
2007-08-31 00:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by momto2kidsownedby3cats 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have classic signs of post partum depression (PPD) and it is OK. You recognize that there is a problem, and now you need to get help to fix it. A new baby brings many new feelings, and emotions. All of them normal. And it is very overwhlming. Add those raging hormones and its a wonder we ever get through those first few months sometimes. Please don't be embarrassed to talk to your doctor. That is what they are there for. They will help you. Your family needs you, and you need to do what is best for you, so that you can be the best you can for them too. Please take care of yourself and call your doctor first thing. Tell your husband and family to bear with you. You will make it throught his difficult time. Take care!
2007-08-30 22:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kristine M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have post-partum depression!! You need to get help as soon as possible. I was scared that I would be a bad mom too. My baby cried all of the time and I cried too. Tell your doctor and if he doesn't understand go to a woman doctor - she will understand!! Get your family to help you with meals and with the baby. This is not going to last forever. You are just very, very tired and have post-partum too. You are going to be alright! Take care. In my prayers.
2007-08-30 22:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by johannabear49 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your doctor how you have been feeling. I think you might have postpartum depression which is somewhat common. It is just a little more severe case of "baby blues". Don't feel embarassed, when you are talking to your doc, you are just getting the help and advice you need to keep your family together and stable. Good luck I hope you feel better soon!
2007-08-30 22:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might have post partum blues or post partum depression - - either one is definitely is something to talk to your doctor about--soon. You don't have to be miserable. And then to add guilt to your misery is not helping you or your family. Do yourself a favor and call your doctor. You are not crazy, Mother Nature does some mean tricks sometimes, that's all. As far as it being normal, this is very common, very. Call your doctor soon.
2007-08-30 22:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by catcha22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need more sleep and feel like you have no time to yourself. having a baby is a lot of work and does change your body. you are probably having a case of postpardum depression and should go through a little embarrassment and go see your doctor. they probably deal with it all the time. get some help so you can enjoy your husband and baby! good luck.
2007-08-30 22:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could have some form of baby blues or post partum depression. I would talk to your doctor. Do not feel embarrassed. This happens to many many women. Also your hormones can take awhile to get to normal.
2007-08-30 22:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal. it doesn't happen to everyone but it is normal. You need to tell your doctor what is going on. It sounds like post-partum depression. It is due to an imbalance of your hormones. It is really important that you tell your doctor as soon as possible so that he/she can get you the help that you need. good luck and congratulations on the baby!
2007-08-30 22:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋