Men. I am constantly reading about men in love with "the other woman" but are too afraid to leave because they might lose everything. If that's true, why are things more important than being with someone you truly love? Why can't you get more "things?"
2007-08-30 14:00:40 · 11 answers · asked by Lady J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, Jeadyoz it's the first time. Thanks for the laugh. I'm getting it.
2007-08-30 14:44:07 · update #1
Whew, JoeMaintenance you ran that down good . HaHa. I'm getting it.
2007-08-30 14:45:41 · update #2
People. This is not about me. It's just a question. Okay? Geeze. Relax and just answer the question. Don't blow it up to something it's not.
2007-08-30 14:51:03 · update #3
What Dragonfly? I'm having an affair and he doesn't love me. WOW!! Thanks for telling me. Do I love him? hahaha!
2007-08-30 14:54:34 · update #4
They want both worlds. They think they love their wife, although technically how can you love someone when you cheat on them? Some men capable of cheating do feel, however, as though they "love" their wife (I would translate "love" to need) and they also want the excitement they've lost in their marriage. They love their mistress in a much different way. The mistress doesn't clean house, pay bills, diaper screaming babies; she's a fantasy. If he leaves his wife for her, the great majority of those relationships fail because a man like that doesn't know how to treat a woman.
The reason he doesn't leave is more about not wanting to leave his kids who he now sees any time he wants or he is adhering to what he considers to be religious principles (rather ironic, no?). It's rarely about the "things" you mention (money) and more often the fact he wants a stable, reliable marriage with someone who will be his friend/wife (and personal maid and mother to his children) and also have someone (or more than one!) on the side for the excitement he feels he's lacking.
It sounds like yours is a rhetorical question. If it's not, though, and your husband cheats, then IMHO leave him immediately. Not even worth counseling, especially if he cheats and takes loving time away from you and any children you may have.
2007-08-30 14:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men aren't "in love" with "the other woman." They're just infactuated. Infactuation feels MUCH stronger than true love. I'm not just saying that. It physically feels better than true love. The tradeoff is that it wears off rather quickly, and can sometimes turn into a dangerous obsession. The truth is, the only reason men think they're "in love" with the other woman is because they dont' have a relationship with them. They don't know what it's like to wake up with them in the morning when they're not looking (or smelling) their best, or how things would play out in the event of a disagreement, or anything else relationships have to offer BESIDES sex and romance. The only thing men(and women) think of when fantasizing about someone else is the sex and romance. The other person always looks great, always understanding, always in the mood for romance, the whole nine. Relationships like this don't exist which makes them even more attractive to individuals
So again, the short answer is no.
2007-08-30 21:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must not understand all the money put into a house cars and all kinds of other stuff that you would lose and take another 15- 20 years to get again essecially when paying a fortune in child suport. Imagine working all wek to make 800 bucks minus 300 in taxes then another 160 in suport. Are you getting the picture?
2007-08-30 21:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me strength , truely love? girl dont you get it yet ? affairs are about lust , sex and giving them back what they feel they lost after how ever many years with the woman they promised to love and be devoted to .
Love has NOTHING to do with it , any man capable of cheating on his partner doesnt even know what love means , they are children in an adult's body they can not understand the commitment they made to their spouse when they said I DO.This goes for women who cheat to.
This isnt the 1st time you've asked this is it? am sure I've seen you ask before.My guess is your looking for something but what and why is beyond me.
2007-08-30 21:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something if you think this man is going to leave his wife for you, you are totally blind. He is telling you he is in love with you because it is convenient for him. He wants to have a sexual relationship with you. Let me tell you humans go for the things that we can not have for the adventure and the excitement and that is you for him he wants to feel that. He is infatuated with you, he thinks he is in love with you but if he really loves you he will leave everything for you. Obviously he has not done it yet therefore what this guy feels for you is not love is just an attraction that's all.
2007-08-30 21:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just go from one relationship to another like it is easy as a piece of cake so those that try to hang in there need to be congratulated.
2007-08-30 21:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most find that the grass is no greener, in a couple of years they will be on to the next...
2007-08-30 21:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by prop4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never had another woman. Spouses who cheat don't have any idea the hurt they cause. Pretty selfish behavior.
2007-08-30 21:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men like you describe suffer from the disease of selfishness.
2007-08-30 21:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you said for men bu everything can mean your kids too
woops this is his wife didn;t check to see who was logged in
2007-08-30 21:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Seth 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋