How do you tell other people that something is wrong with you ?

Question

I might have a problem. Yep, I know people keep asking this, as if we on Yahoo would know. OK, I wonder myself, and as yet there is no medical verdict, but I will have to deal with it, and it will mean surgery, and I am scared. There are so many things I don't know about my condition. It's like a bad dream.

My question is, how do you all believe it yourselves, and then decide who to tell, and when? Do you tell a selfish friend, and hope that they have seen it all before? Do you run it by the most intolerant first? Or do you practise on a kind person?

When every case is different, how do you listen to all those
advisors who have no business knowing what your symptoms are? (How do you tell them to butt out? How does anyone?)

If you need to tell another person who is not so close, how do you raise the subject? I do know two people who will be insulted that I didn't confide in them first. But I really don't need them making me into a project. Who do I tell first?

Great answers, thank you all.

A sex-change, that's hilarious, thank you for the laugh! That would be elective surgery by someone who chose to be hospitalised, yes? Brave of them.

Answer 1

Just wait until you are certain and then just tell those people that need to know. For those who are not friends, just say I won't be at work for so and so. I'm having some surgery and should miss xxx work. Don't go into detail. Your friends just start talking and tell them. You need to talk about it to someone. Selfish friends are another story. Just give her the short story or don't even bother. You aren't obligated to tell anyone except work, and if they ask why you didn't tell them-just brush it off with well, I wanted to see how it would turn out before I mentioned it. What are they going to say anyway and if you know they are selfish, who cares what they say? You know it will be selfish. At least you know what to expect from her. Good luck with all of it. . .

Answer 2

Have you been to a doctor? Would a doctor really perform surgery without even knowing what's wrong with you? Look it up on one of the medical websites. Why would someone be intolerant of someone's medical problem? Is your illness so weird that you can't tell anyone? Does it say something about you? Did you cause it? Why do you need to tell anyone. If someone has to know you're having surgery, just say something without giving too many details. If you want to tell someone, just tell your closest friends or someone you can really trust. Are you sure everyone would give you advice, especially if you've seen a doctor. If you have seen one, just tell them what the doctor said. Hopefully, they'll be able to admit that a doctor knows more than they do. Good luck.

Answer 3

As some distance as I had been advised they aren't meant to mention how correct the intercourse of the youngster is as this may end up in a sanatorium or medical professional being sued. No technician is meant to mention one hundred% that it is a baby they're best meant to mention 50% threat because the umbilical wire or whatever else might not be giving a transparent photograph at the intercourse of the youngster. I did not desire to grasp the intercourse as I simply desired it to be healthful and completely satisfied whether or not it was once a baby.

Answer 4

You tell whoever you feel comfortable with telling first. The person you can confide in the most. The person who will understand why you didn't tell them first, or before.

Answer 5

You will know whom to tell when the time is right..... my advice is not to tell any one ............. its your personal business.......... Kinda sounds like you want a sex change operation or something...... in that case be sure not to tell any one........ unless you want some overwhelming attention or something.

Answer 6

Your not only physically ill, you're also neurotic.