2007-08-30 12:41:43 · 31 answers · asked by tashcake 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Was he a virgin too? If not then he is setting a double standard. Does not sound like a gentleman to me and you should think about moving on and accepting the mistake.
Want to shut him up....tell him he was not big enough to break your hymen and thats why you did not bleed.
2007-08-30 12:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Janet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. As I'm sure you know, some women don't bleed much and others don't bleed at all! There are many factors that come into play here, the hymen being the most significant one, but it's a good thing if you didn't bleed a lot. Does he get off on hurting you?
Sounds like you guys have trust issues. Sounds like he only wanted you because you're a virgin. It also seems that he needs to do a lot of reading up on the hymen and virginity and see that not all virgins bleed.
2007-08-30 20:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your bf why doesn't he believe you? If he doesn't trust you on what you say than that is not a good relationship.
Many women don't bleed at all the first time. Many women have had their hymen torn and stretched and worn way before they had sex from day to day life and physical activity. This is totally normal. And bleeding a lot the the first time is actually not common. And some women never had a hymen.
If your bf doesn't know this he should learn. And if he said that you lied about being a virgin than he is a jerk. Period.
2007-08-30 19:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The lack of blood may have meant that you broke your hymen by other means - an accidental fall, an active lifestyle, horseback riding, etc, could all contribute to a sudden or gradual tearing of the hymen well before intercourse takes place. Or you may simply not be the type who bleeds much.
Tell your boyfriend that you were a virgin, and he was your first time, and if he doesn't believe you, then it's gonna be the LAST time he touches you, because you don't want to date someone who thinks you're a liar.
2007-08-30 19:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I decided to have sex the first time, and I bled VERY little...It was just right after, I spotted a little bit but went to the bathroom to clean up and that was the end of that.
Everyone is different, I know girls that bled a lot and a few that didnt at all.
Tell your boyfriend to get off your back
2007-08-30 19:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi:
Not everybody bleeds the first time they have sex, as a matter of fact only 3 of every 10 woman bleed. And normaly a woman shouldn't bleed when her hymen gets broken. When natural lubrication is enough and the man is carefull enough (as it should be) there's no reason to bleed.
2007-08-30 19:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by lucycanomed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a girl loses her virginity she bleeds because the hymen in front of the vagina tears... sometimes when the hymen tears it doesn't bleed... you might also not bleed if the hymen doesnt tear... which can happen... i have a friend who has had sex numerous times and has never bled... when she went to the doctor and asked about it... the doctor said she hasn't bled because her hymen hasnt torn.... it may get stretched or pushed to the side but not torn... so my friend is "medically" still a virgin.... you may explain this to your boyfriend, maybe he'll believe you if you have some science backing you up. :)
2007-08-30 19:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by DRzCuteAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain this to him- many times the hymen (the flap of skin which may break and bleed during your first time) is already broken because of tampon use or exercise like horse-back riding or bike riding. Also, it doesn't always break when you have sex and if it does, it doesn't always bleed in a way that you would notice. If he doesn't believe you, he is probably too young to be having sex.
2007-08-30 19:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by biggiddyblam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dump him. if he doesnt believe u then he's not worth being with. and it maybe be more dificult to break up with him becuz u shared that life changing experience of losing your virginity.
and as for u not bleeding u probably already kno but u probably just already broke ur hymen riding on a horse or usin a tampon or sumthin so im sure ur not wrryd about the no bleedin part but if u are u shuldnt be
2007-08-30 19:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~TylML~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with the kind of guy that questions that sort of thing. Many women don't bleed a lot due to the fact that their hymen ("cherry") can be broken by tampons or exercise or whatever. Maybe his penis just isn't very big. Try telling him that. Blood or no blood, always wear a condom.
2007-08-30 19:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Momof2grrls 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋