I'm looking for tips to start over, and generally feel like I fit in again. Job and money isn't a problem.
2007-08-30 12:18:31 · 20 answers · asked by wbp123_06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your life is just beginning. You are very lucky because you now have an edge other 30 years olds do not have - experience. Most guys your age are just finished paying their student loans and are looking to go from bachelor to husband. You've been there, done that. Now you know what you don't want in a relationship and the things that can destroy a marriage, take your new found knowledge and start dating again. Your friends are young, encourage them to invite singles to get togethers, Take up a hobby you really enjoy and meet new people that way. Hang out with co-workers and meet their single friends. But most importantly, enjoy yourself! Don't be in a rush to settle down with someone. Have fun and stay available for a while. Get reacquainted with yourself, explore who you are and find the person who matches your lifestyle perfectly. When you find her, you will know. Just don't think she is the first one who smiles at you. Enjoy the single life! Good luck.
2007-08-30 12:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by midsummer_diva333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already been married, so chicks know you are desirable. You've already got a steady job and income, so chicks know you aren't a loser. You are at the prime of your life, physically and mentally. And as long as you don't have any baggage like kids, you're safe and desirable by most women. If you do have kids, good luck. Your best bet is to find a single mother or a divorcee like yourself.
If I were you, I'd start banging as many chicks as I could until I got bored with that. Then, once you've got your A-game and confidence back to where it should be, you can single out chicks that you may want to build a relationship with.
You're a lucky man, my friend! The world is yours for the taking!
2007-08-30 19:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by SmokeyD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't have kids, go and have fun. Date again and see how it feels to live the single and carefree life again!
If you have kids, be more cautious about who you bring around the house and choose your next mate carefully.
Good luck, if job and money isn't a problem (the wife didn't take half uh?) you're starting well.
But don't rush things, take your time. You have to find out what went wrong the first time around so as not to repeat the same mistakes.
2007-08-30 19:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet man ... I am 48 going through divorce after 25 years .... now what .... get back into life. Step in with both feet, enjoy new and old friends alike without the stress of the failing relationship. You feel like you fit in ... because you do .... you are starting to live and breathe in the fashion which is most comfortable to you ... not worrying about walking on egg shells to avoid yet one more argument.
Enjoy your new lease on life baby ... no tips needed .. you are doing just what you need to .... get out there and enjoy !!!
2007-08-30 19:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by girlielikesfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep busy! Spend time with you friends. Get a hobby. I was with some one ten year also though i am only 26. We are now getting a divorce. It will be hard but it does get better. My kids and friends and family and keeping busy are what have helped me. Do no rush into anything else i think that is the hardest part is being lonely.
2007-08-30 19:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by SiberianHusky_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just 30 years old? Dude, you already "fit in." All that you need do now is get out and mingle. It's not as hard as some would expect you to believe. All that you have to do is get in the car, drive until you see somewhere that you would like to be... Then stop and get out of the car! It's really as simple as that. One piece of advice from me is that if you want to keep your money and job... steer clear of much bar hopping. Good luck to you!
2007-08-30 19:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember life goes on. Take some time out with the guys and have some fun.
Do things you wish you could have done earlier on. Pace yourself and do not rush into relationships until you are ready. Keep an open mind, positive attitude and remember many have gone through this before you and many will go through this after you. Have faith and allow God to direct you and you will be fine.
2007-08-30 22:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly young enough, gainfully employed with enough money to not worry about what will happen next. Get out there and join a club, take a class, mingle and before you know it you'll be back in the swing. If you have children, though, make them your priority and not your love life. Good luck.
2007-08-30 19:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need o get back in the game, meaning create opportunities to meet available women. try to go places (not clubs, bars, etc) that have something to do, and people to meet. in other words, if you like art, you'll never find someone at an art museum, but you may at an art class. another example, in some whole foods markets, they have singles nights where only singles can shop and mingle (and they provide appetizers etc).
if you have money, get to a quality beauty-care place. let them fix you up. you probably haven't taken a hard look in the mirror lately if you've been married.
2007-08-30 19:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, get on with living. Take your time and start you life again. Make some friends and have some fun. Best wishes.
2007-08-30 19:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋