hes been flirting with other women on my space. im leaveing tomorrow bc he deploys soon. he said that his acct. got hacked an he wasnt talking to them but i found a map quest to one of the girls city on our comp history. what should i do?
2007-08-30 12:45:25 · 4 answers · asked by graysmoma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, but flirting IS cheating, or at the very least, it's a sign that worse may be to come. If his account had been hacked into, then did he come to you to tell you about it, or did he only mention it after you discovered the flirting? Think about it - if you had discovered that someone had hacked into your account, it would be a topic of conversation, wouldn't it? Something you would have shared with him, just as a matter of course. The fact that you found the map, should be a big red flag - he is not telling you the truth.
My husband cheated on me and at times, the evidence was overwhelming, but he still fed me the biggest bull**** stories imaginable. Then he even managed to convince me that I was the villain, for not believing him!!! Even when the affair was out in the open, he still continued to deny things which again, were ridiculously obvious. The fact is that cheaters tell lies to cover their betrayal and you have to be ever vigilant once you've discovered that you are being lied to. And though you might desperately want to believe your husband, it's extremely likely that your gut instincts are right. Remember, those with nothing to hide, hide nothing.
Still, if he's chatting to random girls on the internet, it's probably not too late to straighten things out befor they get any further. You need to really talk to this man of yours, without being too confrontational. Tell him how you really feel about him. Re-affirm the boundaries within your marriage - what's acceptable and what's not and make it clear to him what would be a 'deal breaker' for you. Men I think, can be very selfish and perhaps if he's being deployed, he thinks it's his "right" to mess around a bit. You need to tell him it's not.Your marriage is at risk, if he is behaving this way.
Good Luck.
P.S. My husband and I are still together and working on picking up the pieces. The worst part was the lies. So get those lies out of your life!!
2007-08-30 14:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by mayflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the glove compartment of the car for condoms.
The Rat
2007-08-30 14:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting on MySpace (or anywhere) is only the first step.
Begin making your contingency plans now for when things deteriorate.
2007-08-30 12:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer
2007-08-30 12:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋