Why do women judge harshly other women who choose to date casually?

Question

We all know the double standard : Man dates casually, he's a stud and playing the field, Woman dates casually "stop the masses!" we have a slut in town.
While I understand why it would be to men's advantage to continue to perpetuate this archaic belief, I don't understand why women fall for it too.
They are the harshest and cruelest critics when it comes to other women playing around as well. Yet, they don't share the same outrage when it comes to men.
What gives?

Answer 1

Historically, men have been allowed to do whatever they want without question. Yet, women are expected to hold the line. The women who get angry at so-called "loose" women seem to think that if one person of the gender let's the side down, that reflects badly on all other women...and that it diminishes their power to make the guys "respect" them. Silly, I know.

Plus some people like to pick a scapegoat. I can remember years ago when I was in the service, nearly every woman in my unit was dating "casually" yet only one of them was singled out as the "tramp." Probably out of jealousy. I never understood that...

Answer 2

I think that your over thinking the issue just a bit. In today's world with the risks out there, personally I believe that all who are promiscuous are basically thought of the same way. However not always said out lowed.
In answer to the last part of your question about the cruelest critics, I would have to guess that in some fashion in general a woman may interpret another woman like this as a threat. Or maybe jealousy plays a role as well in some cases. As far as double standards, there are ALLOT of double standards out there between both men and women and it's not always in one direction.

Answer 3

I agree with you. Our society is very “mucho macho” meaning the man is always higher than the woman.

I think is stupid. If a girl wants to go and date many people, and have sex with all of them, so what? I think is cool. We all should try new and different things, and we all should get to know more than one person before you decide to start a long relation than can lead to matrimony and a family.

At least most countries are starting to consider women at the same level. Still, most Muslim countries still see women as something lower and good only to make babies and have a good time. Is disgusting. We both are equal, and we both play an equal important role in a family.

I never think less of a girl who has slept with a bunch of guys. I actually think is cool and good.

Wish more people would think like us.

Answer 4

Why do you ASSume you know what every woman thinks? I don't judge a woman who chooses to date casually harshly...I don't think women should be bed hopping but I date casually, I enjoy spending a nice evening with a few men I've known for a long time. I don't want a realtionship, neither do they, one guy and I enjoy camping, another guy and I enjoy the theatre, I enjoy going to the Sierras and San Francisco with another guy. I am not sexually involved with any of them. I don't beleive men should bed hop either. That's only looking for an STD, HIV or HPV and to me that's just plain stupid.

Answer 5

Jealousy. Because they can't or are to scared to do it. Good for you if that works for you. I envy you too. I rely to much on the security of one person but have always wished I could date casually and that be the end of it.

Answer 6

No one judged me harshly when I was dating; but then all my friends are liberals and agnostics. Sounds to me like you hang out with the wrong women.

Answer 7

Some women operate under "zero-sum thinking". If you are benefitting from something--even if they only *think* you are benefitting--then they are not benefitting. Your "win" is therefore their "loss".

Some men think that way, too.